Jealous of T

I'll speculate based on others who appear to be put together.

1. Financial. She is affluent but has bad saving or shopping or spending or planning habits, has debt. Worries of old age not putting aside enough for old age (I have a very nice income but am so broke that have to work two jobs all due to my bad decision making)

2. Marital or family or relationship difficulties. Look ok in public but in reality they argue a lot, he isn't affectionate, bad sex life, perhaps infidelity, lack of romance, he is mean to her or treats kids bad or has porn addiction, he is abusive but hides it well in public. Mean in laws.

3. Addictions either hers or Family members that are not apparent to others: drug, alcohol, pain killers, hoarding, porn, shopping, sex you name it

4. Health. Illnesses hers or family

5. Kids. School problems or health or behavior problems. Of she wished she never had kids or her husband is a bad father

6. Parents. They are overly critical mean selfish. Abusive unavailable. Or Siblings don't connect to her don't spend time with her are selfish, refuse to help with elderly parents, sister in law is evil and causes problems

Etc ect etc etc etc

I can keep going.....





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My husband is a therapist. He does not have an easy life. He can also be very screwed up at times. His clients think he is perfect. Hahaha.

My therapist is not perfect. She does not pretend to be. She has a crazy, very difficult life. I would not want her life, its too hard. I have seen her at her worst several times. My t is very real with me. I have seen her very very angry, sad, etc. We have talked about ways she deals with it. Sometimes she doesnt handle things very well. Sometimes she does.

The only thing that i sometimes get jealous of is that her parents are really wonderful to her (usually) and they are just kind, sweet people. I wish i had a family that was nice to me like they are nice to her.

My t has told me before that the people in this field are in it because they are messed up themselves. My t is a gorgeous, intelligent, all around "perfect" woman. She has admitted to me that she battles depression due to childhood trauma. She is insecure as heck. Her 34 year old son just received his 4th dui. I could list a few more but you get the picture. I think the people that come off as being "perfect" are the ones working hardest to hide their struggles.

I haven't seen T for a few months now, but sometimes I still feel jealous of her.

I can't imagine T on the toilet.

Toilet, I'm sorry you're still jealous of T, and relieved you can't imagine her on the loo. I couldn't either (my T, not yours obvs).

I hope that as time passes you can hold the good memories and the difficult ones will sail away...

I would like to imagine her on the toilet, as well as in other situations.

Your T only has to be presentable for 50 minutes. If she had to keep it up all day the illusion would be broken

I am jealous of T again. I googled her and she is a volunteer on the board at a school, probably the school her child goes to. Then I start thinking, why aren't I on boards? Why does she want to be on a board? And so forth.

I can relate. My T holds an important volunteer position in my nation's psychology society, and has chaired panels for her grad school...

My therapist tells me far more about her life then she should but it allows me to see her flaws. I now know she gets anxious is social situations, she gets angry at her children at times, has a father who is controlling etc. list goes on but I am able to see her life is far from perfect. This is the same with your therapist. No ones life is perfect.

There is a great quote I try to live by. "happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people". When I find myself doing that I remind myself that there are people out there comparing themselves to me, wishing their life could be better.