[coldnovemberrain]

I am having trouble talking in my sessions...my T is great..very insightful.
He has asked me repeatedly , what he can do to make this easier for me...

and i have no idea what kinda things i can say...that will help.
problem is with me..my inability to think on the spot and speak up .

how can my T help me with this..?
what can i ask for?

what will help is..if i didnt have to sit right in front of him...but there is no place to HIDE...small room...seating all face him ..all sofas. so nothing can be done there.

I once asked a counsellor if they could turn their back to me because I was too anxious with them looking at me.

Maybe you can bring up the seating too? In my asian country, therapist and client sit at an angle to each other and not squarely face to face.

I've also hidden my face behind paper when trying to talk about embarrassing health stuff to my pdoc.

[justdesserts]

Sometimes I put a blanket over my face when I talk to my therapist when I have hard things to say.

That's a kind of silly idea, I realize. Have you tried writing down what you want to talk about before your appointments? That has helped me, too, when I haven't been sure where to go. Some people find it helpful to write their therapists notes to help start talking about things. I hope you're able to find a way to make therapy work for you.

[ThisWayOut]

I write if there's anything I need to say. I've also taken in fidget toys (like a squishy toy, tangle, something to fiddle with, something to color...) if I need a slight distraction to be able to talk more freely.
I hide behind my hair if I get too nervous, but that would necessitate hair that is long enough to hide behind.

What about picking some easier subjects to talk about like describing a place you have visited or a book you have read? I have thought about suggesting to my T that we talked about books and films as I was having trouble being seen by her. I never made the suggestion, but I have talked to her about films. I used that as a way to talk about my feelings by talking about the bits that I felt emotional about.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

There can be a barrier indeed. I tend to review the week(s) leading up to the session and talk about what went well and what did not and we take it from there.