Couch 97: Prime Pyramids

Well, apparently I am not supposed to be cleaning today. First my vacuum stops working, and now the swiffer mop-thingy won't spray the stuff like it's supposed to. I deem my house as clean as it's going to get for the time being.

eta: I'm not going to worry about the vacuum cleaner. The house we're moving to soon has no carpet (yay) so I won't be needing one anymore!

Somebody mentioned "Wayward Pines" the other day and I'd never heard of it. There's a marathon on FXM right now I'm watching, how odd it is.... but I can't seem to stop watching either... it is strangely compelling....

Got my PC t-shirt in the mail today! the 20th anniversary thing. Was surprised to find a brain-shaped stress ball and 2 pens in the package too. Cool!

Well I have spammed the couch enough for the day I guess...

Is the brain the coolest thing ever or what??!

totally! i've been squeezing it since I took it outta the package! it will be fun to have at work.

Does anyone else on here apologize way too much? I know I drive my husband crazy with it. We were talking about it tonight because the other day I was apologizing over something stupid (missing a turn), and he was like "Stop apologizing!" Which is a big trigger to me for some reason. So I was telling him it bothered me that he said that. And that I wished he could just say "It's OK" or "Don't worry about it" or "You're good," anything like that. But he thinks I just need to apologize less. Our marriage counselor has said it's me looking for reassurance. So, like, I don't get why my husband can't just say, "It's OK" and give me that reassurance. But he (husband) wants me to not be looking for the reassurance and not apologizing. It's like an endless loop or something...

Yeah. I would apologize to furniture for bumping into it. just tell your h you are working on it and its gonna take years of t to fix it. That should at least shut him up.

Eta - i would make an excellent mc wouldnt i?!.

I've apologized to furniture, too...

You'd have a unique style as a marriage counselor.

I usually swear at furniture if I bump into it... I do say 'sorry' a lot, but I use it instead of 'excuse me'. Cultural thing...

I am not one to usually be reassuring if someone over apologizes - it often seems to me that it does not really reassure and that I will be asked to give more and more and more reassurance - and I don't want to be in the position where I am expected to do so.

LOL! When someone asks how to make a "supportive" post, this will make a great example!!

Ooo. Can't wait to get mine...especially the brain-shaped stress ball.

Yeah... gotta watch it in sequence. Strangely compelling is a perfect description! It's got so many psychological dynamics that overlap in the most 'compelling' of ways!

Hello couch.

I'm home from a sad and stressful night, had to have my MIL admitted to the ER, spent the evening there. If all goes well, she goes home tomorrow.

I told my therapist via a short email. I'm not sure if I should have, because she has a relative in the hospital too, even worse. She told me prior to this happening that she was ok and our regular Monday session was on, but.. I hope I have not overimposed to let her know. I didn't go into detail.

look forward to getting my t-shirt! A brain shaped squeeze ball would be awesome! Sometimes when I send my T an Email and refer to it later, I say it was just a "brain dump." I guess now I could have a brain squeeze too! LOL

hello couch-
been away for a few days--I caught something nasty but I'm not sure what. Had a hard time keeping hydrated and swallowing was hard. Bad earache etc. Hope it's not strep because I have to go back to work on Mon. Never made it to the drs because this is the first time in days that I feel halfway human.

I wouldn't want the T-shirt (which is fortunate, since they don't ship them outside North America) but the brain ball sounds neat. I should maybe look for one of those - it must be possible to buy them online somewhere.

[edited to add: forget the brain! I found eyeball stess balls - now those are cool!]

Think geek has some pretty cool stress balls. My T's office has happy face squeeze balls. Except I would want to smash the faces at the times I need to squeeze something.

My T's office has stress balls with his practice name and contact info. They gave them out to every patient for awhile. My kids for a hold of it, and started throwing it all over the house.. That ball caused me more stress than relieved it!

You reason just like my T. He never offers reassurance, for the same reason. (Not just with apologies - any kind of reassurance.)

My husband is an over-apologizer. It's a bit crazy-making actually. And it does seem about needing reassurance. It's just not terribly genuine though when you are apologizing for things that don't need apologies, things that aren't bothering anyone, things that aren't distressing to anyone and therefore don't need apologies. Even our sons call him on it. It's kind of like "Stop it! Have some confidence in yourself already. We can't give you that confidence; it's going to have to come from within." No amount of reassurance is going to fix that confidence issue. It's a bit like trying to fill up a gas tank with a hole in the bottom of it. It will start to fill up, but it eventually leaks out and needs constant refilling.

Wow, I'm a walking combination of the negative sides of at least three couch regulars' SOs/ex-SOs. I have to really start working on my self-reliance skills.

Everyone tells me I apologize way too much. My t is always telling me to stop apologizing, hubby always does, my son does, my coworkers... sometimes yes I am probably looking for reassurance too. But sometimes, and probably more of the time, I am sorry because I genuinely feel bad for the other person whatever it is they have just said to me. I'm not saying "I'm sorry" because I think I did something wrong, but because I truly feel bad that they feel bad. I guess I need to find a different way to say that. Does "I'm sorry" have no other meaning than "I apologize"? To me, I guess "I'm sorry" means "I feel sorrow" sometimes, not only "I apologize". Language experts out there, please weigh in!

although, my over-apologizing means I never lose points at work in our Quality scores in that area - if we don't apologize at least once, we lose 2 points. I apologize so much they should GIVE me points. heh heh

"The numbers 97, 907, 9007, 90007 and 900007 are happy primes." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happy_number#Happy_primes

Do we want happiness around here? Is that allowed?