[Walk_Free]

I have disconnected from my therapist and people all together. I've been feeling needy and wanting to call my therapist to hear her voice but I don't because the truth is she can't change how I am feeling.

She can't be what I needed all those years ago and was never given.

I was giving her to much power and now I am taking it back, to be blunt she is no different than me or anyone else, she struggles and has issues too. I've learned that no matter who it is, sometime or another I will need them and they can't be available emotionally so my abandonment issues will kick in high gear. I've come to the conclusion it's better for me to accept that people can't be or give me what I need.

I don't interact with people anymore, I haven't in a long time. (except hubby) and hubby asked me last night if I got lonely and I told him no because I don't put much stock into people. I terminated therapy today.

I wish everyone here well and hope that some day you don't give your therapist so much power. Bree

[Fuzzybear]

Isolation and disconnection = safety from abandonment, hurt, and needing....

but..... with isolation and disconnection, you'll never know if you could have found deep connection with your T and eventually with others.

Its true. people can't be everything you need, BUT they can be some of what you need. Is there a way you can let you T give you what she can and accept that? Many hugs and support.
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[lauren_helene]

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I have disconnected from my therapist and people all together.

I wish everyone here well and hope that some day you don't give your therapist so much power. Bree

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Hi Bree, I feel like this too. Like today for example...guess that is why I'm angry today. I hope you check back in. Hang in there

[MissCharlotte]

((Bree))

It sounds like you are hurting.

I have recently taken a huge step in the opposite direction and have decided to try to give my T a chance in meeting my needs. It is my sincere hope that through this experience I will grow and learn to trust other people more so that my life can be enriched.

I know that at some point, in the not too distant future, he will disappoint me, or take a vacation, or something will happen so that my needs will not be met. This is the inevitable byproduct of any relationship. However, as the old saying goes, "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

I know, corny, but true.

I hope you will give people a chance and not punish yourself by isolating yourself. You deserve the rich rewards that inerpersonal relationships can bring.

Take care.

I think you are feeling close to her and you like it but it scares you.



I understand

I hope you will reconsider going back. This is the time when it's important to hang in. I have a deal with myself that is similar: when I feel the most like quitting, I will stop and recognize that it's the time I need it the most.

I'm so sorry you're hurting and it's scary. ((( hugs )))

But it has potential for being better. Better than lonely and sad and scary.


ECHOES