When do you contact your t outside session?

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 13, 2015, 11:12 PM

In what circumstance would you contact t outside of session? How bad do you let yourself get before you make contact? What signs tell you that contacting t is the right option?

LonesomeTonight · Jul 13, 2015, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers

In what circumstance would you contact t outside of session? How bad do you let yourself get before you make contact? What signs tell you that contacting t is the right option?

I use e-mail if it's nothing urgent, more of an FYI or here's some insight I had. I save voicemails for times when I really need to talk. For that, it's when I'm really upset, like if I keep crying about something that happened or just feel really awful and can't seem to make myself feel better. Then I'll leave a rambling, weepy voicemail and ask her to call (same with marriage counselor). I'd say I've done this maybe 6 times in the past 6 months or so, which is much more frequently than over the past 3.5 years I've been seeing her.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 13, 2015, 11:29 PM

Email is my go-to method if contacting t too. Unless it's a real MH crisis, then I call (I figure it's not fair to send a crisis email. Sometimes it's hard to recognise how far I've become unraveled and wgat help I need. I think I'm there now but my t is away. I have never contacted my MH nurse outside appointment times, and I'm trying to figure out if it's enough of a crisis to contact him.

Leah123 · Jul 13, 2015, 11:47 PM

If you think you are there now, and are concerned for your safety, I hope you will call. You wrote that sometimes it's hard to know and I can relate to that- I think better safe than sorry if you're in doubt. Take care.

Jul 13, 2015, 11:52 PM

If you are feeling unsafe, which you said you were in another thread, then it's time to call for help. Don't put it off or it may become even more of a crisis. Be proactive for your health and safety.

BayBrony · Jul 14, 2015, 12:01 AM

My T says if I feel like I might need to contact her I probably do and probably should

Jul 14, 2015, 12:14 AM

I dont contact him even if have attempted to sui if anyone finds out i have tried they might call but no one really cares so why bother telling better to just dissappear quietly.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 12:25 AM

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I dont contact him even if have attempted to sui if anyone finds out i have tried they might call but no one really cares so why bother telling better to just dissappear quietly.

Maybe you're right ...

LonesomeTonight · Jul 14, 2015, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers

Maybe you're right ...

No, you should call!

Jul 14, 2015, 12:45 AM

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Maybe you're right ...

I dont necessarily think that is best for you just for me i am sure somoene cares about you and maybe if you are feeling bad you should call even just talk through your feelings.

Jul 14, 2015, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by eden1515

I dont contact him even if have attempted to sui if anyone finds out i have tried they might call but no one really cares so why bother telling better to just dissappear quietly.

And Eden you should call too.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 12:54 AM

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I dont necessarily think that is best for you just for me i am sure somoene cares about you and maybe if you are feeling bad you should call even just talk through your feelings.

It's an alluring idea to just dissappear. I feel ambivalent about reaching out this time. I kind of told myself that I wouldn't reach out again if I ended up back here. Maybe I should stick to that.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 01:05 AM

Okay. I've decided not to call. I'm going to tough things out for the next couple of days. Eden, you've reminded me of the decision I made last time and that has now taken over my thoughts.

Tearinyourhand · Jul 14, 2015, 01:22 AM

T and I have ruptured over what defines a crisis. basically outside contact with him works best if i tell him briefly what kind of support I'm looking for and not to expect too much.

Jul 14, 2015, 01:58 AM

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And Eden you should call too.

Thank you for caring

Jul 14, 2015, 02:02 AM

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Okay. I've decided not to call. I'm going to tough things out for the next couple of days. Eden, you've reminded me of the decision I made last time and that has now taken over my thoughts.

I should not have posted..... i say what i said because the last time i did try i told my psychologist, i told my parents, i called a hotline and every single one of them basically said go ahead and do it so i did failed and ended up in hospital no one cares about ME and so i know I now have no reason to bother NOT that you have no reason to bother. If you think you can tough it out then go for it but if you need to help i think you should call.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 03:47 AM

No need for any worry, eden - I do actually think I can tough it out. See my MH nurse on Thursday, h can decide then what we should do. I'm always honest with them, but not necessarily open.

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 03:50 AM

Eden, I'm depressed so latched onto your post. I did think that you meant me, and connected with your post. I understand the hopelessness and latch on to anything that feeds it.

musinglizzy · Jul 14, 2015, 04:26 AM

My T encourages out of session contact, more often than not I get so shut down during session that Emails are how she learns the most about me. I'm getting better at being more engaged in session, and thankful she let me use Email as a way to get there. So, just to answer your initial question, I would contact T (by sending an Email) whenever I felt like it, whether I felt good or bad, or had something to say or not. I don't contact her constantly, however. There were times I'd simply write her just because I knew she'd nag me for not hearing from me between sessions.

Based on the other posts here, if you EVER feel so low your well being could be in jeopardy, please contact your T. I use Email, as it's not intrusive, she can check/respond whenever suits her. If I have something quick, or something I want to make sure she sees, I will text her. I've never called. But if the situation warranted it, I imagine I would call her.

You have us, TWF, and some of us currently feel just as you do. You're not alone. Use this place as a distraction if you need it....It seems like there's always someone here around the clock, so you're never completely alone. Hugs to you!

ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 04:37 AM

Thanks, lizzy. I did notice a lot of people feeling as I do recently here on PC. I will keep posting to distract myself from my own issues.

divine1966 · Jul 14, 2015, 04:42 AM

My t encourages contacts for any reasons. Texting and calling. But I only do for scheduling purposes. I don't for any other reasons.

Now when I am in crisis or upset with something I would call her to schedule emergency session. I wouldn't discuss the issue over the phone or text as I hate talking on the phone and texting is not productive.

I normally can't see t often due to my schedule but in crisis I can take off work. I almost never take days off at work so that would be fine.

I had crisis situation once and called her from work in hopes she can see me that day and she could. And it was very helpful. it happened once in a past year.

Please if you feel unwell or might do something detrimental to your well being please call your t right away

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Jul 14, 2015, 04:45 AM

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Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers

Eden, I'm depressed so latched onto your post. I did think that you meant me, and connected with your post. I understand the hopelessness and latch on to anything that feeds it.

That is ok i just wanted to make sure i was clear as i am not always clear and it can cause problems. I am sorry you are depressed i kniw the feeling and it really sucks but i am right there with you.

divine1966 · Jul 14, 2015, 04:49 AM

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Thanks, lizzy. I did notice a lot of people feeling as I do recently here on PC. I will keep posting to distract myself from my own issues.

This place is a great distraction.keep posting. Also try chats. Few times I was in a bad place and it was weekend or holiday and I spent entire day in chats on PC in emotional support chats. So helpful. I was there all day on easter. Was so grateful after

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ThingWithFeathers · Jul 14, 2015, 05:12 AM

I've never tried the chat rooms. I'm pretty technologically illiterate, so wasn't sure how to access and contribute to them. Thanks for the suggestion

divine1966 · Jul 14, 2015, 05:56 AM

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I've never tried the chat rooms. I'm pretty technologically illiterate, so wasn't sure how to access and contribute to them. Thanks for the suggestion

Do you see the link on the forums site where it says chats? Click on it and it is self explanatory. When I am on my phone I can't use chats but can on laptop or kindle fire. I am not tech wiz whatsoever either

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