Does anyone think they annoy their T?

What a good question! I think i annoyed my mother before i was even born. Before i was even a gleam in my father's eye as the saying goes. My high school boyfriend later characterized me as nice, very ingratiating, but not funny. I think its ts job to undo our self image as being annoying. Maybe we swing too far to the other side, and hopefully we eventually land in the middle.

I figure I annoy everyone at some point or another, so I don't fret about it too much. I figure therapists can handle a bit of annoyance from time to time; seems like it would come with the job. That said, unless a person really talks to me about what I am doing that they are finding annoying, then I assume they are handling it and not all that bothered by it either. I mean, we all get annoyed with people and are able to let it go; it isn't like it's the end of the world. If there is someone in my life who I am finding my level of frustration is at a point where we need to discuss it and come up with a plan, then that's what we do (I'm a high school teacher, so there's "normal" annoyance and then there's annoyance that requires an intervention so to speak). Assume your therapist is handling whatever is going on and that he is professional enough to let you know if there is a problem.

I've never had a consistent therapist, but this is kind of a concern of mine nonetheless. I talk about the stuff that's bothering me all the time online (and often worry about being annoying there), which has acutally kind of helped my ability to concisely explain what's wrong...yet, I fear that a T won't take me seriously, or will blow me off. I've already had it happen in a minor way. Or the fact that it's always permutations of the same issues that bother me (the main reason, actually, I'm so damn paranoid about my posting online. Branching out to other sites has helped). How long before someone says "Oh, get over it already!?"

I've been lucky to never encounter that anywhere except home, even online folks seem to be pretty supportive or at least kindly passive. But a real life T? I'm hesitant to even call therapy hotlines because I feel like I would be wasting their time.

I worry about this (not just with T's, with everyone!) My marriage counselor recently was clarifying that he'd never been angry/annoyed by anything I (or H) had done, even a 3 am text I sent him last month that I still feel bad about. And I keep apologizing to my T for sending too many e-mails, but she says it's fine.

Though I think I may have been annoying her yesterday because I kept talking to her as I was walking out the door, and she was finally just like, "Bye!" But I know she meant it in a kind way!

Another thing that came up with T yesterday is my recurring fear that she and/or MC are trying to push me away. And she asked me where that came from, saying we needed to address that more. I know it's from stuff with my parents. Someone above mentioned transference--I have some maternal/paternal transference for both T and MC (much more strongly for MC though), so I'm sure that plays a role. But I also fear anyone pushing me away, not just them.

Oh yea... I'm quite sure I have annoyed her more than once... On the plus side I can usually tell when she is annoyed with me, and it doesn't happen that often

Mine has gotten annoyed, but it's more of a mild annoyance. I laughed the first time it happened and that made her laugh. If it were more than mild, I think it would be harder to deal with, but might also be a good experience to know that it's survivable.