The Couch 102, Buckle My Shoe!

He can't come to my house - if he ever did calling the cops would be no issue. We meet at a McDonald's and there's a modification in the restraining order to allow it. He can be there, but he can't harass me. Or at least he's not supposed to...

Cannot give you legal advice but if a client were to tell me about a situation like that, I would recommend that you tell him ahead of time that you will be videotaping the exchange and then do so. If you do not have the nerve to tell him ahead of time, just videotape surreptitiously and then give the video to your attorney and/or the police.

Another alternative is to insist on doing the exchange right outside the police station. Or INSIDE a fast food place. I have recommended McDonald's play areas quite a bit. Kids are playing and you leave as soon as he walks in the door.

Thanks MKAC. I'm trying to insist on meeting inside the McDonald's - he's being an *** about it though. Constantly complaining that I chose a place to meet that's 'too busy' (yeah, really) and telling me I should bring the kids to his house and why do I want to go inside - it's a nuisance.

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I'm sorry those of you having ex problems. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to deal with that kind of situation with kids. Sending you extra hugs this evening.

Could you just go inside the McDonald's, no discussion? When you see him arrive and scan the parking lot, call and say "we're inside." Then take MKAC's advice and go out the other door as he goes in?

Just got home from a really relaxing, upbeat session with t. She knows I'm going back to visit family in the midwest for thanksgiving, so I shared with her my plan for if they start getting on my nerves, y'know how I'm going to advise them that I'm a bisexual pagan and then watch them all have heart attacks? She totally busted out laughing. And the feels... yes, we talked about the feelings.... she first was talking about it all intellectually, and I said "yeah I know that part, I get it up here" and I tapped my head, then I put my hand over my heart and said "but when it gets in here.... that's when I have a problem." I told her how her hands remind me of my grandma, and how my love for my grandma gets all mishmashed up with the love I feel for her, and how annoyed I get at myself for feeling that way, etc... and she said that's how this therapy stuff works, that the healing is in the relationship that we have, in letting myself be in the loving feelings, accepting them, or something like that, that without that type of connection, it doesn't work as well, I wish I had a recording of what she said because it really resonated with me. She's gonna be out of town next week so my next appt will be in 2 weeks. It's perfect timing for her to go out of town, because I need to get back to twice a month instead of weekly anyway. It's been great though, going weekly, we did some good work this month..... it was one of those sessions today where I feel like we talked about 3 hours worth of stuff somehow in only 50 minutes. I didn't want it to end....

... but you know what you guys? Today more than ever before, I feel like I brought more of my real self back out of that room with me into the 'real world'. She said I looked different today, free-er, and I said yes, I feel that way, after the energy work we did last week. I truly feel like I let a lot of stuff go during that session. And because of that, is why I was told the very next day that I got the promotion. Because I was READY for it. Interesting how stuff works.

Art, you are so cool! I wish you many blessings on your journey.

(blushing) aww thanks so much! And I wish you blessings on yours as well.

Therapy etiquette question: is it standard not to charge clients for an emergency session?

(I called No. 2 for one this morning, she put me at the end of her day (6 pm) and it lasted two hours. She refused payment. I feel uncomfortable with this.)

Not to scare you or anything. But his trying to coerce you scares me. I would try to make that grounds for sole custody. And try to change the loc to a police station asap.

Hey, superwoman. Let somebody take care of YOU, do something nice for you, for a change. Maybe she just feels for you. You could use a soft place to land right now.

I was thinking of something like this.

New car success!

That's pretty much what I'm trying to do, but because of my son's special needs I can't leave the kids until he's right there with them. It's doable when I drop them off, because I *can* just leave, and I do. The issue is mostly with picking them up, because he won't just leave and will follow me to the car.

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I wish It scares me too and I'm really not very good at defending myself. And I'm afraid that if the cops do show come they'll arrest me instead of him. I'm afraid that I'm being a whiny b-... It's irrational I know - both T and my lawyer have expressed concern for my safety. And I am scared of him.
I'll do a police station if I have to, but I'd rather not scare the kids.

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Thanks everyone. I the couch

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I have to live vicariously on this, because i mostly bus, but i had a zipcar with just 6000 miles on it last week and oh yum it still had new car smell!! Instead of funky old engineering student smell!! So do tell!!

Madame T would have charged me for sure.

Breadfish--how are you doing?

My T doesn't usually charge me for emergency sessions.

My T charges for emergency appointments not that i have had many.

Tell us about the new car please...

It's new, new! I sat in it in the garage for like an hour. Way too much tech, hurts my brain! We bought a brand new car last year and I wasn't that happy with it and I want a car I love that will be in the family for a long, long time. So I decided what I wanted and finally got it. Not sure what you guys want to know...? It's white interior (light cream, called cashmere) and a beautiful steel blue exterior. Drives so smooth and quiet. Has auto cruise. Went on a test drive and the salesman set the adaptive cruise control and we were coming up on a red light at 60mph and he said don't touch the brakes the car will do it itself. Seriously I was freaking out inside but it stopped. On its own. Weirdest thing ever. So scary! I have a lot to learn about it but I do know that it's beautiful and I love it!

ellah what make and model is it?

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