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#1
Nov 09, 2015, 03:31 PM
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Hi gang!
What things does T say to you that you really wish she wouldn't?
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#2
Nov 09, 2015, 03:35 PM
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There are many, but I'm afraid if I said what they are, someone may recognize me.
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 AnxiousGirl, CantExplain, Ellahmae, indigo11
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#3
Nov 09, 2015, 03:38 PM
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"What would you like to talk about today?"
I'm laughing while I type this because most of the time I do have a plan of what I'm going to talk about during sessions, but when she asks this, I always go blank and say "I don't know" or "it doesn't matter," to which she gives me a "yes it does matter and I'm not going to start the session...you should know better than that by now" look. I know that's a phrase everyone's t says, but honesty I think that's the most annoying thing my t ever says lol
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"You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living breathing screaming invitation to believe better things." — Jamie Tworkowski |
| brillskep
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| AnxiousGirl, brillskep, CantExplain, laxer12
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#4
Nov 09, 2015, 03:54 PM
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'We both know---'
Obviously I don't or I wouldn't have brought it up 
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| CantExplain, Rive.
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#5
Nov 09, 2015, 03:56 PM
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What's happening right now?
Where do you feel that in your body ? Could you exaggerate that? I am wondering if you would like to try something? There is sooooooo many more but I can't take up all of the space here! I think they have a big book of t phrases and they just extract random phrases now and again...... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
| AnxiousGirl, CantExplain
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#6
Nov 09, 2015, 03:58 PM
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Also 'where are you?' Um, on your chair in your house
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| CantExplain, indigo11, LonesomeTonight
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#7
Nov 09, 2015, 04:01 PM
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I can relate to all of these. The worst for me is "Tell me how you're feeling without holding anything back, it's safe here" That makes me want to cry for some reason. But the others are spot on in the replies.
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| brillskep
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| CantExplain
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#8
Nov 09, 2015, 04:17 PM
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At beginning of every session: "So, what's going on?" (such vague questions overwhelm me... I'd rather her ask something specific, something tangible)
At the end of every session, in a not-so-discreet way of wrapping up: "So next week looks good for you, right? No conflicts?" "Be kind to yourself" (ughhhh SO therapisty) Honestly, I think there are more phrases in email that bother me more so than our in-person interactions. |
| AnxiousGirl, CantExplain
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#9
Nov 09, 2015, 04:20 PM
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#10
Nov 09, 2015, 04:24 PM
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No. 1: "I'm going to say something that will sound weird." (Which it never does, making me think we're both weird if that was a weird thing to say.)
No. 2: "Where did you go just then?" and yes, "Where do you feel that in your body?" (No. 2 is a virtual fount of stereotypical therapist sayings and behavior. She could be Exhibit A in stopdog's right-brain games, because I catch her rearranging her expression to mirror my emotions if I look at her quickly enough after I say something. Yet she is oddly helpful.) |
| CantExplain, Favorite Jeans
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#11
Nov 09, 2015, 04:32 PM
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When he suggests something, or gives an idea of what someone's motivation might have been and then goes "but I don't know!" Well duh, T. You're not in their head, I do realise that. It's like a clumsy way of telling me he's not the expert on what other people are thinking. But I already know that.
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#12
Nov 09, 2015, 04:33 PM
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He uses the words "intimacy" and "fantasy" as if they were just regular words that can be said out loud.
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| CantExplain
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| indigo11, JustShakey, LonesomeTonight
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#13
Nov 09, 2015, 04:45 PM
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"I hear you..."
ARGHGHGHGHGHGHGHG |
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#14
Nov 09, 2015, 04:47 PM
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When marriage counselor uses an analogy/story from his life that he thinks perfectly fits the situation, but...it doesn't. Like today, when he compared my husband dealing with my anxiety to his taking his daughter to a kids' movie that he didn't want to see. Saying both were cases of something they didn't want to have to do, but did it because they loved her/me. Comparing my panic attacks to annoying kids' movies just felt...I don't know, kind of diminishing.
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| brillskep, Cinnamon_Stick, Favorite Jeans
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| brillskep, CantExplain
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#15
Nov 09, 2015, 04:54 PM
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My T has never said anything that has annoyed me.
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#16
Nov 09, 2015, 05:08 PM
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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#17
Nov 09, 2015, 05:27 PM
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My current T and pdoc don't have annoying phrases.
There was a T who often said ''so what I hear you say is...''. It was annoying, but also funny. It was a group T, so the group often joked about it. |
| CantExplain
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#18
Nov 09, 2015, 05:36 PM
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Oh, forgot about "sit with the anxiety" for MC. He kept using that in session for a bit, like maybe I should "sit with the anxiety" instead of dealing with something at the time. I've spent my whole life "sitting with the anxiety"--I don't want to do that now!
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| Anonymous37828, Anonymous37925, AnxiousGirl, CantExplain, Cinnamon_Stick
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#19
Nov 09, 2015, 05:44 PM
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#20
Nov 09, 2015, 05:55 PM
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Apparently another client said he starts all sessions with "What are your thoughts and feelings about last session" He usually asks me "What do you remember about last session" but doesn't use it every session. He doesn't really have any annoying phrases he says all the time.
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#21
Nov 09, 2015, 06:08 PM
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Mine does this too. I sometimes feel like I'm trying to understand his view rather than him mine. It makes me doubt myself. He continues to compare my abusive marriage to sexual infidelity and I want to whack him sometimes. Other times I expend way too much time and energy trying to figure out the similarities... It also bugs the crap out of me that wherever I bring up previous T he teases me about my ET. Yeah, I know, joke is older than god, can we talk about what happened that reminded me of her, pretty please. I am trying to get over relationship dysfunction or whatever here. I should really talk to him about this stuff... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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#22
Nov 09, 2015, 06:19 PM
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"Was it everything you hoped it would be?" or "I hope it's everything you want it to be."
I know when he's pulling a generic phrase out of the therapist book...I see right through it. Luckily those don't get thrown around a lot. They irritate me, but I don't know exactly why. |
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#23
Nov 09, 2015, 06:29 PM
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"Does that remind you of anything?" It's annoying because he says it all.the.time, it's obviously a go-to cliche therapist phrase.
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| CantExplain, LonesomeTonight
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#24
Nov 09, 2015, 07:08 PM
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"How old do you feel right now?" She's only done this a few times, but I hate it.
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#25
Nov 09, 2015, 07:17 PM
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