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Is this the sort of thing the therapist is usually good with and if so, can you contact him?

Watsup girlie? We are here for you (((bpa)))

I just feel like there is something about me that makes him not want to see me. Like the fact that I am female. He runs 2 group sessions (i think) for men and I feel that if i had penis he might take more notice of me and take me more seriously. I don't know.

wow thanks Unaluna. That has made me feel a bit better. Maybe I will tell him this when I see him.

He doesn't encourage emergency contact. He expect youu ring Lifeline, who always say i should speak to him, and the emergency team who are just hopeless.

Now I feel like i have over-reacted. Thanks for listening everyone.

The whole group sound useless when you need them

I watched a programme about 7 years ago on the ineffectiveness of our mental health systems and how emergency teams had let families down. There was this one mother who stayed awake for 48 hours with her son rang emergency team 4 times, but the team decided that because he had been known to them for a few years plus his mother was ther they decided to lower his priority. He's mum fell asleep....There were hundreds of stories like this and still the govt won't increase the mental health budget. This not just in my area but nation-wide.

I feel like a hysterical woman.

(((BPA)))
The situation with your T is nuts. It's not fair that you have go so long between appointments and can't get a regular time slot.

Thanks he has said we can do regular fortnightly sessions next year but it starts out that way every year and by about July it all goes screwy. He said he would revise his sceduling...I know they are not perfect but they can be consistent yeah?

If a giggle emoticon had a giggling sound with it, I'd lose my tenuous grasp on sanity.

I have noticed that the general personality type that is drawn to be a therapist is not also the general personality type that is drawn to consistency.

Some of them do pretend quite well, but the rest are hopeless.

That could be possible from a transference and or a cross transference POV. I.e., something either or both of you are doing. I love when both me and my t could be goofing up the same thing but for different reasons, and i love that he can follow my reasoning on this carp.

From what I have noticed from being on here is that the thing most clients require and need is consistency from the T.

Ar eyou replying to me or atisket? I am so easily confused.

Thats interesting you should say that! I would love to be a t but that consistency thing might make me looney. Wasnt given it, dont have it to give.

T is going to work at the prison again this friday so i asked him if "we" would be going to minister on xmas day, me in my bonnet and rustling skirts and carrying a basket "shall we gather at the river?"

Sorry. You.

Are you talking about the male thing or the scheduling thing?. My brain has gone to mush and I have a headache. Sorry

This. You feel this way for x reason, he acts this way for y reason. Not exactly the same reasons.

Like my landlord pushing me about the apartment inspection. He has his reasons, but they trigger mother stuff in me. Yeah theyre both mean and im a slob, but its like im two different people - one reacts to my mother issues, one reacts to the landlords issues.

Eta - so you feel this way cuz hey we are girls and were undervalued in your home etc. And you feel this way because T has some unresolved issues too.

Oh! Ok I see what you are saying. Because I felt my brother was the most important child and I had to sacrifice my uni money to bail him out of gaol/jail. Plus a whole lot of other carp...So I'm reacting to T because of my mother issues but the only way I seem to be able to express this is to argue over scheduling issues?

French toast made with molasses isn't quite as nice as French toast made with honey.FYI

Id say its esp painful to you because of these transference issues. It does NOT help that he cant be consistent. But maybe its easier to fight with him in the present than to deal with the old pain? Stg like that?

I wish NOW that i had accepted that i was an outsider to my own family, but i couldnt face it 30, 40 years ago, when it could have made a difference in my life. Now its easy. Nobody cares now.

Yeah you never see a bear with his nose stuck in a jar of molasses...

My youngest D still loves Winnie the Pooh. When she was younger I put an empty jar of honey on Pooh's nose. She was so distraught because "Pooh can't breathe, Mummy. He'll die" I felt so cruel at that moment. I only wanted to replicate a scene from the book.