Thinking about taking a year off of therapy

Aren't there any friends outside of therapy, relatives, acquaintances that you can go grab a coffee or see a movie with?

It's posts like these that create an inability within myself to completely point fingers at therapists.

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I'm going out on a limb here. What I feel is soooo very far from the impression of popular opinion that I have through the years. But, maybe that two page letter spelling out in black and white came from sheer frustration yet with great consideration about teaching personal boundaries?? And how to respect the outside of office time/privacy of someone in such a field? How it ever got so far, is beyond me. How much career experience does this therapist even have? Do they work with other professionals in an office? How old are they?

At what point with the extra phone calls and i cannot go on statements was this person, certified I question, wasn't sending wellness checks?

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He's sent two wellness checks on me before.

I'm not blaming him. I know that I'm the one that brought this situation upon myself. I take full responsibility for that.

Just saying you are both people with feelings. Both of you can make mistakes. The question is what is the best course of action for you.

Possibly these rules were for healthy boundaries and you just kept stirring away from the right topics. Possibly he is a jerk. We can't tell you. But you need to look deep insight and ask yourself. Will these rules help you? Also can you share some of the rules?

The OP stated she was given 2 pages of very rigid and tightly suffocating rules that she feel takes away her trust, safety, and freedom to open up. It is possible the majority of the rules were created to incorporate new, healthy boundaries, we don't know. Regardless, the OP needs to have a discussion with the T about the newly imposed rules. But guess what? She can't unless T brings it up because one of the new rules is T will be the one who decides what is discussed in sessions -- OP does not have any input. That 1 rule alone speaks volumes about this t and more importantly tells me therapy can no longer be therapeutic.

We had a session earlier and it was productive and it went well.

nice, that's great!!

Thanks!

Today, he responded to something I sent in a compassionate way. I've been obeying the rules and trying to hold on to the positive things he said last session.

In a way, I feel stronger and as though my attachment has lessened.

I hope your sessions continue to be productive and go well.

I'm glad that your recent session went well. Therapy isn't always comfortable nor positive.

How does the point in your set of 'rules' mention only your therapist can bring up topics, if you are able and comfortable to share.

The point about finger pointing is in your OP, you talked about how this makes you feel and your initial fight/flight response to want to run, so to speak.

Of course, with only hearing feelings with a piece of the puzzle, the general feel was....oh your T is out of line and encouragement of action upon that fight/flight.

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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I surely don't like the fact that HE dictates what you talk about, and you have to OBEY two pages of rules? There's got to be more to this story...... or he's a fruitcake completely!

What kind of rules? Aside from him "dictating" the sessions? Does he think you have an unhealthy/unsafe attachment to him and he is trying to distance himself from you?

Regardless of what's happening, and his reasonings for his rules, I think he could be handling things a bit more "therapeutically" than he is. Hugs to you! If you stay with this T, I hope things work out. But gosh...the word you used, "obey," really bothers me. I don't obey my therapist. I respect her boundaries, etc, but I would never feel the need to say I obey her. Is he being a bit harsh? I have not read your post mentioned here where he "terminated" you...I'll look it up.

Keep your chin up. If he's not "the right one," there is someone who is!