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Your husband could be more understanding. But maybe the money really isn't there? It's humiliating for a man to admit that he doesn't have the resources to give his family what they need. Hence a grumpy response.

Nice use of the correct plural.

Hi Mobius!

I think now he has a better idea about things in general.

Yeah that's pretty much what became demanded at work after we got the 2nd monitor.....

I am making buckboard bacon this week - it uses a pork butt instead of pork belly.

Thank you SO much for your POV. It helps me a lot to see it from his perspective instead of just griping. Of course you're right that the money's not there - I just found out it costs upwards of $6,500.00!! Yikes!! I never really thought of it this way, that it feels humiliating to him to not have the resources for this. Of course, it's not something our son NEEDS - if it were a medical need or something of course we'd do whatever we had to do to pay for it. But this is something that yes, will look good on his resume I would imagine, and would be a growth experience and a lot of fun of course, but he doesn't NEED to go. I guess what really peeved me off about his comments were that our son did not ask us to pay for it. He stated he was going to work on figuring it out himself. I'm not sure how, because that is a LOT of money especially for someone who has never held a job, hell that's a lot of money to ME and I've been working since I was 15 (38 years!!)

Anyway sorry to rant. Again I appreciate your perspective.

I wonder if its a gambling issue. Money won is "his"; money lost is guilt. My mother was one; hence MY grumpy response!

Re dilbert - 2008?! I am always ahead of my time

Re SD - i wonder why they call it buckboard bacon?? I love me a good buckboard!

ON Buzzfeed was this unnecessarily savage attack on British food from an Australian pov. Well, largely unnecessary. At the end though was a CHIP BUTTY! I so want a chip butty now. ONly good thing my good for nothing pommy father gave me.

Why do they call them butty's??

Ha ha i know - that was the earl of sandwich's first name

In Texas the supermarket chain HEB stands for its founders name - H E Butt.

I dunno Art, as someone who got to travel a good bit as a young adult, I'd go without a lot of stuff so my kids could do something like that. It's a trip of a lifetime kind of thing.

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I always understood it was a reference to butter. Now I'll have to look it up.

So there you have it.

George Orwell: In Defence of English Cooking

I am baking my youngest Ds birthday cake. I hope it turns out better than last year. I am calmer this time and I actually have money to make a proper cake. Poor dear had to have bran tea cake for birthday last year as the first attempt at a cake was rubbish. All my baking knowldege just disappeared last year.

I need someone with a higher emotional IQ than me to answer this:

Is there an acceptable length to a rant? If a friend calls you and says I just need to vent for ten minutes about something at work, and you say sure, but two hours later she is still venting, and it has become a vent about not just the incident but everything wrong in her life from childhood to now...at what point, if any, should I have stopped her?

I am now even more depressed than usual.

I don't know. But the neighbour downstairs has one and he just ums and ahs while doing stuff and an aunt (in the days of bakelite phones) used to place the receiver on a teatowel and occasionally pick it up and um and ah.
Until you get sick of it maybe.
Or call on SD's narrative law for littlies.

I hate this cycle. I wonder if she does it to try and provoke something. Say something about it but I don't. I can't. We have a set thing we do every day. Then for 2 days she doesn't do it and it makes me feel like I screwed up and I did something wrong. I'll go to session tomorrow, won't say anything, she'll be the same consistent amazing t and we'll go back to normal. Sometimes I feel played with. But I'm not. What did I do wrong this time? Nothing. It's always nothing. This sucks I feel alone and worthless when she "forgets".

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Oh yeah. My friends have all cut me off. Plus who talks on the phone anymore now??

Two hours later, she's still going on?? Ugh, sounds like my father and a brother.

I'm so sorry I don't have a script to shut those people. Usually I literally walk away after saying "It's been 3 hours. I'm tired." because this happens to me face to face.

True it would be a once in a lifetime thing. I did the math tonight even if I quit t immediately, h doesn't get his hearing aid, doesn't start the expensive stomach medication his doc wants him to take, and we don't do our little trips now n then or go to concerts even sacrificing all of that for a year would still not be enough for the trip. The price tag i found on an online review was 2 years ago at $6,500 so by now is likely over $7,000. Isn't that crazy?

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Art - that is a crazy amount of money. And I actually don't think it is a good idea to go to extremes for a trip. There will be other trips he can make and I doubt a lot of his friends or even acquaintances will be able to afford such a trip. There is such a thing as simply not being able to afford things and I actually believe that is not unreasonable to accept it. There are other, less expensive ways for your son to travel if that is actually a passion he has.