The Couch - CXII : The Tao of Couchies

Thank you. I have taken a (mild) sleeping pill (prescribed by my T, and completely harmless) and am about to go to bed, or I'd try to write a better reply. I do appreciate your words, all of y'all. I might not be able to believe you, quite, but it is still a great comfort to hear. Read, I mean.

(((crocus)))

I hate the way therapy gives you a small taste of something you are not entitled to.

Lola - congrats!!!

Hope you can get some rest. I also think you are not a waste of space or worthless. Hugs if you like those sort of things ;0

i fing hate my family and i fing hate my life and therapy and everything. why the F do i keep going?? i hate it all and this world hates me

uh oh, what happend?

just really hurtful stuff cant talk about it right now .how can family's be so cruel and hurtful and think nothing of it

I'm sorry. I have felt that way plenty of times. No person should feel that way. Hugs, Granite1.

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I'm not really sure how family can be so hateful. I have had the experience of a hurtful family member before. It really sucks. We're here if you need to talk and feel ready to talk.

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i'm really sorry. if you want an outside "ear," you can always pm me.

Everyone just wants me to go away.

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Not true. I want you here.

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ihave a huge family around me and they all hate me . i dont know what i can do it is such a lonely and hurtful feeling. i fit in no place and i cant talk to my T about it because she thinks i just dont need any of them . she doesnt understand . i try and talk to her about all my pain around them and all she pretty much says ,why? you dont need them... YES I DO. im so alone

Maybe you should tell her she needs to shut up and listen to you. I think if you need to talk about it, she should listen. Family, as much as they may be awful, we need them. If you need, pm me. I'm here for you.

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Do they hate you or do you hate (some of) them? I agree, it IS a lonely and hurtful feeling to have to be around them when they dont really include you in, but they invite you anyway. I feel like, with my extended family, we have finally gotten to a more truthful place. Which is, i dont have a place in any of their dynasties. My mother's "dynasty" looks like Charlie Brown's Christmas tree compared to my aunts'. Not even that big! But it is what it is.

i know you feel like you don't fit in, but what happened to make you fele this way?

Also, i think your T is trying to get you to see that having contact with your mother or step-father or father (i can't remember if they are both alive?) is hurting you--they still abuse you and treat you like s-h-i-t, so the safer answer for you might be to take a step back from them. But, i don't know your situation, and am not saying you need to, just that it might be healthier for you, because when you are triggered by your mother, you see everything in mother-colored lenses; and those lenses are dirty and faulty and there is no way you can see clearly with them on.

Wow. Sitting here and giving advice to people, saying how great they are, when I can't even live myself and I despise the word. I'm such a hypocrite.

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ok couchies I have a dilemma. it's about car insurance and my teenage son. our friend just switched to Allstate because they told him that he didn't have to put his 16 year old son on the policy and they are paying way way way way way less than we are with our son ON our policy. (we don't have Allstate). So my h called Allstate today. And he asked. And they said that we don't have to add our son to the policy because he lives at home and does not own any of the cars. That our policy will follow the cars.

I cannot FATHOM this. because their web site even says that you must insure a teen driver as soon as they get their license. We can save a TON of money if the agent is correct, but I think she is completely wrong and if we do this, and change, and don't add him, and he heaven forbid causes a bad accident, we could lose our home. I cannot wrap my mind around this. Hubby is ready to change immediately but I can't do it. I can't. Does anyone know anything about this?? thanks.

My parents had to insure me, I think.

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The more I think about this, I am pretty certain that the agent is absolutely in the wrong.

I think there might be something in it Art... The ex was covered under me at one point, because his record was so bad. Double triple check it though.

Eta: get it in writing from them, then you'll be safe

(((Ellahmae)))

So your ex was not on the policy and he was still covered? Interesting. I left a message because the gal he talked to was already gone for the day. Thanks.

You can add someone to your policy as either a policyholder or a named insured/permitted driver (can't remember the exact wording)...could that be what she means? Both are covered, it's just a question of status (I think). I added a catsitter once as a permitted driver and it was very cheap.

I don't think even in Arizona teen drivers are allowed to be uninsured. Course we are talking about the state that during my one year of residency there gave me a driver's license that's good till I'm 65!