Couch 113 - Sofa, So Good

Trail, I'm relatively quiet on the couch but your words definitely are among those I look forward to reading.

Tonight should I watch I, Robot or continue slugging through Midsomer Murders? I am not feeling as agitated today so I maybe able to sit through more 30 mins.

Thank you for your kind words. I feel very alone right now and your words helped me feel better!

Re loneliness and belonging... I find this quite interesting and rather comforting.

Can I just say that I obviously don't speak normal caring English. My words seem to be misunderstood all over the place. I know full well that I am whining and having a pity party. Oh well.

Feeling really stupid right now. Don't want to get into the whole drama of it, but I offer some cash in my wallet to my h because he didn't want to eat leftovers. Kindness? He doesn't usually keep cash and will grab a burger if he has some cash, he didn't have any in his wallet. How in the hell did that turn out to be a total defacing of me?? Who knows..... No judgement please. There was nowhere else for me to let this go.

We talk here, but we do have a privateness to talk about things we can't say to others. Thank you for hearing me.

I want to share this link. I hope it helps anyone who needs it.

http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/04/...al-abuse-ptsd/

A sweet soft hug to who wants it.

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Apart from the fact that I do not believe in fate or that anything is "meant": no, not at all. That is very far from how I look at it.

First, there is no such thing as "the one", not outside the realm of science fiction (I read a novel recently where they scanned everybody's DNA and were thus able to find everyone's perfect match; they also had to do away with all national borders since it was extremely uncommon for the perfect matches to come from the same nation or even the same continent). People fit together more or less well but of course there is not one true match - that's pure romance or satire (as in the book I read).

Second, all those things you describe are pretty unrealistic. Sorry to be all negative but the sooner one stops to expect anything such as understanding or "support" (what does that even mean?) within a relationship, the happier one will be. That certainly applies to me anyway. The way I make my marriage work is by not telling the spouse about mistakes I make unless I really have to, and by taking my problems to T (whose job it is to listen to them and make detached and neutral comments). As for holding and taking care and making things ok.... no, sorry. Not outside the movies. Well, of course H will cook for me when I'm sick, but he does all the cooking anyway And every now and again he'll do something caring, but you can't go around expecting that kind of thing.

Every relationship is of course different though.

TrailRunner, DF, healed, all others who are hurting: I hope tomorrow will be a better day.

I had "Tiber" autocorrected to "River", which is annoying but not without its charm.

Goodness. I know I really hate autocorrect, sometimes. It always changes the right word I type to something not even close! And I must be the only one to not understand the pun in the title of Sofa King.

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Follow this link to get it.

It took me a few seconds longer than usual, and I had to say it out loud to be sure.

Oh wow... Well, at least I understand now! Thanks Atisketatasket.

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Couch meetup? At SD's - she can serve some of her delicious kitchen makings? ......

You're not the only one that didn't get it - I didn't either! I clicked on the link and then was like oh duh!! haha

Thank you!! Tough night!! There is an Alanon meeting kind of close to me on Thursday. I'm trying to find the courage to go.

There is the fear of "going away" in a group of people I don't know and then the explanation of my destination to him and why. He thinks I should be "fixed" by now.

It's really late and I have to go to bed. Thank you so much for your reply. It made a big difference in where I was.

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Is Google really calling us Idiots? That's what I got from it.

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