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Jul 19, 2007, 05:11 AM
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Hey all, Well its now 3 weeks into the 7 weeks that T is away. Its so hard, and some days I have been so wound up with anxiety I havent known what to do! With each week that passes though, I find myself drifting further and further away. The pain of not having her here is unbearable , but so is the thought of going back again. I'm so confused about what to do. Is this a normal way to feel do you think? I feel torn in two and it's consuming my thoughts!
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Jul 19, 2007, 06:11 AM
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(((((((((((kindergirl)))))))))))))
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Jul 19, 2007, 06:16 AM
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Yes, tell yourself what you feel is normal and okay (( hugs )).
Missing her is a way of staying connected to her  You can miss her now and still go back when she is back. Keep reminding yourself that she hasn't left.. you.., she is just away for now and will be happy to see you when she is back. So, you don't have to do anything. It's perfectly fine to have the feelings you're having. Gosh when dealing with such a long break, I would think it unusual if you didn't have these feelings! Allow them to just be there. Hang in there. It's very hard now, but it will be okay. You don't have to do anything. You're doing fine getting through this very rough and lonely time. 
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Jul 19, 2007, 06:33 AM
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Kindergirl. It is completely normal how your feeling. My first long break from T, I emailed her a week before we were to resume and told her that I'm afraid to go back because I feel she has turned into some kind of monster whilst she's been away.
T replied that what I was feeling was it was monsterious that she wasn't there for me all those weeks and it will be scary to go back, but thats part of the work. I wish I had something to say for you that would ease your suffering, but what you doing now is the right thing, writing aobut your pain! Keep posting! |
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Jul 19, 2007, 08:53 AM
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(((((((((((((((( kindergirl ))))))))))))))))
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Jul 19, 2007, 02:09 PM
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I'm sorry kindergirl...this must be very hard. Can you try and think of a way to stay connected to her?
Like reading articles about something you all have discussed or journaling past sessions? That helps me out sometimes
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Jul 19, 2007, 05:50 PM
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I think it's perfectly normal, but that doesn't make it any less painful
 I'm sure you feel like you're losing your connection, but I know you'll feel it again once you return. I'm sure time must be moving very slowly. What are you doing to get through? Are you using any of that saved therapy money to do something nice for yourself? A little shopping perhaps?
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Jul 23, 2007, 08:41 PM
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Thinking of you!
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Jul 24, 2007, 02:48 AM
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Thank you all for your replies. It feels like such a long time, it really does. I'm trying to keep busy to distract myself. She now feels a million miles away and I have a lot of apprehension about returning. I feel all churned up inside. I know you all understand, so I dont really need to say a lot more. Thank you all for caring XX
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Jul 28, 2007, 01:31 AM
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Hi Kindergirl
i hope very much that you are coping ok with the break... you must be over half way through now right? somehow that always makes me feel better, like i have climbed the mountain and am now at least coming down the other side... anyway just wanted to say i really hope you are ok... i know i would struggle terribly with a 7 week break... best wishes Nikki x
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