[sidony]

-- Small possibility of triggering if you're uncomfortable with any mention of sexuality --

So you guys know I'm in group therapy. I've complained about it enough times after all.

Well, earlier today I remembered what I dreamed last night. There's a woman in group therapy with me who has been really nice to me. She even said once that she felt connected with me (seems strange since I barely say anything, but I feel a lot of warmth toward her because of it). Anyway, she was talking in group about how she doesn't like sex, doesn't have it, etc. (very sad). And anyway last night I dreamed that she and I were lying together and kissing, over and over for the longest time. The bizarre thing about this is that I've never had a same-sex dream or even a bisexual fantasy before (in 36 years)! I'm pretty much at the far end of the heterosexual spectrum (not even bi-curious, want only men). Now it doesn't particularly bother to me to have a dream like that (since I don't question my sexual identity), but it sure was strange. What the heck is happening to my head in there?! I've heard that sexual dreams aren't really even about sex, so maybe that's my mind trying to wrap around the idea of intimacy? I'm really terribly bad at being intimate and get extremely anxious when I'm asked how I feel in group. My mind always goes blank since I don't know how to share that kind of stuff. In relationships it's rare for me to have really serious talks with my partners. I just always shy away from that. I only had one partner ever that I was good at it with, and that may have been because we both knew we were ultimately unavailable to one another (backasswards I know).

Anyway, just was thinking about that and thought I'd share. Particularly since I have no intention of sharing that one in any of my therapies...

Sidony

Sidony. I have been struggling the last couple of days with one of my 14yr old daughters. I struggle to get close to her. The other day we kind of fell out with each other, and I was beating myself up for not handling the situation well.

Then I read before I went to sleep that evening, and its a story about intimacy and peoples struggles etc, then I dreamt I was in a room full of people and was having sex with my daughter!

I have NEVER had a dream like it, but thankfully I understood the meaning to that dream immediately. I am struggling with being intimate with her and of course this is setting of my own issues with the person I was at her age and my own struggle I had with my mother and sex just represented "intimacy" is all.

I;m glad it occured in my dream becaues I believe half our work is done in our sleep. Once the feelings are worked through during sleep, I find its easier to finish the job in our waking hours.

[sidony]

Hi Mouse,

Thanks for sharing your story. Dreams are so strange. Yes, I think I've equated sex with intimacy in my dream. But of course the bizarre thing is that I don't dream of having sex with my therapist with whom I am the most intimate. Makes no sense, but I guess dreams are like that. Or wait, maybe it does make sense, as I'm dreaming of sex with the person I haven't been able to be intimate with yet but would like to. Or at least I think I want to -- Half the time I'm torn about being in group at all and wonder what's the point in trying to get close to them. Even that's probably a clue about me though and I'll learn something in spite of myself....

I hope things get better with you and your daughter. I don't have kids, but I remember being 14! Awfully hard to connect with your parent at that age.....

Sidony

[lauren_helene]

I'm thinking it means something like what mouse posted. The woman is telling you she feels connected to you and that might be an invasion to you.

You are not where she is in terms of your relationship. So it comes out in a dream.

I've had dreams about T like this and it means something else I'm sure. Most of my dreams are related to us sitting around having fun and laughing. I think that means, this is the real connection I have to him. Not the sex dreams.

[happyflowergirl]

Hi, I don't know much about dreams and their meanings. But I had a dream like that a few months ago ,and I was shocked because I am like you not even curious. But it felt so good in the dream. Kinda messes with your head, at least it did me. Our dreams can be crazy I guess.