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I like this site - great summary of all kinds of foods and supplements and what is known about their effects on various conditions. Turmeric, for instance, is clearly above the "worth it" line

(I don't deny that effects vary from one person to another and there's a lot we don't know - besides, the placebo effect is a very real thing. I have no quibbles with anyone who ingests harmless substances of unproven efficiacy if it makes them feel better. Everything that pleases you is good for your tummy, as Moominmamma says. But for myself, I do like to know what has been investigated and not, and especially which recommendations are believed to be actively dangerous, based on research.)

And now I shall have another mug of coffee.

Lol 8 million colombians cant be wrong!

Colombians schmolombians, Swedes are the second most coffee-drinking people in the world (second only to our Finnish brothers). Sothere.

I hereby declare that schmolombians is the greatest word ever invented

My heritage is just Swedish & Danish with a smidge of German and English.

Hi couch,

Considering firing my therapist today. I really need support but I'm just not happy with her. I am going to her for PTSD (mostly) but she is spending time on trying to "fix" my autism. I don't need that fixed. I wish she would fix my PTSD instead. We're having a serious talk and if she doesn't get it she's getting the boot.

It seems there have been a few things about her that have been problematic for you. You deserve therapy that works for you. I hope it goes well.

Hey...nice to see you!

Yes, there has been a few things. Thank you!

I need an opinion if anyone is willing. I've been seeing the same T for quite a long time. Years. I would say at least since 2008. We've done some work and I went thru the whole attachment phase then not being so attached then back and forth with it. She was the "mother", the "friend", the "teacher" the "constant" in my life. Over the summer so far I have not been able to see her much because of my work schedule and lack of money for the co-pay. When I don't see her I don't miss her, but once I go have an appointment with her, I wish I could stay all day. 9 times out of 10 when I go in we just shoot the breeze. No real therapy is going on except that the relationship is there-which is used a great deal in psychodynamic therapy. I want to terminate. I think I'll be okay but I'm scared that I won't. I don't want to go in for a closure session. I just want to do it in text. She was great, has been there through thick and thin and put up with tons of crap from me over the years. So far after not seeing her much this summer- my survival rate is 100%. I want to text her but then I don't want to regret it but it's really not doing much for me anymore except that it's nice to have 50 minutes to be all about me when I want it.

I would appreciate any thoughts or opinions and how to word my text.

"I need an opinion..."

Of course, you are free to terminate any time you wish for any reason.

My thought is - Is there a reason you don't want to have a frank conversation and discuss therapy feels like it's gone off the rails for you? Are there still issues you need to tackle? Is there a reason you don't want to tell her? Maybe she can help you set some goals and you both can keep each other accountable for following through?

What if you terminate, find another therapist and discover you are shooting the breeze with them, too?

I read that your schedule and finances are an issue. Still, have you considered interviewing a new T while you are still seeing your therapist? If you find you click better with a new t, they both can help you with the feelings about terminating with T1. You might find you don't want to terminate at all.

It sounds to me like you're pretty sure about quitting. Personally though, I wouldn't do it over text. Seeing her since 2008 is a long time, and one last closure session might be nice, both for you and for her. But if you really want to do it over text, I would say something like "Id like to quit therapy. Thanks for helping me so much over the years, but I no longer feel like I need therapy. Take care". Or something like that. But again, I think doing it in person with one last session would be better.

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Thank you both. I have to figure it out.

I think you have the Marx Bros to thank for that. Or the Three Shtooges? Along with their yiddishe swiddishe sister Crocus!

My t is on vacation right now. I feel such a sense of freedom. But i know i can be depressed in a ditch if it were to continue. At least i think so. Hmm. I dont like to make decisions so impulsively anymore. A text seems to me, i am afraid of facing something. Obviously being talked into continuing. But is there something else? What are my next steps in my life? And how would seeing t hurt rather than help? Or am i too full of koolaid?!

Hi couch,

Well I just got back from therapy and things went better than expected. I didn't fire my therapist. I guess I'll keep her.

Hi couch, it's coffee table. Hope you're doing well.

Off to T. Sigh. I wish she would just keep me and never send me home.

Too full of kool/aid. X-Hankster. Tired of drinking it.

Jerz - for me, I think I might want to phrase it in terms of a longer break with the possible option of returning. But that's me, I get anxious when things are too absolute.

Good evening, coffee table. Do you have any nice coffee table books for the couch?


(and yes, I know I promised book images, but it's bedtime again... tomorrow!)

If you were really a Precious Moments figurine, you could stay in her office forever!

Awesome kickass avatar by the way

I'm exhausted but I have to cook a dish for a work party. The manager who was going to be my boss originally is leaving the company for another job. Hello goodbye with people all week. I may be the only one who wants to be there

I'm supposed to be working on my research. Instead, my big intellectual insight for the day is that there's only one letter's difference between the words chaIrwoman and charwoman, and yet a world of difference class-wise. And there is absolutely no way I can work that observation into my article.

Quite right.