The Couch 119: Come Join The Human Shelf!

Claims she's not trying to fix my autism and that she's talks about social norms with all her patients.

Just as I was needing to keep an eye on something on the stove and stir it for 20 minutes, someone began knocking at the door...dog barking, person knocking, and me not able to get away from the stove... Besides, I am not expecting company- wearing old shorts, a torn (comfortable) shirt but no bra...needing a shower.. Too bad. I didn't race to answer the door.

I was just sitting here- in a stopdog mood- imagining wording for my imaginary "unwelcome" mat. So far I have come up with:

"Old lady inside- inclined to bite- go away." Also thought of, "Leave offering on porch. The old lady may or may not get back to you."

I have seen a doormat that said, "Please stay on the mat. Your visit is very important to us. Your knock will be answered in the order in which it was received." Easily my favorite funny brush-off doormat.

Hilarious. 😜

I like the doormat that says, "Oh S*** Not You Again"

Oh and here is more...

https://www.babble.com/home/25-hilar...ming-doormats/

I'm feeling rather like a footstool today.... it was one of those rough days again at work.

Those doormats are funny!

I would like this doormat:

I did stand up to my boss today though. She sent out an email to our entire team, giving stats for each person to everyone, about how many times each of us has called the assist line for help when we should not have. Mine showed that I called 20 times inappropriately!! I was like excuse me?! I only call for 2 reasons and those 2 reasons I HAVE to call, it is for something that I do not have access to do. So I asked her about it. And she looked into it a little more and found out actually I had called only once that was deemed inappropriate because I should have called a different assist team - but I didn't know because we had just started taking these 'new' calls that a small group of us are taking and we hadn't been told to call a different team - so it was actually not ding-able!! So I said please in the future don't send out something to the entire team that you have not verified - you have now (however inadvertently) damaged my credibility as a peer coach with this. She was apologetic and said that she would verify things in the future before putting them out to the whole team. I don't know why they can't just send the information individually - this public shaming crap is so wrong. Rant over.

I'm sorry your day was a footstool. Mine was a doormat kind of day.

As soon as it was over, I headed out into the yard, earphones in my ears and cut my front and back yard plus the neighbors. I told them it was completely therapeutic and they were happy to allow me to therapy their lawn.

Now. I'm sipping on a Mike's peach lemonade and admiring my therapy work.

I do feel a bit better!!

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Thanks, it's the wizard from Divinity: Original Sin PS4

So annoyed when I hide things from myself I bought the best birthday card for my sibling and we are going over there soon and now.... I don't know where it is, and no one will tell me.

Here we go.



Repeat after me.....

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Maybe a swim, like my yard cutting? Thinking of you.

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The public shaming at work happened to me, too! I was working in central supply and the surgery instrument room combined into one. We had a lot to- do-stock all the floors, keep track of patient chargeables, clean surgical instruments, assemble and sterilize surgical trays..and more. Sometimes we got called out if the surgical trays were missing an item,etc. (Understandably important) But the OR manager would write out itemized reprimands and tape them by central supply's door. Not only did our colleagues know when and why we were repriminded, but every nurse, Doctor, and EMT...god and everyone could read it! Sure, we needed to know when we made mistakes but I told the manager how wrong it was to post that in a public place...reprimanding us like grade school children.

Glad you spoke up, Art, I agree. That is definitely wrong.

LOVE this one! I need it!

Ask her to send out a retraction.

Grade school children shouldn't be publicly shamed, either.

Good idea, CE, I will request that she do that tomorrow (send a retraction).

Sorry in advance for the long multi-quote...it has been a few days since I checked the Couch!

I have multi-quoted you a bit here...and feel free to ignore or not answer any of my questions. Crocus, I really like what you post here, and i have NEVER seen anything even close to "over-sharing." I worry about that too for myself (not here, but with a new friend), but most people especially on the Couch, really respect others' opinions and thoughts. I think the more diverse thoughts we have here, the better. I am sad you feel so pathetic and despicable over something I truly don't see...
I am sorry you ever felt intolerable. If it feels like too much, maybe you can PM a few "safe" people to get a feel on how their reactions to your writing makes you feel? Then maybe when you feel safer, you can post here I offer myself up as a "safe" person. You can ask Granite!
OMG, SO not pathetic. I am not sure what I would do without my T for so long. She only has a cell...so I couldn't even get away with calling her and listening to her VM without her knowing!
I used to dabble in book binding! I'm glad you are proud of it I would love to see a picture.

Granite, I am so sorry you are feeling so bad about your son. I am agreeing with Lola's post below...because he IS an adult, and different boundaries have to be drawn. It took my mother years and years to understand that we think and operate very differnently, and not everything was her fault. I hope you can feel like every "bad" choice your son makes isn't your fault.
As said above, agreed
If texting is a normal thing for you, I guess you could terminate by text, but you have been seeing this T for a long time. Any reason why you don't want to go in for a "closure" session? I saw my previous T for 5 years and terminated over email. She suggested me coming in for a closure session, but I declined. The thing was we had been going around in circles for a long time by then, and my anxiety over what she thought of me never really went away, so I didn't see a point in trying to find closure because I could never be really honest with her. So, I'd end up just shutting down like always, and I was sick of it.

But, if you actually like and are attached to this T, i'd suggest making one more appointment to be like "Hey, our work was awesome (or not?), and I feel like I'm ready to do life by myself." Maybe he/she will leave hte door open for you in the future just in case. That might be nice.

Gosh. I didn't realise just how avoidant of other people I was. Now I am the only one here I have found mounds of recyclable rubbish and other rubbish that needs to be taken down as well as non-essential washing that needs to be done. I didn't think it was this was this much of a problem when my T asked months ago.

I think public shaming in the workplace should be banned and grounds for dismissal. Managers should be spending their time working o how to have happy healthy productive employees, not employees who work out of fear.

I agree so much with this. I had the BEST supervisor in our building for about a year, and I blossomed so much under his supervision. He did not do any of the public shaming - if our stats were not where they needed to be, he would always first praise what we did well, and then encourage us in the areas that needed growth - in individual emails or meetings. Not for the whole team or department to see. To him, our "failures" were never that - always opportunities for growth instead. This sending it out to the whole team/department, is so shaming and so 'you are a failure'-making. I wish he was still my sup, but they make us change teams at least once a year (sometimes twice a year) which totally sucks.

I did go swimming! And it was so perfect! I was the only one at the pool for much of the time, before about 6 teenagers came with one of their fathers. They were well-behaved, but I didn't last long after they got there. I like swimming alone with my thoughts..... while I was alone, I was figuring out the words I want to use to share my inner-workings of late with t on Saturday.

Should Saturday ever get here!! This is being the gol-darndest long week ever.

Good evening/night couch, I'm doing okay, just getting over my slight anger over getting lectured to in therapy today. Well good night...