Does your T give hugs?

We aren'5 suposed to but I've had 2 covert hugs. One initiated by her and one by me.
Coc

My T hugs, I have hugged her twice and it didn't do anything for me. For me, a hug was just a hug.

I hate being touched, but the past year I've opened up to hugs. It's been quite healing for me

Nope. Sigh... I used to think I didn't want a hug, but like you, now I think I might really want one.

I've needed several and asked but he hasn't. He's opposed to hugging me because of my transference issues. Once I saw him pat another (male) patient on the back and I got extremely jealous.

Never. I don't think she would. Although if i faint (rare) she'll stroke my hair or my cheek but when I start to come around properly she stops. But that could be because I don't like to be touched? Although I do want a hug and some affection if I've fainted. Not that I can tell her that.

None of my 4 ts hug. Which is fine with me. Two are female and I have trust issues with women, so I wouldn't like it at all. One male t hugged me once when he was going to be out of the country for a couple of weeks and thus out of contact. And I was really struggling with that. Sometimes after a tough session he has patted me on the back and I like that.

My pdoc has hugged me and I have liked it. He initiated it at my first session. Now if I want a hug I just open my arms. But it kind of surprised me at first. His boundaries are pretty loose IMO. But it hasn't caused me issues.

In general, though, I would say no hugs. I do love out of session texts and calls with T1. We've had to work out what is ok in terms of frequency and I haven't enjoyed that.

he said once "I don't hug or shake hands with my patients."
I said "good to know."

I wouldn't want him to touch me without permission like bad T did. I didn't like that.

Current T is very ridged, and sometimes I hate that, but sometimes I like it too. I can trust him more if I know what he is going to do.

My t has never hugged because she knows better. Image it quite clear from the start that I don't do touch or hugs. Now in hindsight I regret that because I would really like a hug from her, I am not sure how she would feel about it and maybe she wouldn't like it but I am kinda wanting to try but will never ask her first, perhaps one day she will offer.
I have a client who always hugs me at the end of every session. It's kinda sweet and I don't say no or go into asking the whys because she is just a hugger and I suspect she just hugs everyone. If I began to analyse it, it would really damage our relationship.

At one point when I was in so much emotional pain, I wanted to be held.

I don't want hugs at all to happen. I go there to work on me and no one else, not even him.

I've never had the interest. The idea or thought of hugging just isn't something I think about or want.

Just curious - do you think your T sitting next to you and putting an arm around you while you cry constitutes a hug? Or is that more of T holding you? Confused and would love to know what others think.

I wish mine did but it is the one thing I am scared to ask for incase she says no. When I cry she just sits there

I don't know. It seems like a caring thing to do, though.

To other clients, as T sees fit. Thus far, not me, but I have an avoidant attachment style and we're just now working on getting our chairs close enough that I feel T's in the room w/me.

Likewise!

T hugs me and doesn't hug any other clients. I kinda wish she didn't tell me this.

No hugs here and none wanted.

When I entered therapy it was due to sexual abuse as a child; therefore, I didn't want to be around or near men. My therapist is a male and I already struggled knowing he was directly across from me. I often dreaded my last day of therapy wondering how to handle the goodbye. Well the day came and I gave a hand shake (knowing my personal struggle) but he asked nicely for a hug. I relented and gave a hug. I was uncomfortable , but was able to give it.