Does your T give hugs?

I'm not an affectionate person and usually I am uncomfortable with touch. Lately T and I have been doing inner child work.

Suddenly, I have this huge desire for a hug. The last two session when I've stood up to leave I've felt like a hug.

Just curious to see how many Ts actually give hugs.

My T gives me a hug after every session. I told her from the start that at one point I will want hugs. Once I was ready, I asked, and we've hugged after every session since.

No , although at one point he did ( but not with me)

My nice t did. she still would if I could see her. but we live far far away.

He has never hugged me, nor have we talked about it. So, I am really not sure what his stance is.

No and I am actually repulsed by the idea of hugging him. Gross.

No. none have

Yes, all have, but it wasn't something I had to ask for or even needed to ask for. We were just mutually huggy people I guess. One hugged me at the end of every session. One at the beginning of each session. One every now and then. All of the above were fine with me. I probably would have been fine if they didn't. I have plenty of sources of hugs in my life; getting one from a therapist isn't something that is that important to me.

My T gives hugs. I gave her one today because she got some good news and I am so happy for her.

I'm not comfortable with it often, but t has hugged me a few times after a particularly rough session, or when we were not going to see each other four a while because I was moving.
Most of my t's didn't hug often, but did at really emotional times or at the end of working together.

I'm not sure but definitely never with me. It could also because she labeled me with bpd. Im not sure.

My previous therapist yes, this one hasn't yet but I think it would be fine if I wanted to. Thought it might have been against the "rules" but it's not. It's pretty personal in there so it usually helps, if you like to be touched.

My previous 4 Ts never offered hugs. One actually told me she wouldn't hug me because I had BPD. My current T doesn't believe in labels. She told me in the beginning that she hugs her clients. I wasn't used to hugging and it was awkward at first, but we have hugged after every session for 6 years now! It's not awkward anymore.

I don't think that my T and I ever shook hands when we met, and there are definitely no hugs!

All of mine I ever had have given me hugs except one whom I only saw for about a year.

Mine will, but only if I ask. He never initiates touch.

The woman first told me she did not touch clients (this was in response to my concern that she might touch me - which I do not want) but then she has told me about hugging clients - so I have no idea. As long as she stays far away from me, it doesn't matter to me what she does with other clients.

Current T hugs me. He will ask if I want one or I will ask him for one. It's not every time we meet though.

Former T and I never touched in any way until he confessed his sexual attraction for me. It was sparked by me asking for a hug! I guess he saw that as his Avenue to exploit me...

My T is very good about staying an arm's length away. We've never even shaken hands in 1.5+ years. I hope your T can offer it, if it's something that will help you.

It hasn't come up. I have no idea if she does that sort of thing or not.

It's strange to see comments here that a therapist won't hug someone if the person has been diagnosed with BPD. Why is that? It seems cruel.

My T offered first, a few weeks into our first sessions. Ever since then, it's a regular thing. Anytime I ask or gesture to hug. She always waits for the invite, of course. Sometimes I don't want one. of course but it's usually accepted there will be a hug after the session.

Hugs are an interesting thing. I've never had any issues with touch and I would say that hugging has always been a form of expression for me. It's how I grew up. I often hug my friends and family and even coworkers, if they're okay with it.

Here's a lovely little blurb that covers the way many professionals see treating BPD. It's called "You are One Borderline Away from Losing Your License"

http://www.zurinstitute.com/borderli...calupdate.html

Google "therapeutic touch BPD" for a wider swath of information about the topic.

Not to me, don't know about other clients, never asked. He did mention a couple times being interested in the power of therapeutic touch but no idea if he does anything like that with clients. I might want a goodbye hug at our last session (just like I sometimes do with close colleagues) but nothing else... not much of a hugger myself. I also think that touch with my current T might trigger me in the "wrong way" and I don't want to get into that.

No. He just shakes my hand and pats me on the shoulder.

I have three T's, two regular ones, one I call in when I need it. All three offer different approaches/benefits. And all three hug. I don't think I would see a T who wouldn't allow that. My bodywork T gives the best hugs I think I've ever had.....she's amazing (T3).