Couch 125 - We shall survive!

Does anyone else here eat tea really early? I eat around 5pm and never after 6.30pm. I never eat after dark, which makes it hard if you are invited out because i usually snack before i go and my appetite just disappears after 7pm anyway.

My mission to write 500 words before lunch has failed. I have unnecessarily re-researched my topic and have confused myself. I have 130 words that i don't have much faith in.

ETA I just realised that I made an essay plan last week...500 words NO PROBS!

Granite: I thought you meant you were riding in the front seat while someone else drove and he was pissed that you did not let him sit in front. In either event, you are good and the issue is with him. I wish you or your H would just tell him to kiss your ***.

Im starting to. When i was growing up, we ate at 4 or 5 at the latest, depending on my dad's work schedule. Now i eat breakfast at 9 or 10, the rest just come later depending.

Tv scoop - Barney Fife is being Otis' therapist. After all, he read an article about psychology in a 25 cent magazine. The first thing he did was give him an inkblot test. I love old television.

Hugs to you! It sucks working when feeling unwell.

i was not allowed to sit in the front seat for a week .i am allowed to today. after the farther finished swearing at my son for letting me sit in the front seat i went over to him to try and explain it was o and after her swore at me i explained and he said f it i guess i am the only one who gave a crap .im done with that i dont give a **** about you anymore .i just started crying and walked away . and i am definitely not having anything to say to him at this point .but i was going to depend on him to get me to rehab because my son has a job but i dont want to as him anything now . my hubby says he will tae some time off to tae me

Granite, the father is wrong to cuss at you and your son like that.

Would the father driving you be helpful to your emotional and mental health when he talks so rudely to you? I doubt so.

I hope your H can take you to rehab.

i was in the front seat with my son driving because im not cleared to drive yet .my farther was waiting on the poarch to yell at me for even being out of the house. witch is good for me to do at this point .my doc wants me up and around as long as i dont over due and listen to my body .in fact none of this was his business.

The father sounds like a sickening, abusive, mean, asshole jerk.

true that

Granite. Your father sounds really awful. I'm sorry that your family is so spiteful

Artemis- let us know how therapy went!! I'm hoping you resolved the misunderstanding

Just got home from t. This might need a "this is going to be schmaltzy" warning.

Well my nervousness evaporated as soon as I walked in t's office. She took one look at me and said "You're back!" I said yes I am and then I said "So. Saturday." and off we went. I told her that I had never experienced anything like that before, and she said that she had been scared, because she didn't know where "I" was, and I said I didn't know either. That I knew I was there, because I remember stuff, and all that. We talked it all out, every little bit of it, if anybody saw the poem I put in the dear t thread I printed that and gave it to her, and she read it and said that I was taking too much of it on myself that some of it was on her too, like some of the things that she said. And her getting aggravated. She said she shouldn't have done that. That was when I said well you were just as blindsided as I was. Anyway we were both very honest about it all. I gave her the list I made of the different ways I am better because of therapy with her. She was quite touched by that. I told her it was good the things she said that day, even if she thinks she shouldn't of said them, I said yes while I do sometimes have a problem with the "limits" of this relationship, at the same time, her willingness to be human, to be real, makes such a difference for me. I will stop carrying on now. If a therapy session can ever be considered "lovely", this one was. She gave me a big hug as I was walking to the door, and I hugged her back and it was a longer hug than usual. I didn't want to let go. I hope those who pocket-rode somehow felt some of the therapy-love, cuz it was kinda overflowing today....

God forbid that I side with your father...

But speaking as a father, I would want my daughter to follow doctor's orders after serious surgery and I would expect her son to want that too.

(((granite))) I'm sorry your father was acting like that. I'm hoping that he really was just concerned but it came out badly. It was awful to yell at you like that though. You deserve so much better.

Art what do you think made the difference today? Did t explain what was going on with her?

Yes she said that she had been scared by just how gone I was - she actually used the word "possessed" when describing how I seemed - I did not like that word - and she said something like she reacted without thinking - or something like that. I've already forgotten exactly how she explained her own part. She apologized as much as I did. I wish I could remember word for word the entire conversation!! This was definitely up there in the realm of my top 3 sessions ever.

Bleergh!

The bank has stuffed up my account and has a debit listed twice which means I won't have money to go to T on Monday as I am trying very hard not to owe any more invoices. But I have something I really need to discuss before he goes on leave, as it is about his leave and my feelings around them. It could take a few days to resolve this bank thing or up to 45 days! I am thinking he probably won't mind me owing another invoice but at the same time I think it matters very much to him. He has said its not about the money but about the stress I feel around them. Just thinking out loud.

(((Granite)))
All the times I feel lonely knowing I am the last off my family are countered when I hear family tales like this and I am glad they cannot hurt me anymore.

I was going to write some sort of reply to you, but Granite--your father is abusive to you as well. I'm sorry you have the shiteiest luck with your gene pool. it is disgusting.
She was allowed to be in the car today, and even if her father disagreed with what she was doing, SHE IS A GROWN ADULT. He can be aggravated or whatever at her, but no need to cuss her and her son out over it. A little much, eh?

I really am waiting and hoping for the day for Granite to come here and tell us she's had ENOUGH with the abusive family she has, and cuts them out

(by the way--this is NOT me judging you for not being able to do it right now. I know it needs to happen in your own way and in your own time to figure out how to best protect yourself)

Granite, I'm not defending your father, but it sounds a bit like your health/surgery has scared your father a bit. He's handling it completely crappy, but his overreaction kind of sounds like a fear. He'd probably never admit that to you though, and instead of just being honest about it, he took it out on you. That was not right of him at all.

My husband used to do that to me when I was not well. It was what he knew (old patterns of behavior he learned from his own family). He's learned differently now and doesn't do that anymore, but sometimes people who don't have healthy ways of dealing with emotions (and I suspect your whole family has that problem) act out in very unhealthy ways. It's not right, but sometimes just acknowledging that their reaction has much more to do with them than you can put the responsibility in the right place in our mind.

((BCM)) I think your T won't mind, or he wouldn't say it's not about the money.