What if your T accidently farted or vomited in therapy?

SarahSweden · Nov 14, 2016, 06:16 AM

I think for me this would be more embarrassing than everything else, including almost every issue I need to talk about. To me it doesn´t matter it´s "human", I would find it extremely embarrassing and perhaps also anxiety inducing. It´s not about being offended or finding it unacceptable but though embarrassing.

I would most surely get red in my face and I would have a hard time carry on. If my T accidently vomited it had probably depended on her suddenly getting some stomach sickness and if I wasn´t all too nauseated myself I had offered to help her clean up.

I´ve never experienced any of this but I can easily put myself in such a situation and no talk would ease this, just letting the embarrassment pass. As it would of course, but still.

What about you? What would you do? Have you experienced something like this with your T?

growlycat · Nov 14, 2016, 07:48 AM

I think my last t did accidentally fart in therapy. I didn't notice a noise or smell but he seemed flustered all of the sudden and a little red in the face. They are human and it actually helps me to be reminded of this. They aren't perfect

Nov 14, 2016, 07:49 AM

I don't even think about such things.

I have these things happen to students. I don't think much about the farting except to just move the class on so as other students don't embarrass the student. I'm an adult; it doesn't phase me otherwise.

Vomiting is a sign of illness, so I'd be more concerned than anything. Why embarrassed?

atisketatasket · Nov 14, 2016, 08:34 AM

Yes, why embarrassed? If anything the therapist should be the embarrassed one. Is it because it would remind you that they are human?

I'm also curious what made you think of this - did this happen?

Nov 14, 2016, 10:07 AM

Questions like these have never crossed my mind. Don't think I would care about farting. Sudden vomiting would be a surprise for sure but it would not interfere with my respect for my therapist at all, I think... unless they were intoxicated in session or something. These things are not character flaws or poor behaviors and can be beyond control. I would imagine that a T would likely excuse him/herself and go to the bathroom if they felt it coming... at least that's what I would do.

unaluna · Nov 14, 2016, 10:17 AM

Or to take it down a notch, what happens if client or t needs to use the bathroom during the hour? You have to announce or accommodate the need. Maybe thats whats so prickly. Theres no denial allowed at that moment.

Nov 14, 2016, 10:23 AM

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Or to take it down a notch, what happens if client or t needs to use the bathroom during the hour? You have to announce or accommodate the need. Maybe thats whats so prickly. Theres no denial allowed at that moment.

My T sometimes goes to the bathroom mid-session (also almost every time just before we start), to pee I guess. I suspect there is a medical cause behind it (he's middle aged male) and I have no problem at all. He tends to give me at least a few more minutes over the 45 regularly so the bathroom breaks do not take away anything. Much better that he goes than feeling uncomfortable during session and I like that he is relaxed enough to do this.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 14, 2016, 10:49 AM

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Or to take it down a notch, what happens if client or t needs to use the bathroom during the hour? You have to announce or accommodate the need. Maybe thats whats so prickly. Theres no denial allowed at that moment.

My husband has left to use the bathroom numerous times during marriage counseling sessions. (Funny, he didn't do that for a long time after I admitted to the transference for MC...) He generally has to pee twice as often as me (even when I was pregnant!) and usually has a big cup of coffee during session. I'm OK with it, as is MC. I've left to use the bathroom once during an individual T session, but that was because I was having a panic attack and looking for some excuse to get out of there for a minute to collect myself. (Tried to do the same in an MC session, but he was on to me and suggested all three of us walk outside together instead.)

Pretty sure T has never made any bodily emissions (not even so much as a yawn! maybe a cough or two) MC has done his share of burping and yawning in session (sometimes apologizing/excusing himself, sometimes not). No audible farting, but H said he got a whiff once or twice. (I'm sure you're all totally understanding the transference now!

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LonesomeTonight · Nov 14, 2016, 10:54 AM

Oh, and I have pretty bad emetophobia (fear of vomiting), so if one of them did that, I'd probably leap up and run out the door, then text them once I was outside to apologize and ask if they were OK.

1stepatatime · Nov 14, 2016, 11:00 AM

Oh wow... vomiting? I have pretty bad anxiety when it comes to that so if it did happen I'd have to leave her office. I highly, highly doubt that my therapist would up-chuck all over the place.. I'm certain that she would excuse herself and make a mad dash for the restroom. I tend to think that vomiting would be more likely with a client due to bringing up ( no pun intended.. ; ) issues that are extremely difficult .. however I am happy to say I've not had the lovely experience!

SoConfused623 · Nov 14, 2016, 11:05 AM

It's funny that this is coming up as last night I had the sudden urge to pee and while I never had an accident, it crossed my mind that it would be horrible if I ever peed my pants while in session. If T farted, and if she knew that I knew I might make a joke or simply ignore. it. I too am horrible around people throwing up and personally think that it's the worst thing in the world and LT...I did not know that there was a word for it, but I guess I have that phobia too!! If that happened, I'd probably run but am not sure. It's highly unlikely that it would ever happen as I'd think that she like anyone else would know it was coming and make it to the bathroom.

She has never excused herself to go to the restroom and I only did once when I was crying and wanted a couple of minutes to myself. If I did have to go mid-session, I would just tell her and go...no big deal to me.

stopdog · Nov 14, 2016, 11:26 AM

I would handle it like in any other situation. I am an adult. I don't think about these sorts of things in general and don't worry about them at all.

coolibrarian · Nov 14, 2016, 11:52 AM

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Oh, and I have pretty bad emetophobia (fear of vomiting), so if one of them did that, I'd probably leap up and run out the door, then text them once I was outside to apologize and ask if they were OK.

LT, I have emetophobia, too, although it is not as bad as it used to be. I understand, completely, leaping up and running out the door.

Argonautomobile · Nov 14, 2016, 12:00 PM

It had never really occurred to me to worry about. I wonder if my T has a solid wastebasket, or one of those wire mesh deals that would basically just act as a puke colander? Hahaha.

growlycat · Nov 14, 2016, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Or to take it down a notch, what happens if client or t needs to use the bathroom during the hour? You have to announce or accommodate the need. Maybe thats whats so prickly. Theres no denial allowed at that moment.

With long term t sometimes I had to excuse myself to the restroom on occasion and so has he. I'm glad we got to a place where we were both comfortable enough to say so.

Never with sparky. He never stepped out and neither did I.

Recently with Kashi I admitted having some odd phobias around restroom availability. Most of it is just in my head but a small component is medical. He disclosed a past medical issues that left him with similar worries at the time. I don't mind the TMI if it means t has a better understanding of what I go through.

SoConfused623 · Nov 14, 2016, 12:03 PM

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It had never really occurred to me to worry about. I wonder if my T has a solid wastebasket, or one of those wire mesh deals that would basically just act as a puke colander? Hahaha.

LMAO at "Puke Collander!"

AllHeart · Nov 14, 2016, 12:16 PM

Interesting topic! I wouldn't care if my t accidentally farted. Haven't the majority of us had one accidentally slip out in front of someone else? The farter gets embarrassed for a moment, the fartee quickly thinks, "omg, did she just fart?," the fart is ignored or a chuckle or two may follow along with words of reassurance from fartee to farter, story ends. Farts happen.

As for vomitting -- I would be sympathetic to her situation. I would help her clean up if needed, and would ask what she needed (water, help carrying stuff to her car, etc.) before leaving. Same as what I'd do for anyone who suddenly became sick. I'd probably follow up with her later in the day to see how she was feeling and then forget about it.

bounceback · Nov 14, 2016, 12:17 PM

I actually had one who needed to use the bathroom during session. She was having stomach issues and I heard her stomach rumbling and then she said she would be right back. It is normal no big deal.

Creamsicle · Nov 14, 2016, 01:20 PM

My T (who is older, about 70) once stood up at the end of the session and realized, I guess, after she stood that she had to go to the bathroom very badly. She announced to me that she had to "pee immediately" and then basically walked to the bathroom very quickly, leaving me in her office gathering my stuff. She was unfazed by it all. I have a lot of bathroom shyness personally so I was embarrassed, but it was actually good for me to see how a healthy person reacts in that situation and it reminded me that she's human too.

BayBrony · Nov 14, 2016, 02:05 PM

I stepped in dog poop and accidentally got it all over my It's carpet. I'm pretty sure whatever happens we'd roll with it.

awkwardlyyours · Nov 14, 2016, 02:18 PM

If she farted AND vomited at the same time, I'd be in utter awe at the (what seems to be a) superhuman feat.

If she ONLY farted OR vomited.............booooooring.

1stepatatime · Nov 14, 2016, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

It had never really occurred to me to worry about. I wonder if my T has a solid wastebasket, or one of those wire mesh deals that would basically just act as a puke colander? Hahaha.

Omg, "puke colander "... ewwwww!!! Lololol

1stepatatime · Nov 14, 2016, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

If she farted AND vomited at the same time, I'd be in utter awe at the (what seems to be a) superhuman feat.

If she ONLY farted OR vomited.............booooooring.

Lmaoffffff.

Nov 14, 2016, 04:59 PM

My t always belches at least twice during each session. At first I was shocked because she looks like such a lady but now I am used to it. A few weeks ago she had to run to the toilet in the middle of our session. I asked if she was alright when she got back and she said of course, why wouldn't I be