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Old Dec 28, 2017, 11:47 AM
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TMC,

I wish it too.

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Old Jan 02, 2018, 02:52 AM
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Annie,
I am not disappointed in you. You have been trying so hard -- of course you will slip up. You're human. We all do. I am so proud of you for taking on sobriety, and one bad day doesn't mean it's all over for you. You can keep going, one day at a time. I believe in you.
Love you and see you in August,
T
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Old Jan 02, 2018, 11:08 AM
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Dear LT,
I'm kind of shocked that I haven't heard from you yet. Not even one e-mail? Sure, I was away part of the time, but that hasn't stopped you before. Though I suppose it's not noon tomorrow yet...I should have made this request to reduce contact long ago! My inbox and iMessage are breathing a sigh of relief, as am I!
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Old Jan 02, 2018, 03:29 PM
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What I'm scared he'd say:
MBM17, It's been nice, but this is the end. I'm done. I don't really care. You think you're such a big deal. You think you're suffering. You agonize about all these "big emotions" you talk about. You talk about all the things you "can't say" or are "too afraid to say" and you won't tell them to me. Get over it already. You think you've had trauma with past therapists and you keep whining about it.
You're too attached. You're care too much, and that's inappropriate.
You're manipulative and a bad person and a drain on everyone around you.
Meh, I'm done with all of it.
I don't care to keep doing this, so see ya later. Have a nice life. I have better things to do with my time.

What he'd probably really say:
MBM17, I'm on your team. I've told you that. I'm still here, and you won't be too much. It's okay that you don't believe that yet. You will. We're stable.

Because that's what he really says.
I can totally relate to your fearful statement. I hope it isn’t true for either of us.
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Old Jan 02, 2018, 03:54 PM
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First day back at work tomorrow. And it's RS in the morning. Not exactly easing my way back into work gently...
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Old Jan 02, 2018, 06:42 PM
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Dear LT,
You were kind of a hot mess today, but it actually helped me to see you in that highly anxious, vulnerable state. I got to see what was really going on below the surface. Of course, I wish you hadn't been so late due to the keys issue--hopefully you've learned for the future!--but I think there was some benefit to your being so raw. You were very open about what you were feeling, and it was clear that you're not ready to tell MC it's time to work on termination. So, like I said, take your time.

And you're clearly scared about trusting me. I understand that. But I'm not planning on going anywhere. I hope the e-mail made you realize that I really do care. I'm also not going to make any promises that I don't know if I can keep, like not abandoning you. I'll just do my best to be here for you and support you as much as I can. Because I really care about your well-being and happiness. I hope you could feel that in my parting words and handshake, because that's what I was trying to convey to you--caring.
Take care (OK, that's a little redundant),
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Old Jan 02, 2018, 08:27 PM
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Oh, Art... that stuff you emailed me after our last session.... don't you see, don't you see, we're so on the verge of some big work? I won't lie, I wish you'd come back. I love this work I do, I'm excited when you send me emails like that, I can't help it, I want to roll up my sleeves and really start digging deep, don't you? I can't believe you really want to run away from this.
Waiting for your call,
t
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Old Jan 03, 2018, 03:27 AM
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Hi Lost,

Thank you for your email. I can tell that you are concerned about the amount we will have to fit in before the 15th, but I will be with you before, and after. Thank you for emailing the song...I didn't mind at all.

Take care,

R
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Old Jan 03, 2018, 08:46 AM
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TMC,

My feelings haven't changed. I am still here. I am not leaving. Everything is ok.

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Old Jan 03, 2018, 04:38 PM
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I'm okay with your feelings. I'm fine with them. I just seemed distant because I was processing everything you were saying to me. There is a lot there.
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Old Jan 03, 2018, 05:26 PM
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Dear LT,
Well, that was kind of a surprise...I never thought you'd actually choose to leave. I suspect I'll hear from you before the month is out--either to schedule sooner or an e-mail about feelings--but that's OK.
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Old Jan 04, 2018, 04:08 PM
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Old Jan 04, 2018, 05:13 PM
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You're safe. You're safe. You're safe.
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Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few
A man can see his way clear to the light
Just hold on tight, that's all you gotta do...'

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Old Jan 04, 2018, 05:25 PM
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Old Jan 04, 2018, 09:57 PM
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Dear Elio,

Why do you have to be so selfish? It's not all about you, you know.

Dr. S
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Old Jan 05, 2018, 02:34 AM
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Annie,
It's ok to be scared. In fact, it would be weird if you weren't. Don't let your anxiety take this from you, though. You are about to go on the adventure of a lifetime, and you deserve that joy. Be mindful. Be present. Take it all in.
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Old Jan 05, 2018, 02:41 AM
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See - I'm consistently consistent. I'm awesome. Stop doubting me.

*actually T would say it's fine to doubt him so this is probably just what I would say to myself
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Old Jan 07, 2018, 06:19 PM
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A,
Why are you so insistent on figuring yourself out using words? Can't you just be? Is everything you say about your inner experience real or are you just guessing? You really don't know, do you? I get the feeling that your inner experience is one of mass chaos, of which there is no cosmos to be found. And I also think that you are in a state of disorder, and there is no secret order to be seen. There is no rhyme or reason for what you are doing. Nobody understands you, including you. We are going to make it through this. You are not alone. Please remember to accept yourself while we are working on this, because that is of paramount importance, as you know. We are okay and so are you.
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Old Jan 07, 2018, 06:32 PM
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Dear LT,
I'm amazed that you haven't contacted me yet...
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 02:09 AM
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So you fell off the wagon, huh? Well, get back on that f--king wagon. Get it together. I refuse to see you throw your life away like this.
T
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 02:21 AM
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'aww, are you a widdle bit angry with me... thats so cuuute......OUCH.. YOU JUST BIT ME!!!'
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 10:00 AM
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You're a lost cause. Stop wasting insurance money and stop coming.
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 11:25 AM
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Dear Butterfly,

You're seeing me earlier so you can tell me something. What's up? I hope you are okay.

-T

(I'm hanging on)
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 01:26 PM
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Art, you really challenge me sometimes. I get it, where you are, because I've been there, and that's why you challenge me, cuz I gotta go there with you without going there for me, iykwim. That's convoluted enough that you probably do. Heh.

We'll talk again when you're ready.

Your fellow traveler and lover of the magic,
T
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Old Jan 08, 2018, 01:35 PM
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Maybe you're kinda like Fritz Perls.... he was kind of a jerk, but he did a lot to help other people.
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