Dear Client

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 08, 2018, 02:00 PM

I know this is the worst possible time. If I could help it, then I wouldn't have gone.
You are safe, and you are so brave. Lean into that, and you will get through...I promise.

Take care,

R

Lemoncake · Jan 08, 2018, 02:31 PM

S

I gave you a set time for Tuesday. Please just leave me alone already. You're the worst client I have and I would be disgusted to have a daughter like you -because you are so damn needy. Your father was right you are a mistake. Did you ever think that it was you- there's a reason you don't have any friends. I lied when I said that I cared about you and I honestly wouldn't want a doctor like you either- your too unstable. Just give up already. I'm tired of listening to you and I'd be happy if you stopped coming.

Anastasia~ · 03:18 AM

A,
I was really perplexed by your statement, "I wasn't sure if I was angry or if I thought I was just angry," and told you so. Then I answered that question by telling you that you were experiencing depersonalization and derealization, which makes your not making sense make sense. Does that make sense? You just might be certifiable. We'll wait and see. . .
T

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 12, 2018, 02:50 PM

Lost,

It definitely hadn't escaped my attention, and I really wish I could be there to support you through this. I am well aware that a perceived reduction in your support system at this time would be the least helpful thing...and I am so sorry.

Please take care of yourself. Please?

R

annielovesbacon · Jan 12, 2018, 08:47 PM

Annie,
You are doing so well. You have a lot to be proud of. You are just getting started, and I know it will get harder before it will get easier, but you can do it. You are brave. Remember to stay present and feel every moment.
T

MBM17 · Jan 26, 2018, 02:36 PM

Um YES I'm going to read into what you emailed and texted! I'm a new therapist. That's what I do.

toomanycats · Jan 26, 2018, 03:15 PM

I'm still here.

~C

LonesomeTonight · Jan 26, 2018, 03:32 PM

(Hoped for):
Dear LT,
You seem really afraid of anything I offer you, like the e-mail last Friday or offering up someone else's slot (assuming he says it's OK) for next week. Like, if you accept it, then I'll think you're "too much" and reject you. But I do that because I care. You're an easy person to care about--you seem dedicated to wanting to get better, to do the work, to understand yourself. I know you're probably very wary because I'm another male authority figure. But I know what you dealt with regarding MC, and now I know what you dealt with regarding the teacher. If I didn't think I could handle it, whatever attachment might come out, I would have referred you out by now. I'm not MC or that teacher. Please try to remember that. And please try to accept my caring and, well, my acceptance. You're struggling, and I want to help. Plus, I mean, you are paying me...(and giving me some extra cash lately!) But seriously, I do want to help, or I wouldn't have chosen this career. Could I pick an easier client? Sure! But why would I want to do that? That's boring! I like the challenge...and I like working with you.
--T

mcl6136 · Jan 27, 2018, 01:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

Dear Quarter-Life-Crisis,

You don't need to be here, but I'm happy to see you anyway. I'm happy to see you because I'm tired. The clinic is underfunded and I'm underpaid. I work too much and my personal life is ****. That's why I run so much. The vast majority of my clients face endemic social issues I am, basically, powerless to address: Homelessness, poverty, lack of education and employment. Most of them are heroin addicts. This is the population to whom I have chosen to dedicate my life.

You come in and talk about Descartes. And Beavers.

I wish you'd talk about Descartes less because I find it dull and it makes me feel stupid. Other times, when your extended adolescence is sticking out like a sore thumb, you ask me easy questions. Like how to file a w-2 and whether beavers eat fish. I went to school too many years to be a glorified guidance counselor for Millennials, which is why I don't work with people like you full time, but it still flatters my ego to feel knowledgeable.

Please stop writing my inner monologue now. It's weird and you have better things to do with your time. Maybe go breathe mindfully or something, M'kay?

Best,

T

This is f+++in hilarious

Jan 27, 2018, 01:00 PM

Hi Art.

Thank you for calling yesterday. I felt that something was going on with you but I couldn't contact you first.

I am here.

T

annielovesbacon · Jan 27, 2018, 11:42 PM

Annie,
Remember how I said you can call me if you're struggling? Just keep that in mind, OK?
T

emeraldheart · Jan 28, 2018, 02:04 PM

Emerald,

If you don’t let me in and see your insecurities, then how are we supposed to work on them? Also, you need to let me know when you are not okay and not just sit and fake-smile through it.

Argonautomobile · Feb 16, 2018, 11:16 PM

You know, Argo, just because you feel a certain way doesn't mean the world owes you a particular response. Yes, your feelings are real and valid and so on, but so are other people's. Your feeling x doesn't take precedence over someone else's feeling y. You might feel hurt, but by no means does that mean others are obligated to stop feeling whatever they're feeling and attend to you instead.

This isn't to say your feelings don't matter. They do matter. To you. It does not automatically follow that they matter to other people. Your desire to be soothed is not more important than someone else's desire to not give a ****.

What I'm saying is, Your feelings are your problem, Argo. Nobody else's. So maybe stop being so relentlessly self-absorbed and do something proactive instead of waiting around for external validation. Nobody's going to do it for you.

-Beavers

bobcat21 · Feb 17, 2018, 12:25 AM

Dear Bobcat21,
I really get tired of you saying oh boo hoo Paxil isn’t working.Have you even given it a chance? All you do is say no it isn’t working for me. I just want to rip my hair out my hair with you at times. I am the therapist not you and when you point out well it makes me really tired and I can’t even focus and I’m moody!! Bobcat you need work it out.. I really can’t deal with the medication problems anymore. Maybe one day I’ll change Paxil but until then you just have to power through I’m really burnt out with you at the moment.

LostOnTheTrail · Feb 17, 2018, 06:27 AM

You're safe, Lost. It feels like hell, because it is...you can do this.

annielovesbacon · Feb 18, 2018, 01:49 AM

Keep going, Annie. Don't give up. This has always been your dream, and I promise you're not ruining it. Just try your best to get up each day and live. Try to be present in every moment, even the bad ones.

Merope · Feb 18, 2018, 06:53 AM

"Hello Merope,

I see a lot more than you think I do. I know you are anxious when you twist your fingers. I know you are ashamed when you speak without looking at me. I know you are insecure when you exhibit that over-the-top politeness and people pleasing attitude: there is no need to express profuse 'thank yous' at the end of every session. I know you have deep-rooted abandonment issues and I know that sometimes you are still afraid that I too, will abandon you. I will not.

I can see the feelings of transference that are oozing out of you; yes, those times when you tried to beat around the bush and hint at it were noted. I am looking forward to the day when you will open up to me without fear of being reprimanded. Until then, it's okay to keep staring at me as if afraid I will evaporate if you look away. I don't mind. I'm here. I've got you.

P.S. I know you googled me. Perhaps we should address your propensity for cyberstalking next session, yes?"

At least this is what I wish. Of course, what he's probably thinking is "Ah, here's the 7:00 o'clock weirdo. One more hour and I can go home. Power through." LOL.

junkDNA · Feb 18, 2018, 09:37 AM

Yes I'm dead

Feb 18, 2018, 01:24 PM

Hey, Art. Are you coming back?

Feb 18, 2018, 01:38 PM

I could fall into the countertransference trap.

annielovesbacon · Feb 18, 2018, 08:29 PM

Today was bad. Try again tomorrow.

Feb 18, 2018, 08:46 PM

Dear BM,

I don't hate you, you hate you. Stop projecting that on to me.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 18, 2018, 09:46 PM

Dear LT,
I knew that e-mail was coming eventually! Thought it would be much sooner though.

--MC

LonesomeTonight · Feb 18, 2018, 09:49 PM

Dear LT,
Whee! I'm on vacation having a fabulous time not having to deal with you or my other clients. I wish I hadn't told you I'd be checking e-mail while I was away, but hopefully, after my "intrusive" comment regarding your texts, you'll have enough sense not to e-mail me while I'm gone. You seemed sufficiently shamed when I said it. But you completely mystify me, and seem extremely needy and way too attached, so who knows if you'd pick up on my subtle hints?
--T

atisketatasket · Feb 18, 2018, 09:59 PM

Dear LT’s T,

I never do subtle, particularly in matters of dress. And it works well for me.

—Info (ATAT’s T)

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