transitional objects and our Ts

Has anyone ever asked their T for a transitional object to hang onto when T is gone away? A transitional object is like a teddy bear or other object that a kid likes to sleep with, for instance. I actually confessed to my T that on one particularly awful day I just wanted an old shirt of his to cuddle ... a shirt that smelled like him ... not that I have ever been close enough to ever actually smell him.lol I was so embarrassed telling him that but as usual he accepted my feelings with grace without making me feel stupid.

No, I've never asked for one. But he always gives me a bottle of water when I am there, and I take these bottles home with me and refill them and reuse them. I like having these objects from his office. It makes me feel just an eeny little bit closer to him.

YES. AND I LOVE IT!!

My T bought me a waterglobe at Easter. I keep it by my bedside to remind me I will heal.

Several weeks ago - I bought two rainbow painted keys. I gave one to her and we kept one. It's so that we have an object to physically hold and small enough to keep in our pocket to bring with us everywhere. When she went on vacation, she emailed us and told us "I'm going to bring my key with me!! I will not forget you!!"

No, I am so afraid to show him that I can't handle when he leaves,on vacations, I am afraid he will drop me as a client. The closes I came was his vacation in July, he left for a week and the night before his vacation he called me to make sure I was ok, and to remind me he left his collegues number for me to call her if I need her. I told him I was scared to go through the week without him there, he told me if I needed him to call the office and they would call him, he wasn't going away just hanging at home for the week. I think I re-read his emails a million times that week to stay grounded!!!

I had a note (from the first session, she taped it to the outside door to tell me how to get to the office) I kept for a year and then gave to her and told her about (I didn't need it anymore :-)

I've done the "opposite" and given my T a small object to hold/keep for me until I ask for it back. That works well too.

I never asked for any (have always wanted something), but T started giving them to me on his own. The first two things he gave me were short, typed-out passages that he felt reminded him of me and would be symbolic to me... they came from books he was reading. The third (and most meaningful to me) thing he gave me is a copy of Schubert's string quartet in G major. Actually he told me that for tomorrow's session he wants to talk about how the music has served as a transitional object for me. What I really appreciate about the things that he gives me are:

I never had to ask for anything; rather he sensed that I needed something.

That he makes every effort to help me stay connected in between sessions.

That each thing he has chosen to give me has been a complete representation of me as a person. It shows that he truly knows and "gets" me.

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stormyangels said:
YES. AND I LOVE IT!!

My T bought me a waterglobe at Easter. I keep it by my bedside to remind me I will heal.

Several weeks ago - I bought two rainbow painted keys. I gave one to her and we kept one. It's so that we have an object to physically hold and small enough to keep in our pocket to bring with us everywhere. When she went on vacation, she emailed us and told us "I'm going to bring my key with me!! I will not forget you!!"



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Wow oh wow! I think your T is really awesome! I am slightly envious!

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pinksoil said:
I never had to ask for anything; rather he sensed that I needed something.

That he makes every effort to help me stay connected in between sessions.

That each thing he has chosen to give me has been a complete representation of me as a person. It shows that he truly knows and "gets" me.

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Pink I really like your T. I have read your posts for awhile now and think he is just awesome overall. I am so happy that you have him. Can I have him too? lol