[junkDNA]

so, ive just discovered that my former T was arrested this year in october 30 minutes from where i live.

he was arrested for "assault on a female"

i am actually kind of glad- i now have proof that his life has gone to sh**

ive always wondered... i feel....glad.

maybe he'll finally go to prison where he belongs

i would love to know the details around this, but cant find any

i am surprisingly not triggered or upset

Very validating, but that must have been unsettling at the same time. ((((Hugs))))

[Out There]

Your feelings may surface as you process this JD , so stay safe.

[junkDNA]

thanks... i see my T tomorrow.. i guess ill talk to him about it

its weird because i never saw my T as physically violent.... evil, manipulative, coercive....yea.... but not physically violent. so i am really interested in trying to find out what happened

it looks like theyve already had his court date...i cant find any info on if he was convicted or not

[growlycat]

Glad to see an unethical t finally get what they deserve.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Maybe you can check his status on the State Licensing web site.
Yes. Take care. You may have a delayed response. I had 2 Pdoc who got busted.

[CyclingPsych]

My psychiatrist a few years ago got arrested but set up a 1 million dollar bail... lol.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by Ocean Swimmer

Maybe you can check his status on the State Licensing web site.
Yes. Take care. You may have a delayed response. I had 2 Pdoc who got busted.

his license was taken away forever because of what he did to me. that was in 2010

[LonesomeTonight]

Hugs...please stay safe. Not sure if your state has a place where you can look up arrest records--where I live, there's a database, and you can see exactly what someone was charged with (since it's technically public record).

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs...please stay safe. Not sure if your state has a place where you can look up arrest records--where I live, there's a database, and you can see exactly what someone was charged with (since it's technically public record).

it just says the date, the county, and "assault on a female" it also says his bond is 0.00, not sure what that means? does it mean there was no bond for him?

i looked up his arrest in the county database, it says his trial was on 12/02... i cant find anything about what happened on that day though

[precaryous]

Have you tried to google his name & county....then click news? You might find news articles about him.

Most counties have a website for the district court that you can search.

[junkDNA]

i cant find anything more than ive already seen

thats kinda weird

i guess its really not that important... just curiosity

[Erebos]

Do they. With hold details if the victim is minor where u are? Also pleading guilty can sometimes minimize coverage or release of details over here. Anyway hope you stay chilled. All the best,as always.

I hope he rots in jail for a very long time.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by Erebos

Do they. With hold details if the victim is minor where u are? Also pleading guilty can sometimes minimize coverage or release of details over here. Anyway hope you stay chilled. All the best,as always.

yes they usually do withhold details if the victim is a minor.

i COULD call the courthouse and ask some questions, since its all public knowledge. i dont know if i will though, i feel like i shouldnt get all hung up on this

i feel like i shouldnt get all hung up on this

Maybe time will tell.

[xenko]

At least your therapist was arrested. Glad to hear it. My former T is on the loose and continues to abuse me (indirectly - he's careful about covering his tracks).

[kecanoe]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

yes they usually do withhold details if the victim is a minor.

i COULD call the courthouse and ask some questions, since its all public knowledge. i dont know if i will though, i feel like i shouldnt get all hung up on this

Not getting hung up is a good plan. Perhaps talking over with t will hlep you decide. In any event, waiting a while won't change things.

Also, please take care of yourself. It seems like this might dredge up some yuck.

[Luce]

Junk, so you didn't talk to your T about this? Is there some dissociation going on there?

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by Luce

Junk, so you didn't talk to your T about this? Is there some dissociation going on there?

Hey luce

I did mention it to my therapist. We discussed it briefly but I changed the subject. I told my T what I wrote here, that it felt weird because I never saw former T as physically violent. My T said like just manipulative? And I said yeah. My T asked me how I felt about knowing this. I told him I feel ok, and I am actually kind of pleased, lol. Pleased to know he isn't doing well.

My T asked me why I Googled him. I said I don't know, I do it from time to time. T asked if it is morbid curiosity and I said yeh basically

I didn't go very much into it with my therapist.

To be honest I don't really feel upset over it but I have noticed I've been getting a little obsessed with it in my mind, like trying to imagine the scenario

I think there is some overall dissociation over what he did to me... I very often feel so removed from it as if it didn't happen to me. Like it's just some movie I watched or some novel I read

[CantExplain]

One of my fantasies is that Madame T gets arrested. That would vindicate my decision to quit and make it less of a personal failure.

But she's far too upright to do anything criminal.

[junkDNA]

i feel sad for my former T's family

i know this makes me sound like a horrible person...like a mistress, basically a homewrecker

my T was married with 2 small children. after everything blew up , he was divorced. i dont know if he sees his kids anymore. i feel sad for those boys... i feel like its my fault. i dont even know if he ever confessed and admitted what happened. i know with the board investigation he did not admit anything, said he didnt concur with their findings, but agreed to let him take his license. he didnt even want a trial to happen, which i was relieved about at the time. he wouldnt cooperate with their investigation, which spurred them to suspend his license while the investigation was going on.

i think a lot about how he feels about the whole thing. like, if i could ask him one question, that would be it.

This was in no way your fault JD. You are not a homewrecker you are a victim and he is an abuser. His family are his victims too, and that's all on him.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by Echos Myron

This was in no way your fault JD. You are not a homewrecker you are a victim and he is an abuser. His family are his victims too, and that's all on him.

thanks, i try to tell myself that. im definitely a lot better at it than i was when it happened. i pretty much still loved him and would get angry when people would call him a monster... i defended him hardcore. it was liek stockholm syndrome i guess