My therapist's clothes

So I have been saying a new therapist (since my ex T terminated me 4 months ago) for two months. We've had 7 sessions so far. She's alright. I actually clicked with her on the first session and decided to keep seeing her based on a gut feeling. There is one thing though that bothers me and it's her clothes. I know I shouldn't care about this but I do. She's 42 but she dresses like a teenager: hoodie, ripped jeans (who wears those past 16?) and Addidas sneakers or Converse (I don't know if that's how you call these shoes in the US so I've added a picture for clarification). I thought it was odd at first but now I find it annoying because I think it's unprofessional. Like would you wear ripped jeans at work? I wouldn't unless I was working at a surfer shop or something. She's a therapist, she really should be wearing more professional clothes. All the therapists I previously saw were wearing business clothes. So maybe I'm just not used to this. What do you guys think? Do you care about your T's clothes? Does it affect you?

I would not see a therapist who wore Crocs.

Nice to see you here Myrto.

Work dress has gotten much more casual in the US. I remember having to wear a suit to work every day! Now, casual is the way to go, but usually not as extreme as you are describing. In my experience, people throughout different areas of Europe always seemed to be more put together in terms of day to day dress. It seems like we dress more sloppily here, so it was surprising to hear this.

I'm kind of older and dress like that too, but not to work. I might feel a bit unsettled if my therapist dressed like that. I'd explore the issue. For me, it would have me questioning the emotional stability of my therapist, maybe her maturity. Not to judge a book by its cover, but appearance does reflect things going on inside, even if just a little.

If i liked the therapist otherwise, I'd accept it but would probably ask her about it. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking her why she dresses like that, and it could be asked in a polite manner. If she's a good therapist, she'd probably take responsibility in knowing that how she dresses might send vibes to clients. Much of communication is non-verbal.

As a side note, I fully support dressing comfortably and in ways that express yourself!

As I've mentioned in my post, my therapist wears crocs. She has foot problems and trouble walking, so I can see why she might find them comfortable. Crocs have extra space for accommodating the special socks that she wears.

I just realized that up until now I thought all female therapists dressed like Dr. Melfi in The Sopranos.

I'm glad we cleared this up.

I've been having a psychologist from my health care provider call me weekly for a few months. I never met her in person. She has a gorgeous voice...very vibrant and full-bodied. Ageless, mature, yet sort of playful like she is always on the verge of laughing. The experience has made me realize how much power there is in a voice. I will probably never meet her and it's fine. So I will never know how she dresses.

Actually I'm 38 and I wear a hoodie and ripped jeans frequently. I wouldnt care what my T wore as long as they were a great T. That's just me though. Everybody is different. I also have a very casual job-so maybe that's partly why I don't really think much about that stuff.

So I have been saying a new therapist (since my ex T terminated me 4 months ago) for two months. We've had 7 sessions so far. She's alright. I actually clicked with her on the first session and decided to keep seeing her based on a gut feeling. There is one thing though that bothers me and it's her clothes. I know I shouldn't care about this but I do. She's 42 but she dresses like a teenager: hoodie, ripped jeans (who wears those past 16?) and Addidas sneakers or Converse (I don't know if that's how you call these shoes in the US so I've added a picture for clarification). I thought it was odd at first but now I find it annoying because I think it's unprofessional. Like would you wear ripped jeans at work? I wouldn't unless I was working at a surfer shop or something. She's a therapist, she really should be wearing more professional clothes. All the therapists I previously saw were wearing business clothes. So maybe I'm just not used to this. What do you guys think? Do you care about your T's clothes? Does it affect you?

I would be put off by that too... I don't think therapists should be expected to dress formally or anything, but they should be held to the same standards that most people are in the workplace. I guess the same sort of dress code that, say, a teacher would have? Otherwise it just suggests to me that they don't treat the job (or their clients) with very much respect, I guess.

I don't often notice my T's clothes (though I would if he was wearing a hoodie and ripped jeans!), though the other day he was wearing his shoes - he doesn't usually - and I noticed they were pretty scruffy...