Couch 134 - The Untriquadium Couch

thinking of you stopdog

i know theres not much we can say except sorry, and the other things that people say in these situations... i hope you are doing okay

I'm very sorry for your loss SD...

I'm going to work at 10. I haven't been to work since Saturday, and I haven't been there sober....should be interesting...

I'm caught up in the obsession that my therapist hates me...again

I'm sorry for your loss, SD.

)))Sd(((

SD, I will be thinking about you during this time.

Oh no Stopdog! That is such sad news! May she rest in peace.

stop i hope you are doing ok . im sorry

My condolences, stopdog.

It's good to see you here, granite. I've missed you (though maybe I just haven't been around when you have been here.) How are you?

SD, I'm sorry to hear that. My condolences. May your person Rest In Peace.

Am so sorry about your loss, SD.

My condolences to you & yours, SD. You're in my thoughts.

I'm sorry sd... If there's anything we can do, let us know.

Oh Sd, I am sorry. How are you doing? (Clearly not great, obviously)

I have been thinking about you all day today SD. I know your needs for comfort a probably quiet different than mine. But I am hoping you have all the support around you that you need at this time.

Has anybody heard from ruh roh?

wanted to get some opinions: how long is too long to reconnect with someone on FB? Just curious what you all think.

SD, so sorry to hear about the loss of your person.

Heck, I've reconnected with childhood friends and I'm in my 50's.

More good news for my son today. He was awarded a $5000 music scholarship. His first year is just about taken care of -- no loan required. Woohoo!

)))SD((( I'm sorry for your loss. I know there's not much I can do for you over the Internet, but I'm sending good thoughts your way.

I would send myself this card today. Anyone else want one?

I need a stock pile of that card.

Last night I asked the question about ever not sharing something about your T in fear of reaction here. I feel like I want to share mine, only b/c its talked about here a lot. Dual relationships. It seems like there is always a hard yes that is fine, or a staunch no there should be no dual relationships with it comes to T and client.

Most of you know, that my kids and T's kids go to the same school. I used to be a teacher there and had regular interaction with the kids and T's wife. At the beginning of the school year T's wife texted me asking me for some ideas as she was looking for people to drive her kids home afterschool. After giving some names, and going back and forth.. I offered my services, they literally only live like 5mins away from school and I have brought many kids to and from school before so its not like something I would never offer to people.

So, I said I would be willing to do it. And she hopped on it. T and I talked about it next session and he said he is ok with it as long as I didn't feel pressured to do so because he was my T. And I said no way- I like your wife, and kids its really no a big deal to me. We just agreeded that I would only have contact with his wife when concerning his kids are rides. Except, of course if there was an emergency. Just to help keep the clear line of T and client.

It has gone really well, I enjoy his kids. It is helpful to drive to his house and see he lives like a normal human being. His garage is a little messy, see they ordered pizza a lot more than they like to admit lol. T checks in everyonce and awhile and makes sure I am still ok with everything. The one time that I thought twice about things is when like for Christmas his wife got me a card with a giftcard for a good amount to Target, as well as gift card to Starbucks at V-day just as a thank you.

I suppose it works until it doesn't work, and there is always time for it to go wrong. But- I think it won't. So, when I see people talk about dual relationships I so want to offer my opinion, but I am afraid people will judge my T and tell me that he is absolutely wrong and I am just blinded that I can't see it or something.