Couch 140: Knocking pans

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Beautiful pic!

Daughter and me at dinner tonight.

OK, I tried flipping the photo and resaving it, but it's still upside-down! You get the idea though...

Great pictures, everyone! Sounds like most are having a good day, which makes me happy

I'm debating whether or not to get a sub tomorrow. I'm already taking off Tuesday, but I feel miserable.

Me on the right.. My mom
.and my sister from the 90s

Me as a teen showing off my mom skills.. Not

Beautiful picture, LT!

Awww sweet pic JD!

eta: just saw the 2nd one, i'm glad there was no internet sharing of pictures when i was a teenager babysitting.... they would have looked just like this... lol

Y'all look like an awesome mom and daughter. The smiles say it all!!

The little one looks very comfy. Looks like your mom skills were right on.

Aw, thanks! She was very anti-getting her picture taken tonight. Your photo was lovely, too!

Aw, thanks, so was yours! Your son is so tall!

Nice pics everyone.
I spent an hour this morning with my mother. Dropped her off some flowers and offered to take her to dinner tonight. She didn't want to go to dinner and said the flowers were plenty. We spent like an hour just shooting the breeze and then I came back home.
I'm honestly over any anger I had with my mother and father. Holding onto that stuff was just bogging me down and I think it was about 2 years ago or so I just let it go. I think I let it go when I bought my house a couple years ago because my father stepped up and co-signed the mortgage for us when we weren't approved. At first when he offered to do it I told him-no way. I would rather rent for the rest of my life than take a favor from him. But then something changed with my mindset and I told him I accept the offer. I also told him straight out that because he was offering help and I was not asking for help, that I in no way, shape or form will make myself feel like I owe him anything in return. After I said that to him-he just said..alright, lets go to closing on this house. And we did. And he signed. And it was never brought up again.

Watching a horse that has been abused learn to trust is fascinating. Today H rode a horse that we are fostering. We know she's been badly treated because she sometimes gets violent. But today he asked he to cross a creek for the first time. The interesting thing was that watching me ride my horse calmly through the creek and to the other side did not seem to be at all confidence building. Watching the dogs romp through also was not convincing. What finally worked was my horse standing in the middle of the creek. That gave her confidence to put her feet in the water and once she'd done that, crossing was no big deal. She walked right across the rest of the crossings.

Reminds me that its ok for me to not make sense when it comes to trusting. Whatever works, right?

Thank you for posting this! There is much healing truth there.

I just realized that when I was little and read books - nancy drew, to kill a mockingbird, the happy hollisters, etc - I wanted to be the dad - I never really identified with the child characters - I wanted to be wise dad. Sometimes the grandmother/aunt/ cranky but wise old lady. Never the mother or the children. I did not want wise book dad in place of my own father - I identified myself with wise book dad.

Good lord. No wonder other children and my own mother thought I was a whackball.

I wanted to be the dad too - probably because my mother would tell me how stereotypically and sexist-ly the mothers were portrayed. If I had to choose a child, I always picked the tomboy.

And now you're like the cranky but wise middle-aged lady.

I am like the couch Margaret Rutherford character.
And I am nearly not middle aged but actually old cranky lady

I decided to call my mother afterall. But she didn't answer.

After that.... the person interested in me whom I don't like invited me to a fancy restaurant. So I took it for the free dinner and drinks and distraction. I feel like I did something very wrong.

Are you planning to knock una off her perch as the resident cranky old lady? (for una, not SD)

una needs a backup for when she's visiting the gosling and stuff...

Ex hankster is moving to the elderly couch lady slot opening up the old one for me.

I would nominate art for the middle-aged slot, but I don't think she's cranky enough.

Some people drink huge quantities of water as a "sport". Not recommended. You can die from that.

That's great! What did T say?