Couch 140: Knocking pans

I get annoyed at things like that because it seems like I am being criticized for not doing it right or fast enough or the way the other person wants me to do it.

I knew you'd respond, SD! I didn't think of that aspect--I thought maybe it was because he had already started to do the task, so I was asking too late. Or he thought I wasn't genuinely offering (that I'd hope he'd say no). Hm...might be a conversation for marriage counseling--like, should I still offer to help? Are you reading something into my question? Is there a better way to offer? (assuming I can do it without completely emasculating my H after dragging him there against his will!)

Why not let him ask for help if he wants it? It sounds like he is capable of taking care of himself and knowing when he wants to sit down before doing something.

True, he just complains about not having time to sit or of being tired. Maybe he just likes being a martyr at times? (Don't worry, I wouldn't call him that to his face!)

I would not consider it being a martyr. Sometimes I just want to complain - it does not mean I want someone else to fix it or anything. I just want someone to understand it is hard - and I don't really want them to commiserate or talk about it or anything. I just want it to be okay to complain about for a short while.

Maybe he just wants to do it in his own time.

I hope you're feeling better soon, lolagrace.

hahaha (at your last sentence)

I see it slightly different. When I was younger and knew I was supposed to help clean more than I did, I would feel guilty when I saw my mom cleaning, so I would offer to help, except she'd just get mad and tell me it was too late.

I think all you need to do LT is wait until a quiet, calm moment and ask him if he is annoyed with you offering to help. I mean it definitely can be a thing to talk about in MC, but it seems like maybe you can resolve it before then?

(I don't know, I am chronically single and have never been married, so take this with a truckload of salt)

I just talked to my brother again finally! He's been in Germany for almost a year now (Army) and I haven't talked to him in a loooong time. He's doing well, he wants to fly son over there for a visit as part of his graduation gift (I was like what?! More? He already gave him $500 upon graduation last May!) So now son gets to figure out when is the best time for him to miss a week of work and school. He's so excited! And h and I want to go visit too, but it's going to take us awhile to save up the money, because I won't let my brother pay again - he already paid for h and I to visit him in Italy 12 years ago, and I'd feel guilty about him paying again. So I told him we're planning to come barring any crises of course in early Spring of 2018 to give us a year to save up the money. I have no idea how much flights from probably SFO to Frankfurt are going to be.... anyway, it was really really good to talk to my bro again. Been entirely too long. Hope everyone is having a good day/evening. Hugs to those who want.

Breathe, Luc... 1... 2... 3... 4... 5... 6... 7... 8... 9... 10.

It's gone?

Yep. They took it down. I sure would like for the poster whose treatment provider put up that other forum thread is aware of what they have done by trolling this site.

It's like it never happened...

They don't want people here to know what's behind the curtain. Ugly stuff out there.

Well, I think a couple of members might not have seen their character assassinations - I'm glad of that to be honest.

The first rule of fight club is You do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about Fight Club.

Is there a Monty Python sketch appropriate to the occasion? We could all use a chuckle.

I personally have nothing whatsoever to say about Fight Club. Or anything else that I'm not supposed to be talking about.

Nope.

Secret code.

I always miss everything!

What about what happens in Las Vegas?

Or a sand dance.

Soooo... nice weather eh guys?

Vindication is mine.

i keep wanting to go home. I miss my things and my cat and my people or... The people I'm used to. I'm having fun but I'm just out of place. 2 days