Communicating with T about fruitless session

So I had a sessi with my T today and from beginning to end it was sub par. I'm not sure what happened or if her attitude had anything to do with my boys session with their therapist since my T and their T are best friends. I saw her last night and we do this eating thing to help out with my eating disorder. We were great yesterday. Of course I noted that she kept her other client in her office an extra 10 min while I get shipped out asap during my session. I told her I would pick up the food for today. She said to be at the parking lot at 3. I got there at 3:06 and she's on the phone. I parked and my boys went to the waiting area but she's still talking. She slowly gets closer to the car but she's still talking. I'm just wasting time now. I have our drinks and I'm like let's go. finally she gets off the phone. We get into the room and I ask her if she wanted wheat or white bread with her sandwich because I wasn't sure so I picked up one of each and I would have the one that she doesn't want. Well she went into a whole talk about how she can't answer my text concerning what type of bread because she was with a client and I said ok then white or wheat. She continued with the same issue and I'm still asking her white or wheat. Finally she answered and says well whenever in doubt what you eat then I don't eat. I'm like alright. I give it to her. She then seems upset and talks about how my exercising is bad and my home routine is not good even though she has no idea what it is. Why doesn't she ask me then? I know my sons T asked them about our routine. Then she complains about my exercising as well. The whole thing was bad and I have no idea what the whole point was. I lost concentration and it seemed like she was lost or frustrated herself. I'm not even sure. Somehow it was a waste of time. Now I'm upset. She made a rude remark to me with an attitude concerning food. I'm not sure if it's because she feels I'm not improving. I wish she would communicate with me instead of getting snippy. Now I'm retrieving from within. I was going to contact her regarding this but then she will get upset because I contacted her. If not she will say that she doesn't have an attitude and put me down in some way. She then mentioned how she's always busy and her feet hurt at the end of the day because she's traveling everywhere with her children and that she's busy doing errands. None of it made sense. She's like well this is my life and is yours not busy like mine. I told her that I get up at 6am and that my day starts then and then there was silence. I'm not sure how to approach this or if at all.

Is this the T with the rude phone behavior?

Given what you've said about this therapist, I'm shocked there are above par sessions. Heck, I'm surprised there's a par. She just sounds awful.

Can you find a replacement?

It is. I actually communicated with her afterwards and she said that she wasn't frustrated. It seemed to me that she was. She said she has no expectations because everyone is on their own journey. I feel like distancing myself at this point.

I think I've hit a point today where I feel like this is just a waste of my time. I've been trying to stay optimistic but it only takes a few words and actions to send me in the opposite direction. Yesterday I was there to see her give another client extra time and I've seen this often. Today she takes up my time on the phone and then comments on me getting there 6 minutes late. She's known for taking a situation that she does wrong and turning it so that I'm the one with the issue. I'm sure at one point she realized that the session was heading south really fast and time was out. Even the way we left off was abrupt.

It's difficult to imagine this therapy being helpful to you/your goals. Are there positive elements of your therapy with her?

I know it's easy for me to say this but if I were you I would fire her as soon as possible. She sounds extremely unprofessional . A therapist like that would do a number on anyone! Get rid of her and try to find another therapist , I bet you'll be so glad that you did!

I had some positive things come about it in the past. My T does try in certain ways but the one thing she does well is then accompanied by five things that throw me over the edge. In the past few days just observing her and being around her has placed me at a worse place. However I'm glad that things happen the way it does because it gives me a rude awakening and it shows me how things really are. I don't think she sees that at times she has an attitude and I'm just trying to communicate with her for her own benefit. She's not even listening to me. This is over something as simple as what type of bread does she want. Something that was suppose to be therapeutic turned out to be a disaster. I didn't get her questions. It was a comparison of her life and mine. I'm like we lead to different lives and what does this have to do with me and my session and why is she comparing. I sent her a text late about it and I didn't care. She receives texts and calls from everyone and looks at her phone during my session. Funny thing is that she said that she can't answer or text during other a clients session but sh has during my session. I don't get it. I texted her about how I felt about the last session and how it doesn't make sense. She won't respond. I'll get yelled next week and I'll be wrong for something I'm sure.

I know. Due to her bahavior and what I've seen lately I feel like I'm regressing. Whatever strides I've made means nothing now. I need consistency and I need to be heard. She has too many distractions during my time. I don't see her doing this with others and I've seen her be more professional with others. I feel
That she competes with me at times or she doesn't like who I am because it's everything that she's against. That's how she wants to lead her personal lifestyle. She's telling me that she doesn't eat what I eat. She doesn't like exercising and how she deals with her day is not how I'm doing it with mine. I didn't expect us to be leading the same life. My friends and I all have different itineraries, lifestyles, and goals. We all range in different ages but we all have something to contribute to our friendship. We are all different. Why the comparison and bitterness when she's my T and I'm paying for my session?