The Couch 146 : The Untouchable, Nontotient, Octahedral, Composite Couch.

Sorry I was out to dinner.

There ya go. Thank you, daisy!! I needed that!

Good night couch!

Art - focus on you and not your therapist. If she can't take a client's anger, she has no business practicing and she definitely shouldn't be telling you about it.

I mean, didn't rr's therapist handle her punching a door? And give her an ice pack? That's what a therapist should be like when confronted with strong emotion imo. They go to school to be taught how to deal with emotions and then they can't and then they make clients feel guilty? Uh uh. Scam.

I've been told I'm over-empathic. I certainly have weak spots for certain people like future ex. Learning not to be over-empathic towards him was majorly liberating. I recommend it.

ATAT: I bow to your superiority in saying everything I am thinking, and writing it much clearer than I can *insert bow down emoji, but for pretend, bc I respect SD*

Art--Agreed. I do not like she told you she felt attacked. I mean unless you were literally screaming in her face, and were threatening...you weren't attacking her. I dfinitely think she is enmeshed, and you should not take responsibility for it.

I know you don't want to say specifics, and I get that, but i Just find it REALLY hard to believe you were "attacking" your T.

Also, sorry you had a crazy person as a caller today.

Im glad we are refreshing these weekly! It shows real commitment

Um...wouldn't real commitment be, like, us actually doing it?

Surprisingly enough - over-empathic is not something I have been accused of.

I was def not screaming in her face. We were sitting where we always do. I was speaking loudly, but not screaming. I did say awful things to her as I recall. Things I would never normally say. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who was triggered. But I do feel like I needed to know how it affected her. Maybe I'm wrong I don't know. But yes enmeshed. That is the word I was looking for. I think that we both know that has happened and the shamanic piece last night was an attempt to acknowledge and correct it. If she had not admitted how it affected her I would not have understood the enmeshment aspect. That's my take.

I think if a therapist lets their own self become upset or hurt- it is their problem not the clients. I would not have apologized.

Dammit, Jim, Im a mathematician, not an engineer!

---- Star Trek, paraphrase of Dr McCoy to Capn Kirk

Another illusion shattered.

See we DO have something in common.

Eta - we're gonna need a nuther couch!

----- Jaws paraphrase

I'd do it if I hadn't already wrecked a shower door here.

Hope I'm not jumping the gun....

The Couch 147

I thought about texting T "plz love me"

But decided against it. For now.

I do it!!!!! Am I the only one...

*shifty eyes*