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Grand Poohbah
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Jul 14, 2017 at 06:24 PM
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I am 58 and my therapist wants to do EMDR to deal with childhood trauma. I am wondering if childhood issues are worth bringing up at this point in my life. Would it be better to focus on my current issues? She seems to think CBT or DBT aren't enough to solve my problems. I really respect her opinion but also respect my intuition.
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Jul 14, 2017 at 06:30 PM
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Having tried EMDR without being fully sold on whether I even needed/wanted to, I wouldn't recommend moving forward unless you want to and can see the point in it.
I don't think one is ever "too old." If you want to work on it, great. If you're not sure, I'd recommend getting sure before doing anything else. Good luck. __________________ "Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of their marvels." - Francisco de Goya |
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Jul 14, 2017 at 06:59 PM
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I don't think we're ever too old either , and those childhood issues continue to affect us throughout our lives and in the present too. I have EMDR as one of the things I do and do well with it , serious trauma needs a multidisciplinary approach I think. Talk to your T more about it ? Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Jul 14, 2017 at 07:00 PM
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I don't see how anyone could be too old for this. If it has an impact on your life, then it's definitely worth working on. Dealing with your childhood trauma could actually be the best way to deal with your current issues. Take care.
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Jul 14, 2017 at 07:08 PM
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I can totally relate I've been telling my therapist now for months that I feel I'm too old to be dealing with all of the trauma that I have to deal with
It seems like I'm going to be dead by the time I've dealt with everything He disagrees and so do all of my friends so I keep pushing through hoping that things will get better. He said yes it will take a very long time but it's not like I'm going to feel like total crap until the very last day and that sooner than later I will actually start feeling better. I have not seen any great Improvement through EMDR yet but I have a lot of trauma to work through. I have decided that I will keep plugging along and hopefully I can at least die happy. I've decided that it's worth the chance to continue into the unknown and possibly get better versus continuing to live my life in the hell it is now. At this point it can't get any worse so what have I got to lose. |
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Jul 14, 2017 at 08:39 PM
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I can't speak to whether EMDR is the best course, but I am really glad I addressed my childhood trauma when I finally sought help well into my adult years. I see myself and my past in a completely different way. Miseries that I had resigned myself to are starting to fade from my life. I am still working on a lot, but I am glad that I did it so that I can enjoy my remaining years more than before I processed the trauma.
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Jul 14, 2017 at 09:50 PM
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Follow your intuition for now. Keep EMDR open as an option for the future --- as an option you may or may not decide pursue. There's a lot to be said for honoring our gut feelings.
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Jul 15, 2017 at 09:42 AM
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I am starting Tuesday and am 45. For me the flashbools and Ptsd related to my childhood trauma takes over my lodw.
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Jul 15, 2017 at 02:46 PM
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I don't know about EMDR, but childhood traumas can impact many areas of your life as long as you live. If you get the chance to work it out and you think childhood traumas have colored your life, go for it. Best wishes.
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Jul 15, 2017 at 05:49 PM
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I'm 54 and do EMDR and brain spotting for childhood stuff. It has been very useful to me. I attended a funeral today for a woman who had just celebrated her 100th birthday. If I live that long, I think I will be glad I did the therapy!
For me, though, I am in therapy because life was just so not ok. I was miserable. I could not continue the way that I was. So even if it's only a year or two of relief, it is worth the time that I spend in t's office. |
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Jul 16, 2017 at 01:18 AM
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I'm also 58 and, while I don't do EMDR, I do work on childhood trauma issues. I don't think it's ever too late.
Look at it this way. In five years, you'll be 63. Would you rather be 63 and still be struggling with a lot of the same things you're currently struggling with or would you like to have put at least some of them behind you? Either way, you'll be five years older. You might as well be older and be struggling a little less and understanding a little more, don't you think? |
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Jul 16, 2017 at 04:42 AM
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Jul 16, 2017 at 04:57 AM
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I am 55 & have been working on my childhood abuse & trauma for nearly 4 years. I came into therapy for something completely different, but what I realised some time later was, it had majorly triggered my past. My past that I'd not dealt with, came back to bite me on the bum. It's hard work & is very painful, but I'm becoming a better person because of it. I've also had EMDR & am waiting for my referral to have some more. The EMDR really helped as it allowed me to 'talk' about it, whereas prior to the EMDR I couldn't as I was traumatised my body was overwhelmed. I think EMDR coupled with talking therapy has worked well for me.
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Jul 16, 2017 at 06:34 AM
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My therapist is trained in EMDR, but she did not use it with me. She felt my issues were attachment ones, so used other techniques. I was 52-54 when We dealt with childhood trauma.
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