Jealous over something horrible *trigger warning

I don't think that having the thought of wanting to be comforted is horrible.

I personally would be completely creeped out about a therapist trying to tend to me for any reason. First, I don't want strangers like the therapist near, second the woman does not strike me as all that tender or caring in general, and third, I really don't like being taken care of like that.

I don't think that is comparable at all. The child in your scenario is not seriously injured if it is even injured. Kashi's clients are injured and it sounds like some of them are either deliberately making it worse or are in too much psychological pain to care. No harm comes to a child from giving it a bandaid when it isn't needed. Harm does come when anyone with a serious injury isn't tending to it on their own. Kashi can't be there 24/7 for them.

(Growly - not criticizing Kashi here, I am sure he is doing this out of kindness, I just wonder if he's not also playing with fire.)

GC -- I would be quite jealous too if any T I rather liked did this sort of stuff.

I would absolutely love it if I didn't ever have to hear about any other client or see any other client -- one of the Ts (a psychoanalyst) I recently checked out had a separate entry and exit door and just that fact really really really made me consider switching to her.

With current T, I have had fits of rage when I saw that she was -- in specific, visible ways -- doing stuff for other clients that she'd explicitly (and in some cases, subtly) refused to do for me. Not so much out of jealousy (or I may be deluding myself) but rather that I felt like she was treating me as less than her other clients somehow / wasn't taking me seriously.

After much argument and back-and-forth (over many months), she blurted out that the client I'd noticed her offering all this extra stuff to was in serious danger of offing herself i.e., had made plans and so on -- I felt like a class-A jerk when I heard that but in other ways as well, I couldn't deal with that information when she told me. In a very mature way, I cancelled sessions (and saw other Ts).

But, even when I went back to current T, we haven't actually been able to talk about it in any real way -- I tried telling her (without going into much detail because I felt like an arsehole for bringing it up) that I was having a hard time seeing how she's super available to this other client (or possibly multiple other clients who I don't know about). And how somehow, I don't know how to continue to show up for therapy and not feel really weird and like I'm somehow now looking in at very intimate stuff that she shares with other people and what does that mean for her relationship with me blah blah (cue neurotic 2-year-old message).

It may be because I told her about it right before her vacation but she hasn't brought it up since and she was distinctly uncomfortable when I told her about it -- like she just didn't want to hear how her disclosure about the other client made me feel.

However, the end result of all these conflicts seems to be that she's now bending over backwards and offering me all sorts of stuff that I hadn't even asked for (and didn't care about really) along with the stuff that I was actually het up about.

I guess I don't really have anything useful to say -- this stuff is awkward and painful and weird. I hope Kashi turns out to be better at talking about it all than current T is (in which case, I will consider giving current T my 3,478,947th pointer on how she can be a better therapist......for me).

I think it's completely normal for you to be jealous in this situation. I would be super jealous too if my T told me that. I've only had 1 t ask to see self harm and I declined, but the gesture itself made me feel very cared for.

I think your feeling of jealousy is quite normal. When I was in therapy and heard about my therapist doing things in her practice that I didn't get I felt a tinge of jealousy. I imagined getting myself in those situations so that I could get what they got. The difference is as hard as it was to start the conversation with my therapist I did. From your post it sounds like you are planning to have this hard conversation. Good for you because that equals progress.

Your therapist may have taken a first aid course, EMT course, etc when he decided to offer these services or maybe not. A reasonable person like your therapist will know when he is in over his head and direct the client to get more appropriate services.

It's a shame that so many therapist and clients, at least from some of these post, are so concerned about liability. Lawyers direct how therapist practice. My former therapist gets so angered when she hears fellow therapist developing treatment plans because they are afraid of legal liability. Heaven forbid anyone comes across the idiot therapist that would not perform CPR or the Heimlich Maneuver on a client because they have to assess liability first. And yes, I know there are many forum participants that want the therapist to stay ten feet away. IMO only.

I applaud your therapist for going above and beyond for his clients. If I remember correctly he re-looked at taking you driving. Keep talking about your concerns, because he'll help get you through this hiccup too.

Also, in some USA public hospitals an intern, resident, or psychiatrist that do the admit physicals and simple wound care.

Once when I showed up for a session,bleeding,my T got me bandages but didn't offer to bandage the wound for me,nor would I have wanted him to.I sat and bandaged myself while we carried on with a normal session,as if nothing was out of the ordinary.I noticed he watched what I was doing very carefully and seemed more curious than concerned.He did bring it up the next week during my session and we talked about it in depth.

It wasn't for attention or for a reaction from him and I was grateful he didn't treat it like a big deal or anything.I think he understood how embarrassed I was at the time.

I can see though how if a T did react and someone got attention,comfort,even help cleaning or bandaging a wound they may be inclined to want that same treatment again and maybe SH even more for that reason.I think T's need to be very careful in how they conduct themselves because it may encourage the very things they are hoping to help the client learn to manage.

I'm really sorry your T put you in a position to question an incredibly understandable response to a bone-headed action on his part. If this were a sports situation, I think his action would be described as an "unforced error." I know you'll talk it out because you seem to have a good relationship, but I really see his bandaging patients as reckless in many ways and his telling you about it to be a professional error.

My pdoc does wound Care, because he works with drug addicts, and people in severe distress.
I wouldn't expect anything else in these circumstances.

I've never considered or wanted T dressing my wounds. However once I did SI fairly severly and spend a lot of money on (expensive, non-sticking) bandages and creams and stuff, just becacuse I wanted to prove to her I could and would take care of myself, and she didn't ask whether I had dressed or otherwise taken care of the wounds. That did bother me, but mostly because I felt I had wasted the money.