1. I want you to hold me more than anything. If that's not possible, then when I'm sitting here with very scary, intense images in my head, could you please just reach out and take my hand? (This was the only one that I have come close to telling him... actually I handed it to him in a note and he read it in front of me. It wasn't quite as direct as what I wrote above. We didn't discuss it too much afterwards b/c I couldn't handle it. However, he did say, "Did you think I didn't already know that?"-- Then if you already knew it, why did you have let me torture myself and then stew in it, you %#@&#!!?!?!).

2. I am aware that this is tranference, but I must say that I am attracted to you in about 4,000 different ways. Let's work through this. (Proceed to discuss in a mature, analytical fashion).

3. Here is a CD I made for you.

4. I loved when you wore your glasses and I really miss that. Could you wear them from now on during our sessions?

5. That is the ugliest shirt I have ever seen. Do you own a mirror?

[sunrise]

"When I come see you, you almost always sit on the couch across from me and it feels so far away. I miss when you used to sit in the swivel chair and come so close to me. Can you sit there again?"

"Sometimes when I come here I don't know if you're my therapist or my divorce coach. Can you just be my therapist today?" (Ha, ha, I actually said this!!! Boy, did his ears perk up.)

And, of course....

"I love you."

[MissCharlotte]

T, your voice is so soothing, I never want this to end.

[Perna]

I usually said things that my head let me know were there, had a "compulsion" to. Consequently my head didn't tell me the really scary stuff I couldn't deal with :-) But after I had a dream of my head in T's lap and her stroking my hair and told her that and we discussed it, not a whole lot that I wasn't able to tell her.

[Izzyparker]

"That is the ugliest shirt I have ever seen. Do you own a mirror?"

I did indeed laugh out loud when I read this one. I have wanted to say the same to my t ... or "What were you thinking when you put that combination of clothes together?" ... or quite frankly, submitted my t to the TV show, "What not to wear".

Things I wish I could say,: "I love you."

"Tell me something about yourself that I'd be surprise to know." And I wish she would answer.

"If you were describing me to your husband, what would you say?" I might actually ask her this one.

[bluebutterfly]

If you ever fold up your glasses and hang then on your ear again, I really don't think I will be able to keep straight face.


Peace

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If you ever fold up your glasses and hang then on your ear again, I really don't think I will be able to keep straight face.

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WHAT! Hahahahahaha... hangs them on his(her?) ear?? LOL I would die laughing.

[bluebutterfly]

Pink..... I swear I almost died. He is always playing with his glasses. He only needs them to read, but always has them on his head, hand, always playing with them. Analyze that!! When he hung them on his ear, I almost lost it. LOL I swear, they were folded and he hung them on the top part of his ear. OMG



Peace

[selfy]

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAA why his ear?

"do u know i am analysing u more than u r analyzing me?"

"its scary but every time i think of your name i wantto bark coz it reminds me of a dog i no"

heheh

[mackenzie0601]

I wish that you were my mom. I love you so much. Even though it is hard to be here, I love spending time with you because for the first time in my life that I've felt safe and taken care of.

[DePressMe]

One time my pdco had a really overripe banana on his desk. I commented on it--something along the lines of yuck and he got a little defensive--said he 'liked them that way." It was not what he said, it was how he said it. So, every time I see him, I want to ask him how his banana is...

[lauren_helene]

Move that damn chair closer! Unless you're afraid

[sidony]

The glasses bit in one of the earlier posts made me laugh. I've seen my therapist wearing glasses with another pair of glasses on top of his head. I had to kid him about that. He joked that he was going for 6-eyes instead of 4-eyes. Apparently he needs different close-up and vision glasses and doesn't want the ones that fade from one to the other (what d'you call those?) for some reason. It really cracks me up when he has 2 pair on like that.

And of course what I want to say and haven't is simply "I love you..." At least I've managed to thank him and tell him I appreciate him recently.

Sidony

"If I stopped therapy, how sad would you be on a scale of 1 to 10?"

[sunrise]

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"If I stopped therapy, how sad would you be on a scale of 1 to 10?"

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[MissCharlotte]

LOL on the banana Depressme.

Sidony, those glasses are called progressive lenses.

I wish I could tell T that I want to curl up on the couch with a pillow and a light blankie, and just listen to him talk talk talk. It doesn't matter what he says.

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Really? Why? I thought it seemed self-centered, attention-seeking and insecure... you know, the essence of me, lol.

[sunrise]

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Really? Why? I thought it seemed self-centered, attention-seeking and insecure... you know, the essence of me, lol.

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Because you are opening yourself up to the possibility of his saying "1" or even "4" or "I wouldn't really be sad at all--I have lots of clients and am used to parting ways with them." Risk of rejection. Of course, I know your T would never say that!

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Because you are opening yourself up to the possibility of his saying "1" or even "4" or "I wouldn't really be sad at all--I have lots of clients and am used to parting ways with them." Risk of rejection. Of course, I know your T would never say that!

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OMG I never thought of that, now I'm definitely not asking, lol.

Can you imagine?

Me: On a scale of 1 to 10, how upset would you be if I stopped therapy?
T: I would say.... a 1 or 2.
Me: Really?
T: No, of course not.
Me: Thank God.
T: I was thinking more of a negative number--- like negative a 3 or 4.