[hopealwayz]

I had been trying to get in touch with my T but he never emailed me back. So finally, I emailed him saying that I was quitting.

He never wrote back to anything.

And, I'm really hurting that my pharmacist rejected my Facebook friend request.

[Demunie]

hope - I'm sorry but I really don't know what you're trying to achieve.

Didn't your T say he wouldn't get back to your emails? Didn't you just quit a while ago because of this?

I'm sorry the pharmacist didn't accept your facebook request. I think he was right to do so though. You're not friends. He's nice and it's his job to be nice to you. He must have boundaries too though.

Exactly like your T. He can't start reacting when you threaten to quit. Otherwise you'd start quitting whenever you desperatly want a response.

I hope that you'll finally be able to find help that suits you...

[hopealwayz]

My T lets me email him. But, he had been supposed to get back to me regarding trying to get in touch with the psychiatrist and I gave him enough time to do that, then he forgot about me. A previous email said that I was thinking of quitting because I felt disconnected from him and even in my last session, he kept answering his phone calls for non-emergent calls. I've been to him since June, and I don't feel like nothing has been accomplished.

[hopealwayz]

And in my sessions, he starts to get restless and act bored.

[hopealwayz]

I guess I'm just hurting and need support.

[Demunie]

I'm sorry you're hurting. I hear you.

Okay, it's definitly ok for him to answer phone calls.. Could you try another session with him and actually talk?

How much time have you given him to respond?

[hopealwayz]

I've given him over 2 weeks to respond.

[hopealwayz]

I just feel so alone and like no one cares about me at all.

[Nammu]

Maybe you're ready to try a female T and establish boundaries right from day one in regards to emails?

[Calilady]

Hope, is this a new pharmacist?

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

And, I'm really hurting that my pharmacist rejected my Facebook friend request.

I don't know the story behind this but my DIL,as required by law,isn't even allowed to mention to me that anyone even had a prescription filled or even called or visited the pharmacy she works at.Accepting a friend request from someone could cause huge problems for her and maybe even cause her to lose her license.

So although you are hurt,it's not really even about you personally.

I'm sorry hope, I want to offer support but really don't know what to say that would help.... Sending you safe supportive hugs.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'm sorry you're hurting, Hope. I really wish you could find a T with good boundaries to teach you to have better boundaries and healthier relationships. Maybe now you'll try a female T? It probably won't be as intimate as a relationship with a male T, but it could be a better fit for you. Remember, therapy is about change. You also have to work towards that change. If you don't want to or aren't willing to change, then therapy might not be right for you. If you're just looking for support, maybe try finding a support group?

As far as the pharmacist, you knew he probably wouldn't accept your friend request. There are so many reasons why. Logically, you know this even though it hurts emotionally. He has set his boundaries with you. You are a client at this point, not a friend. You have to respect that.

[hopealwayz]

Thanks for all of the responses of support and things to think about.

I did get a few resolutions to some of my problems earlier (although not reallly with T).

I apologized to the pharmacist for the friend request and he told me not to worry about it. The reason it hurts is because I care about him deeply but it's just a fantasy, I know the reality.

I don't know what the next step is.

Oh, good news! I did get a few of my medications filled earlier and I'm thankful.

[hopealwayz]

Are there any good sites to look for therapists?

[growlycat]

I used psych today

[AllHeart]

What became of the one female therapist you had thought about seeing a little bit ago? Can you contact her again?

[ScarletPimpernel]

I found my T on psychology today as well.

[hopealwayz]

I am definitely going to start looking around for a new T.

I may email the female T that I talked to before. She seemed nice.

Also, she said texts and hugs are okay.

I will ask her if she is still taking new patients.

And I will also look in Psychology Today as well.

My current T started it off on a bad note by saying that he would do things that he never did.

Also, when he starts acting bored, it distracts me.

Then, he said that he would make therapy more affordable for me, but didn't follow through. He never keeps his word. I think I deserve someone that I can trust.

I found my t on psych today also.

You definitely deserve a t that doesn't act bored and will follow through, that you can trust!

I found both of mine in the web: Psychology Today, LinkedIn, YouTube, they also have their own websites. Not sure now which was the first hit, I looked up a ton of info about them.

If you want to find a new T, perhaps I would discuss upfront that they welcome out-of-session interactions and will also engage, make it very clear that this is important for you, before committing to anyone. Not just that you can email or text. From all your posts here, it sounds like this is an area where you won't compromise, so I would try to look for someone that is willing to adapt and contribute. Also, have you considered online therapy, Betterhelp or something like that? That would be more unstructured and you could perhaps communicate with them in a more liberal way, of course not in person.

[hopealwayz]

I talked to the pharmacist on the phone earlier and I asked him if I ever left that pharmacy, if we could stay in touch. He said yes we could.

[hopealwayz]

I'm glad that he said that we can keep in touch.

[hopealwayz]

If I changed pharmacies, how would I be able to keep in touch with him? He's always so busy at work.

[Salmon77]

It seems like the pharmacist wants to keep his relationship with you on a purely professional level. I hope you're respecting his preference. If you aren't actually planning to switch pharmacies, what is the point in asking him if he'd keep in touch if you ever do switch?