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Oct 13, 2017, 04:20 AM
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Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.
Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely. This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means. It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends. We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience... Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread. Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner (or with us) and make yourselves comfy! |
 88Butterfly88, captgut, LolaCabanna, LonesomeTonight, SalingerEsme, SoConfused623, unaluna
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#3
Oct 13, 2017, 04:52 AM
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Yay! New couch!
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"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
| lucozader
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#5
Oct 13, 2017, 05:44 AM
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Tapatalk has been updated while I was sleeping and I'm too tired to figure it out. I'm resistant to change...
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| atisketatasket, unaluna
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#6
Oct 13, 2017, 05:52 AM
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Appointment with T2 set for Thursday. He got my name wrong in the email but I'm pretty sure it was an autocorrect error...?!
That means last session with T on Monday. I think I really mean it this time... Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh |
 88Butterfly88, Argonautomobile, CantExplain, Elio, LonesomeTonight, Spangle, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
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| Anonymous45127, SalingerEsme, Spangle
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#7
Oct 13, 2017, 05:54 AM
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
| StressedMess
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#8
Oct 13, 2017, 05:58 AM
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I hope it goes well...
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I do not wanna be afraid I do not wanna die inside just to breathe in I'm tired of feeling so numb |
| lucozader
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| Elio, lucozader
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#9
Oct 13, 2017, 06:51 AM
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Capt!!
You see your T today same as me. How did it go? *hugs* I had a really good session but unless another slot opens up, my next appointment is for 21st November 
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| Elio, kecanoe, lucozader, unaluna
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| captgut, lucozader, MrsDuckL, SalingerEsme
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#11
Oct 13, 2017, 06:54 AM
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| Anonymous45127
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#12
Oct 13, 2017, 07:00 AM
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Please hang in here. |
| Anonymous45127
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#13
Oct 13, 2017, 07:02 AM
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You hang in there too, and please go back to weekly sessions if you can *hugs* |
| LonesomeTonight, Spangle, unaluna
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| CantExplain
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#14
Oct 13, 2017, 07:06 AM
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I'll never go back to weekly sessions. But I'm happy I have him and couchies
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| Spangle
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#15
Oct 13, 2017, 07:13 AM
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May I know why you're not going back to weekly? Is it money or insurance or parents? Or is it solely because you don't feel worthy of it? You are worthy. You are, truly. I'm happy you're him and couchies. I want you to have him more - like by seeing him weekly
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| Spangle
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#16
Oct 13, 2017, 07:27 AM
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And I want to hug him. But he won't hug me anyway. Aaaarrrrggh |
| anais_anais, Spangle, unaluna
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| Anonymous45127, CantExplain, LonesomeTonight, Spangle
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#17
Oct 13, 2017, 07:34 AM
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I am on a chicory kick right now. Sort of a fun ingredient to play with.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
| 88Butterfly88, CantExplain
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#18
Oct 13, 2017, 08:11 AM
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I don't think I've ever cooked with it. But I really love Dandy Blend, which has a little chicory root. What do you make with it?
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Oct 13, 2017, 08:14 AM
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I'm in a bar, and there are people having a party. Laughing and talking. I feel so lonely.
So I'm going to replay T's words in my head forever. Lol. |
| 88Butterfly88, anais_anais, CantExplain, kecanoe, LonesomeTonight, NP_Complete, Spangle, unaluna
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| Anonymous45127
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#20
Oct 13, 2017, 08:14 AM
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I'm seeing L again this afternoon. I'm nervous. This is not the way I wanted to reconnect with her.
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*･゜ﾟ･*:.｡｡.:*･'((something in English))'･*:..｡.:*･゜ﾟ･* |
| 88Butterfly88, CantExplain, kecanoe, LonesomeTonight, Spangle, unaluna
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| Anonymous45127
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#21
Oct 13, 2017, 08:23 AM
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I like the idea of your second present! I've quoted PC to T before in my letters/journals. Such a sweet gift and it sounds like the translation took quite some time! What kinds of psychotherapy stuff is in the book? Did he say he wouldn't hug you? Or is it a belief you hold that you're too "bad" to touch? I ask because T was willing to hug me despite my belief that "I'm too disgusting to touch". |
| Spangle, unaluna
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#22
Oct 13, 2017, 08:29 AM
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There are some threads from here... Also some quotes from Dear T and Dear Client. I think there are TOO MUCH mine posts. I didn't mark them or anything, but I think he can recognize them?I think I'm "too bad", yes. That he doesn't want to hug me. I think if he wanted, he would hug me today. Because of the presents and "I love you". How can I ask him for a hug after the next "ordinary" session?
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| Spangle, unaluna
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#23
Oct 13, 2017, 08:39 AM
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Why would he not want to hug you after an "ordinary" session? There's all the sessions of him expressing care, not just this session of him saying he loves you. There might be many memorable "ordinary" sessions where he felt in his heart that he wants to hug you. No harm asking and talking about your feelings? <3 |
| captgut, unaluna
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#24
Oct 13, 2017, 08:46 AM
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But... When I said him "I love you" not long ago, he said "I can't use the word "love" with you". But today he said "I love you". I literally died. So... I don't know. What does he feel? Do I have any chance for a hug?? I think my "desire" for a hug is only my problem. He doesn't have to hug me. I'm confused :/ |
| Spangle, unaluna
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| Anonymous45127
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#25
Oct 13, 2017, 08:56 AM
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T never expressed the willingness to hug me (until I asked). She also didn't tell me the want she had in guiding clients, nurturing them (I found out when she wrote a post on her Instagram). I'm sure T loves you and cares deeply for you. He might decline hugging but that might be due to fear of invading your boundaries (esp if you've a history of physical and/or sexual abuse). You won't know until you ask It's not wrong or a problem to desire a hug. It means you've a need for some safe, non abusive, affectionate touch. |
| captgut, NP_Complete, unaluna
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