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precaryous · Nov 26, 2017, 08:48 PM

Watching a film about the Beatles on PBS. I was a big fan!

ElectricManatee · Nov 26, 2017, 08:50 PM

For what it's worth, I'm on board with your T's effort thing, LT. There have been times when my spouse has come home from working a twelve-hour shift, gently scraped me off the couch, made us both dinner, and gently put me back on the couch. She says marriage isn't 50/50 all the time, and there will likely be times in the future when I am healthier than her (mentally and/or physically) and I will carry more weight than she will be able to then. Her kindness has really motivated me to do more around the house as I have started to get better.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 26, 2017, 08:56 PM

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For what it's worth, I'm on board with your T's effort thing. There have been times when my spouse has come home from working a twelve-hour shift, gently scraped me off the couch, made us both dinner, and gently put me back on the couch. She says marriage isn't 50/50 all the time, and there will likely be times in the future when I am healthier than her (mentally and/or physically) and I will carry more weight than she will be able to then. Her kindness has really motivated me to do more around the house as I have started to get better.

Thanks, EM. That's great that you can recognize that in your spouse. When T explained it, it made total sense to me...just not sure if H will understand it so much...because it sort of skews to my benefit, not his. I worry MC will take H's side, too...or at least act like it's my overreacting to him (H)....maybe I need H to come to a session with T?

And it's probably really telling that most of the time, I'm like "Yay, we see MC tomorrow!" But I'm not feeling that right now...I just feel so disillusioned with him (doesn't help that he took us back a half hour late last week), and I guess H as well...

LonesomeTonight · Nov 26, 2017, 09:17 PM

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Oh, weekend T mode! I wonder if other people think that's a thing. I saw my T on a Sunday once because of scheduling conflicts, and she seemed kind of different. It was actually how she sounds on the phone, except in person and in her office. She seemed more relaxed and mellow. Almost warmer, somehow? Maybe 60% person/40% therapist instead of her usual 50/50. I mentioned it later, but I don't think she really knew what I was talking about.

My T also has a partner with ADHD, but I only know that because I do too. It's helpful to know that she has that perspective when we talk about my relationship, particularly because I think she and I both tend to be much more focused/intense people in general. That contrast is an interesting one to navigate in a romantic relationship.

So, my H also has ADHD. But I suspect I may have a bit of that too. Like the way that T was describing his wife going through the pile of papers...that's totally me. And I think I have some executive functioning issues...

But yeah, I both liked and disliked "weekend T." Liked that he was more relaxed, but disliked that he maybe seemed more critical of me. But maybe that was just my interpretation...

ruh roh · Nov 26, 2017, 09:27 PM

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I planned ahead and took tomorrow off...

Smartie Artie. That's a great idea.

stopdog · Nov 26, 2017, 09:30 PM

I have started the annual watching of The Messiahs - I like to compare and contrast all the versions I can find. And also The Christmas Carol productions and sometimes, just for variety, Nutcrackers.

atisketatasket · Nov 26, 2017, 10:05 PM

A dog bit me this morning. It just felt like a nip, so I ignored it. Now that I’m getting ready for bed, I can see his teeth marks in my calf. Don’t think he broke the skin, though.

stopdog · Nov 26, 2017, 10:08 PM

Was it a dog you know?

atisketatasket · Nov 26, 2017, 10:28 PM

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Was it a dog you know?

No—it belongs to a woman in the building (I assume). She was loading her car outside and didn’t have the dog leashed (it was one of those little yappy high-energy ones).

I was more annoyed that she didn’t bother to apologize than anything else.

awkwardlyyours · Nov 26, 2017, 10:35 PM

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No—it belongs to a woman in the building (I assume). She was loading her car outside and didn’t have the dog leashed (it was one of those little yappy high-energy ones).

I was more annoyed that she didn’t bother to apologize than anything else.

You're waaaaaaaaaaaay too forgiving.

I would've given the woman a large piece of my mind + gone to the nearest clinic and gotten shots + come back and told her exactly how much of my day she'd managed to ruin.

Nov 26, 2017, 10:36 PM

I made these slippers last night/today for my Mom for Christmas. Super easy pattern. They look kinda like duck feet though... lol
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Nov 26, 2017, 10:40 PM

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Now you know how the Prince in Cinderella felt at the end of the story.

I play anxiously with my jandal's during session and when I went to go I had kicked one off so my t bent over to get to give it to me as as I stood there. I was like 'oh does it fit?'.... I was being silly but it still makes me laugh. We shared a smile.

Gotta have something besides misery sometimes.

atisketatasket · Nov 26, 2017, 10:48 PM

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You're waaaaaaaaaaaay too forgiving.

I would've given the woman a large piece of my mind + gone to the nearest clinic and gotten shots + come back and told her exactly how much of my day she'd managed to ruin.

Well, she wasn’t a therapist (at least not obviously), so I’m more inclined to forgiveness under such conditions.

stopdog · Nov 26, 2017, 10:56 PM

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You're waaaaaaaaaaaay too forgiving.

I would've given the woman a large piece of my mind + gone to the nearest clinic and gotten shots + come back and told her exactly how much of my day she'd managed to ruin.

Keep your mind - hand her the bill.

CantExplain · Nov 26, 2017, 11:08 PM

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I did—but as I explained earlier, the synonyms were for the adult-narrator version of the story.

Celestial hemisphere.

Nov 27, 2017, 10:12 AM

Morning couchies! One last day off, then back to work tomorrow. Today I'm going to bake some Snickerdoodle bread, a recipe I ran across on facebook. And go to Kohls to pick up a ship-to-store order. And do a load of laundry. And maybe go to Walmart for some yarn because now my sister wants slippers for her and her fiance, after seeing the pic of the ones I made over the weekend. Busy day off haha but I was lazy yesterday so it's ok! Hugs/headnods all around as appropriate.

Nov 27, 2017, 01:50 PM

just got home from shopping, went to Joann fabrics too cuz I found a gift card that still had almost $15 on it, yay! it almost covered the yarn i needed for my sister's and her fiance's slippers! only had to add like $3 so i am happy! later today i should have a pic of (one of anyway) his slippers. Excited to see how one of the hexagons looks with a variegated center. As soon as I start a load of laundry, crocheting shall commence. I might not be making the bread, cuz I couldn't find the cinnamon chips the recipe calls for. Will try a different grocery store maybe later - the one that was on my route of other stores this morning didn't have 'em, but I bet this other store will! have a good day, couchies.

Lemoncake · Nov 27, 2017, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I made these slippers last night/today for my Mom for Christmas. Super easy pattern. They look kinda like duck feet though... lol
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These look brilliant Artie!

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