Couch 158: The Newberry Couch!

I really don't think it is that complicated, unique or special nor am I. I don't find most people all that unique - they can be placed in categories.

Thank you, fellow couch dwellers, for your support last night. I was really feeling overwhelmed.

I'm struggling to get up and start my day this morning. I'm feeling hopeless and detached from the world today. I really need to go to work though.

If I were a therapist, I would like all my clients to be like SD. Arrives on time, leaves on time, pays cash, and I don’t even have to talk.

And yes, I do think that while individual clients may be unique, there are very definite types of clients.

I dunno to me the relationship is definitely not like any other relationship I have/had. I've experienced so much healing within/because of it. And learned how to let my friends love me.... that was a biggie... letting them 'in' so to speak does replace parts of the t relationship for me and is why I am able to begin letting go of t.

My t would hate not being allowed to talk lol

Types, categories, yes but just like numbers can't tell the whole story, neither can types or categories tell one person's everything... According to my mind anyway.

SD would have walked out on MC after 5 minutes (or even sooner!). As I'm sure has been apparent from my accounts, he really likes to talk! Including making stupid jokes.

Another of my benchmarks, besides my time with my longtime gfs, has become the apartment people get-togethers. For a while recently, the last couple of years (since my mother died?), i could not stand to be around them. But i went this past sunday and had a nice time.

Its not letting them "in" so much as appreciating their presence, which i think is in contrast to how i felt with my family - with family, i DID have to let them in, and they did not share anything of themselves; i felt i had to do all the giving, and what i had to give was not welcomed. It was very draining.

T, however, welcomed everything. So at sundays little party, all i had to do was pay attention, laugh at other peoples jokes, and contribute when there was an opening, but i didnt feel driven to say everything that came into my head. I feel that way about pc now more too.

I bought a book of just black flowers. So there are gardens, and then there are gardens.

I also have a picture book of "shopping carts in the wild".

"shopping carts in the wild" - is that found in the virtual pews of the church of unaluna? I bet it is.

So glad I'm getting my eyes checked tomorrow. Thankfully I'm done with my psych course work (well except for writing my paper) so I'm resting my eyes in the evening. My paper isn't due til 12/9 and it's gonna be a super easy one for me to knock out, cuz the subject is your family's attitudes about therapy. I'm crocheting slippers in the evening instead of studying.

The kittens broke 2 branches off the Christmas tree then later yesterday they knocked the whole thing over and played with the star. I am cross because it's starting look a bit manky as it is.
This is one kitten caught in the box I totally refused to helped him.

2nd day of cleaning house. I should check the couch history, see when the last time the apartment inspector was here. Seems like its coming on three years. They give us like no warning. But really i am doing this for myself. I cant live like this anymore.

Eta - okay, it was december 2015, and he signed off in 2016. So i think im safe for the rest of 2017, anyway.

Good for you and your cleaning a while ago I made a resolution to daily spot cleans weekly deeper cleans like vacuuming and monthly deep deep cleans like tops of window frames and cupboards etc. it hasn't worked out but I am trying

I need to clean my house too

My dad copied me on an email he sent to several people, including my mom (they've been divorced for decades). I think it's a suicide note.

Should I text my therapist? Not sure what my therapist can do about it...

(((Raine)))
This sounds stressful. I'm not sure your therapist could do anything directly, but they could probably give you a good idea what you should do.

Can you call your dad? Or do you know someone who can check on him?

I don't know what your therapist can do. They might have to report it.

I can't call him. Don't have his number. We're estranged. I also don't know anyone who can check on him. There's basically nothing I can do about it. I don't even know where he is.

I asked my therapist if I should respond to my dad's email. Therapist said I should. So I did.

Have you heard anything? Maybe the police can get his IP address and find his home address from that?

Haven't heard anything...

I managed to get some Christmas gifts today online, this may be the earliest I've ever shopped. Home from work/dropping off one kid at work/picking up one kid from work, stopped for takeout and now resting. Whew this was a long week!

Happy Friday couchies!

Did you try googling his name? I worked on my high school reunion contacting people, and i got pretty good at finding people.

Hugs, RaineD--it sounds like you've done all you could do really. If you knew where he lived, you could have tried local police for wellness check, but you don't. Hope it's all OK...

If it's an apology sort of e-mail, maybe it's just that he's in AA or some similar 12-step program?

I hope everything's ok, RaineD.