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#1
Dec 03, 2017, 12:49 PM
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How does your therapist help you access your feelings in session? I get in reporter mode and seem to almost get defensive saying “I’m fine, no I don’t feel lonely” etc. But then I can watch This Is Us, burst into tears and feel it all. How do I access these deep feelings in my session so I can process them and have a cathartic moment?
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 chihirochild, Out There, rainbow8
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Dec 03, 2017, 01:00 PM
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This is something I've found difficult. I was watching a video by a life coach that helped. Say " I feel... whatever the feeling. For me it was " I feel hurt - I don't feel OK right now " But I have problems with numbness and disassociation and not being able to feel my feelings. My T recommended looking at some DBT techniques which helped with that.
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#3
Dec 03, 2017, 01:16 PM
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I'm not sure of the answer, I'm pretty much the same. I can feel really awful say before a session, but it's like when I get in there something in me switches and I can just say whatever I have to say without any feelings or emotions. Although for me I'm pretty much like this in general so I'm not surprised at how I am.
The worst thing I find is when I feel sad etc after a session and think why didn't I show the struggle whilst I was there, does she actually think I'm ok, I'm portraying ok but I don't feel it inside. Will she understand without the emotion, etc... we have spoke a little about this and I think she sees beneath that though and I think just knows that's how I've always been. |
| Out There, rainbow8, TrailRunner14
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Dec 03, 2017, 02:41 PM
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Same here. At home I can feel much more and I have a lot of thoughts about difficult things. But then, with T in the room - there is nothing :-/
However, I have to say that it changed a little bit. At the beginning, I was completely disconnected from my feelings (when I felt something it was rather something physical - like weakness or tension). Now, more often I *feel*, I'm connected to myself. But sometimes there are sessions when again I have no access and I don't know why. I've noticed that it happens when something more difficult appears and my mind wants to cut off from this. Then usually I say that I feel nothing, I don't know what to say etc. and we talk about this (how does it feel to feel nothing). And this causes more trust between me and T, and at the next session it's usually better 
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| Out There, TrailRunner14
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Dec 03, 2017, 02:55 PM
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'Reporter mode'....I understand that too well. Great thread. I haven't tried it out properly yet, but I remember reading in Pete Walker's Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving that if you cannot cry/access your emotions, it may be helpful to begin with the breath...focusing on that can help bring it out. (I have tried it...got too close, and got scared.)
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| Out There, TrailRunner14
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Dec 03, 2017, 03:30 PM
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I have no suggestions to offer unfortunately. I must know though...what is this 'reporter mode' of which you speak?
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Dec 03, 2017, 03:55 PM
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I don't know. For me, the appointment with a therapist would be one of the last places I would want emotion. Fortunately for me -- the situation of have emotion there did not usually come up for me.
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#8
Dec 03, 2017, 04:58 PM
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Sometimes I freeze too. Other times, I can't stop crying. I guess it just depends on my mood. There are times I wish I had more productivity in my sessions, but I can't seem to control it.
On another note, what is This Is Us? |
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Dec 03, 2017, 04:59 PM
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Sometimes I freeze too. Other times, I can't stop crying. I guess it just depends on my mood. There are times I wish I had more productivity in my sessions, but I can't seem to control it.
On another note, what is This Is Us? |
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#10
Dec 03, 2017, 06:20 PM
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Telling all the facts but not saying how I feel. |
| AllHeart, Out There
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#11
Dec 03, 2017, 07:17 PM
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A wonderful TV show on Tuesday nights. |
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#12
Dec 03, 2017, 07:45 PM
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