Hugging your T

Lol, you lost me as soon as you insinuated that I'm a narcissist for desiring to be hugged by my T.

No, I don't think I desire intimacy with any of the people you mentioned. Your argument is fallacious in the extreme.

No insinuation intended. Same sex hugs are mirror like images of self and taken to the extreme end of the same continuum there's narcissism. :-)

Well, I still disagree. I have a lot of self-hate, to be perfectly honest, so I'm not really sure how that fits with what you're saying.

I am in no way close to any of these people. I wouldn't touch anyone I do not feel a close connection to. I am from a culture where people are more distanced in general. If I bond with people, physical closeness cones with it. And there are only a handful of people im close to. If im not close to a T, theres no point in therapy since I wouldnt just spill my guts to anyone out there. So, why would you assume every person is the same? Dont we have different relationships with different people? All thise people you mwntioned. I don't even knoq or wanna know. If your relationship to your T is like the one to your butcher.., well, thats odd and not just because im a vegan.

With some yes with some no. Always it was men.

ahahahahahahaha ...whispers of possible homosexual tendencies? Hilarious. And yeah. No.

To answer the poll: no, I have not.

I dunno -- the whispers particularly make me feel rather dangerous and mysterious......

I haven’t no but my gp rings frequently when I am not well and always sends hugs.

I seem to be a poor poet if a poet at all.
I feel hurt by this reply and quote. I'm anxious to be better received. If I was callus enough to cause anyone pain here, then my plea is for forgiveness. I only intended to participate in the present topic. I realize that new topics are generated regularly and those topics need participants too. I'm eager to participate in those discussions as soon as I become aware of any that touch upon my life experience or academic prowess however little there may be.
A therapeutic counselor listening to me complain about my losses in a bitter if not hostile divorce replied with these instructions:
"Keep in touch with your feelings.
If you feel angry, you're in a power struggle.
If you feel hurt, [the party] wants revenge.
If you feel hopeless, [the party] wants you to feel inadequate.
If you feel annoyed, [the party] wants your attention.

I don't know that anyone deliberately set out to cause the hurt I felt. I am aware of the pain. I might have misinterpreted some of this incoming stimuli. Constructs meant to annoy might have hurt. I'm not perfect.

There was no open proclamation of homosexuality, no mentioned diagnosis of blatant narcissism so I thought it safest to tread lightly introducing those terms into the dialogue.

I have had therapists on and off for 25 years. I have never hugged one or had one that attempted to hug me.

Nine days after I voted 'No, and I would not want to'

R offered a hug into the New Year, and I accepted. It was warm, and wonderful. Necessary in that moment, considering the depth we had gone to in the final session of the year.

We hugged every session for months, it meant the world to me, but now I wish we never did, because he made me feel like the most disgusting person alive.

Both my previous and current therapists are huggers and so was my psychodrama therapist.