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Old Jan 25, 2018, 06:23 PM
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Well they just moved h off the observation floor up to the top (5th) floor and took him off the IV meds, and now he's taking oral meds only. They're going to keep him Tonite still and if all goes well he goes home tomorrow. So relieved!! Thanks you guys for your support the last couple days.
That's good. I hope it settles down enough for him to go home. How is your son dealing with this?
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 06:33 PM
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Thanks everyone. I hadn't thought about contacting the DV agency who I had to go through to get the restraining order. I will call them and see if they can point me in the right direction.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 06:47 PM
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I cant do today. I pulled my vacuum apart to clean it and now i cant put it back together again even though i have done this countless times before.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 06:56 PM
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I know this is small in the grand scheme of things but this week I had two sessions with R after three months of once a week- but i just felt uncomfortable, like I'd already talked about everything I needed to on Tuesday and today was just random fragmented ramblings.

R has always traditionally been a blank slate. At first I really was okay with that, but now as time has gone on I just really want to know him, not the therapist him.For the previous two sessions I've told him that I loved him and how much he means to me, but today I asked if he liked Marmite- ( it's this product we have in the UK made from yeast extract. The slogan is you either love it or hate it). And he didn't reply. I did ask more than once. but it was just met with neutral expressions which irritates me as the whole relationship doesn't seem natural.
I really hated the blank slate. I spent half my time trying to see round the edges and the other half trying to punch my way through.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 06:58 PM
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Therapy isnt done at an emotional distance - it IS very intimate. But just for that one hour. So there are physical limitations put in place to keep things from getting confusing. Thats why stuff like hugging is such a slippery slope. Or in this case outside contact?
The intimacy can be very one-sided. In which case, I don't feel it as intimacy.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:02 PM
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Cake, I think it's really weird that your T responded so awkwardly to your asking if he likes marmite. He couldn't even manage to do the typical thing of asking why you were interested etc (which would have been annoying enough in itself)?

This is a smiley especially for him:
Here's my idealised T response:

"I will answer that question. But first I want to understand why you asked it. What's so special about Marmite? How would you feel if I said yes? How would you feel if I said no? How would you feel if I refused to answer?"
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:04 PM
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Interestingly, I never felt sufficiently attached to The Countess to ask her a personal question. So I don't know how thick or wide her blank slate is. Mr T used to give me straight answers, but he specialised in Aspergics.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:05 PM
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Whew. Did they say what the deal was with the sweating/fever?
Just that there were still too many white blood cells or something so I guess the antibiotic that they changed it to was an even stronger one. Aside from having a headache all week (from the strong antibiotics) he feels so very much better this afternoon.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:07 PM
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That's good. I hope it settles down enough for him to go home. How is your son dealing with this?
He is really busy between work and school and he told me last night that helps. He talked to his dad yesterday and he said that relieved his concern a lot too. I tried to get him to talk to me last night but he didn't want to. Maybe tonight... thanks so much for thinking about him. I'm afraid I haven't been enough.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:16 PM
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Hi. I lurk here.
I took my 14 y.o son to his first t appt today. So different to see depression from the outside. Son asked me to join him in the session - to help him get started. I'm not yet sure about this t (e.g., t was conflating SH and sui ideation, and referred to birth parents as son's parents - although he's been my son since birth) but my son is eager to go back. Son even chose am 7am start time for his next appt!
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:16 PM
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they let h take a shower while i was there today, he hadn't been able to at all since he got there monday night but he felt so bad otherwise he hadn't cared but today he wanted to shower, this was a good sign too! tomorrow seems so soon to send him home since he just had a fever again 12 hours ago, but I guess they know what they're doing. he definitely is acting like his old self again. we've liked this hospital since the first time we used it, he had a couple not so good nurses the first day but after that they've all been fantastic. they answer all my crazy questions and put up with my asking them to repeat things and never act put out at all. they're angels, they are. i think i will be able to sleep tonight.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:18 PM
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I've just realized that filing taxes when your spouse is in prison and there is a no-contact order is going to be troublesome. How am I supposed to get him to sign the return? How am I supposed to know if he's earned any money in there? If I file as married filing separately, it's going to cost me a lot of money. I really don't need this right now. Any suggestions? Can I contact him through a lawyer? Google hasn't been super helpful so far.
I think you are going to need professional advice. But maybe the Prison Service can advise you.?

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In our country everyone files separately.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:20 PM
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So, maybe it's just that I'm a good teasing target for therapists...Since T was teasing me about a thing or two today...Maybe we've just hit the "comfortable enough to tease each other" stage of the therapeutic relationship.

Example: I was wearing distressed jeans with a couple holes in them (not showing much skin, around knees--they were the only ones I had clean!) When I sat down, T said, "Have things gotten so bad that there are holes in your jeans?" I replied, "I'm just being stylish!" Then commented how D would say, "There's a hole in Mommy's pants!" when I'd wear them.

We also sort of made fun of MC at one point (just a joke about his height--both he and T are short, but T is maybe 2 inches taller than MC).
Madame T used to tease me quite a lot. I wasn't always cool with that.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:26 PM
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Hey, all. Hugs and other things as appropriate.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:30 PM
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Sometimes i am not ok with the teasing as i am unsure whether i am being mocked, T was quite shocked to leaern i thought this as he said would never mock someone due to the nature of the work. Sometimes i am unsure of the purpose of the teasing, is he trying to tell me something. Like last session he jokingly said i must be familar after 7 years that i am to bring things to the table. I think its my communication style not everyone has seen my questions as questions but more as statement. I think i lack that Australian thingy inflection that linguist talk about
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:30 PM
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Hey, all. Hugs and other things as appropriate.
Oh missed you too, hows things?
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:33 PM
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Oh missed you too, hows things?


Aww thanks. I've been around reading and keeping up but not posting. I'm okay. Just so, so very busy.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:38 PM
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Jstill trying to put my vacuum together i just have to put the lid on but cant line up the tabs right
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:38 PM
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My dog had minor surgery, but still had to be put under, and I sent a video of his whimpering self to my therapist who showed so much sympathy for him that I got jealous. Of my dog. So yeah, I am crushing it in the confidence department.
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:43 PM
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Sometimes i am not ok with the teasing as i am unsure whether i am being mocked, T was quite shocked to leaern i thought this as he said would never mock someone due to the nature of the work. Sometimes i am unsure of the purpose of the teasing, is he trying to tell me something. Like last session he jokingly said i must be familar after 7 years that i am to bring things to the table. I think its my communication style not everyone has seen my questions as questions but more as statement. I think i lack that Australian thingy inflection that linguist talk about
Hugs...yeah, sometimes MC would take the teasing a bit too far. Or I think of one session when he was having H hit me with a pillow when I made negative/doubtful statements about myself...which, yeah, I was laughing, but still...
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 07:50 PM
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My dog had minor surgery, but still had to be put under, and I sent a video of his whimpering self to my therapist who showed so much sympathy for him that I got jealous. Of my dog. So yeah, I am crushing it in the confidence department.
My eldest daughter asked to stay with me, she usually stays exclusively with my ex as my house is creepy. She came through the door scooped up the kittens and spent most of the time with them talking bout them i felt a little jealous, wellquite a bit i hadnt seen it as a confidence thing
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 08:30 PM
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The intimacy can be very one-sided. In which case, I don't feel it as intimacy.
Oooh, i think that might be a "male" perspective. That being the prober is acceptable, but being the probee is not. Which isnt exactly what you said, but how mutual is intimacy usually?
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 08:57 PM
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Oooh, i think that might be a "male" perspective. That being the prober is acceptable, but being the probee is not. Which isnt exactly what you said, but how mutual is intimacy usually?
Does the Russian ambassador feel the same way?
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 09:12 PM
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hi daisy!
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Old Jan 25, 2018, 09:18 PM
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Good to see you, Daisy!
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