and is there much of an age difference between you?

Once I thought my T was asking how old I was but he meant my kids. It felt like he had mumbled and I misheard. Embarrassing.... he told me I could still tell him if I wanted but I was like nooooo, thats ok...

I imagine he's in his 40s like me. I dunno.

[fille_folle]

My T is 30 years older than me, in her late 50s. I wanted a T who was at least 15 years older than me, so I'm pleased with this. My longtime T was 36 years older than me. I did opt to not go with a T who was in her late sixties when I was looking for a T late last year because I didn't want a T who might retire at any moment.

Anyway, I prefer for my Ts to be much older than me. I need for them to have seen some sh** in order to feel like they can handle my crap.

Edit: And wouldn't your T know your age from your birthdate?

[AllHeart]

My t is about 12 years older than me. She’s 60.

Yes, but obviously he didnt know cos he said I could tell him. I'm not sure he cares. With my G.P, I would expect her to care more about my exact age I guess.

[fille_folle]

Hmm. I remember my T asking at my intake. Pdoc, too. Maybe it's because I'm only in my twenties (and have frequently been told I look much younger than I am :/).

[elisewin]

64, around 20 years age difference.

[stopdog]

Both of them were in their 70s. One was about 16 years older than I am and the other was about 21 years older

[MessyD]

He is 40 so only 3 years older

[MRT6211]

My T is 36 and I’m 23. I feel like 13 years older is a good amount. She’s around the age of my oldest sibling, so it feels right.

Mine's young and in my age group. She's 30, turning 31. I'm a couple of years younger than her. Unlike many of our peers, she isn't married yet, and I think she's single.

I like that she's relatively newly out of her doctoral program (3 years since she graduated) because she's up to date in the latest, evidence based treatments for chronic Axis 1, and personality "disorders". She's young enough in her career as a therapist to still not be jaded, but not completely wet behind the ears.

I do know that age doesn't correlate with skill, and while I'd have no issue with her being older, the older generation of MH professionals in my country TEND to be conservative unless they work in an explicitly "open to marginalised groups" organisation. Heck, many young ones my age in social work, psychology and counselling training programs are sadly bigoted in a variety of important ways whether they're religious or not.

[rainbow8]

I'm about 15 years older than my T but we have similar life experiences. We both have adult children so the age difference hasn't been a problem.

[Lemoncake]

He's 36 and 10 years older than me.

[captgut]

He's 35, I'm 25

[RaineD]

Mine's 30 years older than me. He's in his mid-60s.

[Glittering]

I don't know, but I'd guess around 10 years older than me, so early-mid 40s.

Mine is 1 or 2 years older than me. So 51 or 52

[Chummy2]

Current T is 13 years older than me.
PrevT is 3 years older than me.
I'm 28.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

He's 57, I'm 24.

Anything between about 40 and 60 would be fine with me. Not much older than current T though, else I'll worry too much about them randomly dying from a heart attack or something...

[LesFleursDuMal]

My T’s 46 and I’m 24. I like that he’s that older than me.

[feileacan]

My T is 30 years older than me. I'm in my thirties, the T is in his sixties.

[SalingerEsme]

Mine is 49, but has young children

My t is 61 she is 25 years older than me and sometimes it feels like we are living in different times. Hi this t is the oldest t I have had. The others were younger and they tried too hard to be cool or relevant. I feel we meet each other most times at a deep level but other times t doesn’t understand my generation.

[SummerTime12]

I’m 23 and my T is 33

How do you guys know their exact age? Do you just ask?

Originally Posted by Coming up tails

How do you guys know their exact age? Do you just ask?

For me, I found her LinkedIn and did some math as she had her education listed. I had a rough idea from there.

Much later, I looked her up on my country's list of psychologists. It had her email and it was a name.year@gmail.com.