What's your T like?

My T was blank slate in that he didn't reveal his thoughts and feelings or reassurances or affirmations, aside from interpretations. The emotional unavailability and neglect triggered my attachment issues.

There were a few select times where he decided to be kind, and I now see the pattern of when he chose to be that way. I don't think this reflects his persona but rather the therapy technique he used with me. He mistakenly thought i was positioned for the more challenging psychoanalytic therapy rather than more supportive therapy, which is what I really needed.

It ended up harming me in the long run. I had a good experience with the T before him, who was kind and warm but also challenging at times. He balanced that with giving me my space. I should have stopped there, with that T.

The only good thing is at least I won't still be in therapy 20 years from now. I never planned to be in it for very long. Was caught up in trauma bonding.

Warm, fuzzy, even downright gooey at times with a bit of obliviousness thrown in.

Sand trays..... kinda funny how many I've done in therapy but I've never represented t in one. Hmm. I wonder why that is....

other... all depends on what mood I am in.... but usually somewhere in between an asshole and a god

My t is a Taurus. Which is compatible with this Cancer girl.

The woman acted surprised (I have no idea if it was real or not) the time she referred to herself as kind and I responded like that was you being kind - and she asked if I found her to be kind and I said No. I mean not actively unkind all the time, never what I would describe as kind.
She seemed to expect clients to think of her as kind and warm. I did not find her so.

For a while, all my friends were Cancer, it was quite a coincidence. But not particularly compatible! You... you homebodies!

i went with patient because, more than anything else, i value the way he's stayed with me through the best and the worst of sessions. and between sessions too. for nearly 7 years.

it's been really hard at times, for me and for him. my childhood was horrific and we're still uncovering layers of damage that it did. we've had to go so slow at times, and even with all the ways he's proven caring and trustworthy, i still spook pretty easily.

and he's still with me. still committed and working hard and meeting the needs he can. and working at whatever pace i need to at any given time.

Now I want to know what my T's sign is...doubt he'd tell me though. I'm a fellow Aquarius, Una!

Haha that we are!

Happy coming up birthday

Perfectly reasonable option, I was just trying to say that whether my T cares or not isn't something I am really after. I do feel cared for within the professional context, which is true for me with my massage therapist and usually with the few madly physician like professionals I see. By physician-like I mean that it seems like they are trained to think of "patients" as morons. When I had some chronic pain after surgery a few years ago, a pain doc suggested a medication that rhymed with its nickname, "Stup-a-max." She's like, that's not a problem for you is it, to have your higher cognitive functions disrupted? My response was to explain very clearly that my work required that my higher order cognitive functions (i.e. thinking) was necessary for what I do. If my T ever treated me with anything other than respect, I'd walk away. Fortunately he's one of those humanistic types who has usually reframed what I think of as a weakness as a strength.

I hear you on the veggie issue, was one for 20 years.

I chose kind, perceptive and patient (along with everyone else it seems!)... He is definitely those things.

I probably would have used all of them to describe T(wat) at one time or another.

He is one of the safest people that I've ever been able to make a connection with. I experience a real relationship with him. I know it's "paid" for, but I'm learning what it's like to feel safe with someone.

I checked emotive because we laugh at stuff and it feels good to really laugh with someone at yourself. Hah!

I also checked kind, patient and perceptive. I also checked Matter of Fact/No Nonsense. He's not no nonsense, but he speaks the truth in a very kind way.

He's awesome!

Kind, warm/fuzzy and Patient from the list

but I'd add... funny, calm and smart

me too!

i dont' think my T is the same sign...Jan 19 is her bday.

I put "patient, kind, and something else i can't remember off the top of my head."

I had to comment on this. It's crazymaking, not knowing if it's an overlay of old family dynamics or if it's really happening. Mine is not warm and fuzzy like yours is, but I do get mixed signals that she denies. I have learned to just drop it, shut my feelings off, and plow ahead, which is maybe an old coping mechanism that's not good...or maybe it's exactly what's needed.