Couch 162: Let's Play Ball! (The Baseball Couch)

NP_Complete · Feb 07, 2018, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Fellow vegetarian here! Haven't tried those from Costco yet either, but will have to, since I'm a lentil fan.

Also a vegetarian. I've had the lentil pouches. I'm assuming you mean the Tasty Bite Madras Lentils. They are good but I got tired of them after a while.

DP_2017 · Feb 07, 2018, 09:35 PM

Wow it's cool there is a few other vegetarians here!

stopdog · Feb 07, 2018, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

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What I want to know is, this is a typical conversation for us in terms of tone. Am I being rude? She says no, I say yes. I’m not especially worried that I’m rude to her, if I am, just curious.

I would not consider that rude. It pales in comparison to the exchanges I had with the woman. Also - that is almost banterish - she probably thinks you are bonding.

NP_Complete · Feb 07, 2018, 09:43 PM

Today's session was kinda intense. I decided to show him some of the posts I made here about a month ago, including the one where I said I felt love for him, and the conversation that happened around that where una said I was equating getting scolded with love. I felt completely exposed and vulnerable. Thankfully, he didn't say anything about me expressing love for him but focused on talking about transference and countertransference and how we should keep those things in mind going forward. My anxiety was through the roof during this session.

velcro003 · Feb 07, 2018, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Was it you that had the peepee problems a while back? Like for me, i get motivated to lose weight when i am in pain, but as soon as i lose enough to where the pain subsides, my motivation disappears. That could be the definition of Satan!

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Info: ...that’s just part of the story you tell yourself.
ATAT: I asked you not to use the word story in that context
(Info makes a face—like the kind of face you make when you’ve done something stupid.)
ATAT: Do you remember what word I prefer?
Info: Uh...uh...narrative?
ATAT: Yes.
(Then a long explanation from Info about why her default word is “story.” And later)
Info: As I was saying, the narrative you tell yourself...yada yada.
ATAT: You remembered to use narrative.
Info: I’m a quick learner.
ATAT: Well, considering today is the fourth time I’ve asked you to use narrative...
Info: Fourth time’s the charm.

What I want to know is, this is a typical conversation for us in terms of tone. Am I being rude? She says no, I say yes. I’m not especially worried that I’m rude to her, if I am, just curious.

i guess it depends on tone, but she doesn't seem to be upset by it at all, so i'd say no.

unaluna · Feb 07, 2018, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

In shaky yoga tonight someone accidentally kicked their block into my face.

It’s a dangerous practice besides all the injuries like yoga foot drop.

Lemme at 'em!

atisketatasket · Feb 07, 2018, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Lemme at 'em!

You’re my knight in shining armor.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 07, 2018, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Today's session was kinda intense. I decided to show him some of the posts I made here about a month ago, including the one where I said I felt love for him, and the conversation that happened around that where una said I was equating getting scolded with love. I felt completely exposed and vulnerable. Thankfully, he didn't say anything about me expressing love for him but focused on talking about transference and countertransference and how we should keep those things in mind going forward. My anxiety was through the roof during this session.

Hugs, NP. That was brave of you to show those. Glad your T didn't focus on the love stuff and that he wants to discuss transference/countertransference in the future.

Feb 07, 2018, 10:34 PM

I miss the banter and the bonding with my t. I was thinking about scheduling for next week until I found out about my paycheck.

I've got school to keep me otherwise occupied, which is good, I have that documentary to watch and a paper to write about it that's due Monday, so I should get cracking on that.

NP_Complete · Feb 07, 2018, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs, NP. That was brave of you to show those. Glad your T didn't focus on the love stuff and that he wants to discuss transference/countertransference in the future.

I'm not even sure he realizes it was the love stuff that was so hard to share. I have this fear of letting people know how I feel about them/things in general because it hasn't seemed to work out very well for me in the past. My H used my feelings against me. Not all of the time, but enough that it affected me and continues to affect me. My therapist seemed more focused on the part about me equating love with abuse, which is also important I guess, even though nothing he did or said that day was anywhere near abuse. Just enough to remind me of the husband.

atisketatasket · 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

ok i just got a bright spot. yay. I logged into my class and my discussion posts have been graded. I got full credit yay! And the instructor even left comments. She said I did a good job summarizing the interview and the article I reviewed. And thanked me for including personal experiences relating to my answers (that was part of the rubrics, to get full credit, we had to.) I feel a tad bit better now. At least school is going well....

I wish my students would realize they would do just fine if they only read and followed the damn directions. It is really not that hard to do.

“Happy” is on Netflix. We could all watch it together. Although I am not joining the Happy Movement, as the film’s website invites us to do.

ETA: and we can all eat Lady Doritos while we watch!

ScarletPimpernel · Feb 07, 2018, 11:13 PM

So my sister wants to fire her attorney for the custody case... And for her criminal case, she wants to say that the whole thing was set up, he aggravated her, and it was self defense...

stopdog · Feb 07, 2018, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I wish my students would realize they would do just fine if they only read and followed the damn directions. It is really not that hard to do.

“Happy” is on Netflix. We could all watch it together. Although I am not joining the Happy Movement, as the film’s website invites us to do.

I wish mine would simply read the syllabus where 99% of their questions are answered. I actually had a student one time tell me he missed his appointment with me when he could not find my office because his phone ran out of battery and he could not check the website for the school. When I asked him if he checked the directory that was on the wall as he walked into the building or just asked somebody - he just blinked and said he hadn't thought of those things. He actually said that he just got so upset his phone ran out of battery that he could not think. Like we want him becoming a lawyer.

atisketatasket · Feb 07, 2018, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I wish mine would simply read the syllabus where 99% of their questions are answered. I actually had a student one time tell me he missed his appointment with me when he could not find my office because his phone ran out of battery and he could not check the website for the school. When I asked him if he checked the directory that was on the wall as he walked into the building or just asked somebody - he just blinked and said he hadn't thought of those things. He actually said that he just got so upset his phone ran out of battery that he could not think. Like we want him becoming a lawyer.

True. He would make a much better therapist.

I’ve started making mine take a quiz on the syllabus.

atisketatasket · Feb 07, 2018, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

So my sister wants to fire her attorney for the custody case... And for her criminal case, she wants to say that the whole thing was set up, he aggravated her, and it was self defense...

She’s not planning to defend herself, is she? That never seems to go well.

You are being amazingly patient with her.

ScarletPimpernel · Feb 07, 2018, 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

She’s not planning to defend herself, is she? That never seems to go well.

You are being amazingly patient with her.

Yeah. She wants to defend herself...

Maybe I'm being too patient? I don't know how to help her. She doesn't listen to anyone.

stopdog · Feb 07, 2018, 11:36 PM

Sometimes you have to let people make their own mistakes. Even really really terrible ones. It is their life.

unaluna · Feb 07, 2018, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

So my sister wants to fire her attorney for the custody case... And for her criminal case, she wants to say that the whole thing was set up, he aggravated her, and it was self defense...

Geez. Geez. Have they judged her capable to assist in her own defense? Is she as tough as she is talking? Cuz she will need it in prison. Can you tell her, she can boss around the people OUTSIDE of jail. But. Not. In.There.

Feb 07, 2018, 11:38 PM

RR, I hear you.

atisketatasket · Feb 07, 2018, 11:41 PM

If she won’t listen to anyone and isn’t taking her daughter’s interests into account, yeah, I think best to step aside and be there if she ever realizes how bad a mess she’s made of things.

Maybe an actual court appearance or trial will wake her up before it’s too late.

CantExplain · Feb 08, 2018, 03:59 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Info: ...that’s just part of the story you tell yourself.
ATAT: I asked you not to use the word story in that context
(Info makes a face—like the kind of face you make when you’ve done something stupid.)
ATAT: Do you remember what word I prefer?
Info: Uh...uh...narrative?
ATAT: Yes.
(Then a long explanation from Info about why her default word is “story.” And later)
Info: As I was saying, the narrative you tell yourself...yada yada.
ATAT: You remembered to use narrative.
Info: I’m a quick learner.
ATAT: Well, considering today is the fourth time I’ve asked you to use narrative...
Info: Fourth time’s the charm.

What I want to know is, this is a typical conversation for us in terms of tone. Am I being rude? She says no, I say yes. I’m not especially worried that I’m rude to her, if I am, just curious.

You're not being rude. But you are more argumentative with her than you are with us.

I argued with Madame T a lot, and much of that was trying to assert dominance (she said). Momma didn't raise me to be a doormat. Even though she tried.

CantExplain · Feb 08, 2018, 04:06 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

So my sister wants to fire her attorney for the custody case... And for her criminal case, she wants to say that the whole thing was set up, he aggravated her, and it was self defense...

I would want to say to her: "I'm not asking you to back down. I'm just suggesting you work the system in your favour. 'Cos right now you are working the system against you."