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#1
Apr 08, 2018, 05:13 PM
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I confessed a few deep secrets to T and now I’m embarrassed. Why didn’t those things stay buried. I don’t know why I revealed those secrets to him. I hope the embarrassment lessens soon.
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 annielovesbacon, Anonymous52723, Anonymous55499, ChickenNoodleSoup, growlycat, HD7970GHZ, Lemoncake, LonesomeTonight, malika138, mostlylurking, Out There, rainbow8, smallbluefish, Taylor27
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#2
Apr 08, 2018, 05:40 PM
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If it helps, your T probably sees this as progress, and is glad you had the courage to talk about it.
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| malika138, rainbow8, smallbluefish, TrailRunner14
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#3
Apr 08, 2018, 05:47 PM
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I'm sure that your T knows that these secrets took a lot of courage for you to express, & sharing them was a big breakthrough in your deciding that you could trust him/her.
if i were you, i would definitely talk about how you feel embarrassed after sharing this information. (of course this is up to you) i think bringing it right up front that it felt embarrassing is probably going to ENSURE your T knows how much emotional attachment you have to the things you've shared. |
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#4
Apr 08, 2018, 05:48 PM
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Hugs, hope.
My t occasionally reminds me, when I talk about difficult things, that I might feel vulnerable or embarrassed or exposed afterward. She says it's normal to feel that way, and encourages me to take good care of myself when those kinds of feelings surface.
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Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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#5
Apr 08, 2018, 05:55 PM
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I frequently get embarrassed in my therapy as well. It's hard. But, our Ts are there to hear our secrets. It's really ok - even though it feels embarrassing (and that's something you can talk to him about).
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#6
Apr 08, 2018, 06:26 PM
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I trust him enough to tell him my secrets. But inside I have an irrational fear of “what if he knows these things about me and won’t like me anymore. I can see that thought is irrational so I don’t know why it crosses my mind.
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| Anonymous45390, LonesomeTonight, mostlylurking, Out There, WarmFuzzySocks
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#7
Apr 08, 2018, 06:37 PM
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So weird as to what we feel embarrassed about. I can talk about all the men I had sex with and that my husband and I were swingers but good lord I can not talk about my bulimia and me throwing up.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| Lemoncake
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#8
Apr 08, 2018, 06:48 PM
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#9
Apr 08, 2018, 06:51 PM
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It’s a good sign that you feel trusting enough to tell t these things.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#10
Apr 08, 2018, 06:57 PM
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This is part of therapy. Tough and embarrassing things. They are used to hearing things that are hard for clients
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| LonesomeTonight
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#11
Apr 08, 2018, 08:41 PM
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I think you’re going to feel better once you see nothing has changed with the T. You have someone you can trust to tell anything.
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| LonesomeTonight, mostlylurking
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#12
Apr 08, 2018, 11:26 PM
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Every single time I reveal a deep secret (and that doesn't happen very often lol) I am soooo embarrassed afterward and have a lot of regret, like you, asking Why did I tell her that?!
But the embarrassment always passes, and eventually I am grateful I opened up because vulnerability is very important for progress in therapy.
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stay afraid, but do it anyway. |
| LonesomeTonight
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#13
Apr 09, 2018, 07:55 AM
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I’ve never had an eating disorder. Only one other thing that I seldom speak of. I couldn’t even disclose it here, anonymously. Not something that shames me, really. Odd, the things that we can’t — or don’t — talk about.
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amicus_curiae Contrarian, esq. Hypergraphia Someone must be right; it may as well be me. I used to be smart but now I’m just stupid. —Donnie Smith— |
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#14
Apr 09, 2018, 10:29 AM
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I get it. I've often gotten embarrassed about how many things I've told my therapist that I wouldn't tell anyone else. It seems though when he doesn't reject me for them the relationship gets stronger.
It is why I would never, ever want to be friends with my therapist. |
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#15
Apr 09, 2018, 11:29 AM
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I know it's easier said than done, but try to remember that your T will have heard loads of things from loads of people before. I doubt there would be anything they would shame you for. It's their job to be understanding and to help you through things.
It was a good thing that you shared things about yourself, because it will give them more insight to be able to help you better x |
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#16
Apr 09, 2018, 12:06 PM
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I think you were brave and courageous. One of my treatment providers, can't remember which, told me "you are as sick as your secrets." Once you tell them to someone you are freeing yourself of shame and it no longer as a hold on you. Glad you found someone safe to talk to about them. I understand the embarrassment. I felt embarrassed and ashamed so many times in therapy. If he is a good therapist, he won't judge you and will be supportive of you.
I am proud of you. |
| LonesomeTonight
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#17
Apr 11, 2018, 10:00 AM
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Hi,!I am so embarrassed. |
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#18
Apr 11, 2018, 01:15 PM
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"You're only as sick as your secrets" is from AA.
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Apr 11, 2018, 04:13 PM
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Also Hope.... hopefully things are ok for you now |
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Apr 12, 2018, 12:43 PM
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Apr 13, 2018, 03:16 PM
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I have never ever had a time like this. I am hallucinating, wobbly legs and not making any sense while trying to speak. I am a Spanish Translator and English editor. Now I can’t even talk. I called my psychiatrist and she gave me a medicine to counteract my meds. I don’t know which ones. She didn’t have me come in and just called it in. No office visit nothing. Do I need a new Dr.? |
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#22
Apr 13, 2018, 03:56 PM
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Thank you for allowing me to vent. One more think is this happens at night. Like trying to get in the Show Mom and my best friend was in it and I was talking to her by phone. Funnest thing I Trying to pee in the washer! |
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#23
Apr 13, 2018, 10:02 PM
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amicus_curiae Contrarian, esq. Hypergraphia Someone must be right; it may as well be me. I used to be smart but now I’m just stupid. —Donnie Smith— |
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#24
May 06, 2018, 02:39 PM
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TY for responding to my blip! Now that I am feeling better I can see why you are confused! As I reread this I am also wondering how this is embarrassing. I think I was embarrassed about the hallucinating. I guess I thought people would think I am a druggie! Which of course is crazy considering the site we are using! Sorry about that. TY for welcoming me into the group  ☮️   
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#25
May 07, 2018, 06:33 AM
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usually t knows the secrets before I reveal them. I am not good at hiding things from him.
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