Couch 175: You've Got Mail....

An unexpected benefit of cleaning: you find a completely unworn, very nice pair of sandals that you don’t remember buying hiding out on your closet shelf, still in their box.

Not quite as good as the time I discovered I had 10K more than I thought I did in my checking account, but I’ll take it.

I claim first dibs on the beerrrrrrrrrrr.



(finally used that one!)

I’ll take a beer no cookies or milk for me. You know, it’s rare I drink beer. I don’t drink much at all, but when I do-I want to drink to get a nice buzz going. Beer doesn’t do that for me. All it does is make me bloated and have to pee a lot.

I have told him I'm unhappy when I've asked him to go to counseling with me and he says something like "that's on you I didn't do anything/mean anything the way you heard you need to fix you."

But you're right I haven't told him I think about leaving.

Double IPAs! Or imperial stouts, if that's more your thing.

Didn't he recently threaten to leave though, if you'd continued therapy?

But I agree he may not realize how unhappy you are...

Yay for the sandles!

hmmmm 10k accidentally appears in your account?! Clearly someone is besties with Una's Italian contacts.

The tots are napping. I was just look out the window and saw 2 small children riding a bike with training wheels. I’m pretty sure my parents just gave me a normal 2 wheel bike when I was 5 or 6 and taught me how to ride it. I never got the point of training wheels? Are they so you learn how to steer the bike before learning balance?

I've read that it's better to use a balance bike, which are a thing now (they have no pedals, I'm confused as to how they work!) I had one with training wheels and I guess I eventually learned to ride it? We have one with training wheels for D, but she's mostly just played with it in house.

The kids learn balance on the balance bike and just use their feet to move it eventually they get to the point where they lift their feet up so the bike can coast. Once that’s achieved they can then get on a regular bike with no help needed.

He did. Twice. And both times he said he didn't mean it and he wasn't going anywhere. I should have told him "bye" this last time then at least I'd have the house. I don't know where I'd go if I left. My Midwest friends would help me but I don't want to leave the desert. I should start making a plan I suppose.

But I should tell him how I feel first.

I need 10K to just appear in my checking account if anybody knows a guy who knows a guy.

Yep! I think I would do the same with my kid if/when I ever have one. I watched a youtube video and it does make sense. I've seen lots of little kids at my local park!

Willing to get your hands dirty if you know what I mean?

I got a couple therapists need seeing to.

Art, I know this is so off-topic from what you're dealing with, but sand trays came up briefly with T today, since he has a tiny one that I'd played with while I was reading my notes Monday. And today I was like, "Hey, no one has moved it from what I did!" He didn't even realize I'd played with it, and I mentioned moving the animals (skunk and various amphibians--only animals in tray) around a piece of wood that I thought was like a fire. He said, "You're making animals like people--oh, a Disney thing." I said how I knew a few people who'd done sand trays, like much bigger ones, and we discussed that briefly. And I mentioned how your T does some drumming, too, and he knows one who does that! He said how that T said heart rate can regulate to it, so like meditation. I said how you were in drumming group, and maybe I should find one. He said he suspected there were some in our area, maybe dueling/competing ones. Now I want to look that up!

But anyway, you came up in my therapy today, Art!

Art—the smartest advice Dear Abby ever gave was “are you better off with or without him?”

Applies to spouses, partners, family members, friends, and therapists.

No job too big or too small for this born and raised South Philly turned Jersey Girl.

No sweat- we're family here.

Una's second cousin vinny could hook you up with his sisters husband whose brother works for Giovanni (G) at the "Pizza" place.

Have you been watching mob movies?

Tots are up. Time to get back to work.

I think I only realized with R this week when I thought I was being clear about something it didn't necessarily come off that way from his point of view.

thank Lonesome and Lemon


is there any toxic poison?

Adding that to my list of think-abouts. Thanks.

Hi Jersey,

You probably are not looking for more care work, but if you could tolerate shifting into longterm care for either seniors or people with disabilities in a non profit or for profit agency where you have a good fit with the people and management, you could put yourself in a position of advancement by learning about other aspects of the field and meeting people who could lead you into management or other higher paying positions. I have only found better employment by meeting people and being exposed to opportunities, which is probably why you're feeling stuck with the babies.