Couch 175: You've Got Mail....

Perhaps you can make a list of stuff to bring up on Wednesday.

They can, and this is a forum in which we can express our opinions. From the sounds of it, your circumstances are completely different, weren't chosen, and your comment is therefore completely irrelevant to what I said.

wow rude much? as YOU so succinctly said it everyone can express their opinions and i was expressing mine. at no time did i say anyone HAD to raise a child as a single parent so you might want to think before you make comments like that. i was sharing something personal that i felt might be relevent and it is not up to you to interpret it as anything else

I don't think it's rude to point out that you responded to my comment in a misleading manner.

Invisible Butterfly, I appreciated you trying to relate to me. Yes, our circumstances are different, but they are similar.

It is my body and my choice when to try to get pregnant; or not.

Again, I'm not trying to get pregnant right now. There are other things I have to take care of before I try again.

I'll leave it at that.

Scarlet, I want to apologize if my original comment back to you today was out of line. I didn’t want to draw attention to your desire to have a child. I gave an unsolicited opinion on that topic and I shouldn’t have when you came to vent about your H. All I can really say on that is that it seems like you are the only one looking out for you right now since H is mixed up in his issues and I hope you find ways to put your needs first. Hugs.

R said I can have a session this week- but by now I'm therapied out and I've already SH'ed enough to not feel anything and to be able to focus again.

Am I right to skip the session that I so desperately wanted before?

But I of that time am no longer the same. I actually had this dream this morning:

It's Christmas time and my dad comes into the house from somewhere. He tells us we're going out somewhere so to get ready. My little sister is 3 and wearing her blue disney princess dress and starts to change. My mother and other sister go and sit outside on the wall- it's snowing. I run upstairs to change my clothes and my brother and I are putting on our shoes. Then he decides to go to sleep instead and says he's not going whilst my mother and sisters are already waiting outside and I can feel the disappointment looking at him.

Scarlet, I want to apologize if my original comment back to you today was out of line. I didn’t want to draw attention to your desire to have a child. I gave an unsolicited opinion on that topic and I shouldn’t have when you came to vent about your H. All I can really say on that is that it seems like you are the only one looking out for you right now since H is mixed up in his issues and I hope you find ways to put your needs first. Hugs.

That all being said, it is my dream to have a baby. I will be consulting with doctors the whole process. I hope it happens. And if need be, I will be a single mom. My ob/gyn is doing it.

The first therapist I ever saw, not the woman or the second one, had a lot to say (not much of it was suitable for the sensitive) about the fact that when she would adopt her dogs (she liked a particularly popular breed) they screened her more thoroughly than when she became a foster parent and the fact there was none for natural parents set her off.

The first therapist I ever saw, not the woman or the second one, had a lot to say (not much of it was suitable for the sensitive) about the fact that when she would adopt her dogs (she liked a particularly popular breed) they screened her more thoroughly than when she became a foster parent and the fact there was none for natural parents set her off.

How many people on this board had parents who might should have thought about the child's best interest before having them? I think a lot of people report such.

Mine were the opposite, if I understand what you mean correctly. Everything was planned planned planned: x income, house near good schools, partnerships in medical practices. And as my mother will tell you happily we were born in less than an hour and on our due date. She clearly thinks all her planning had something to do with this.

then there was my mom who said "Oh no, I'm 22 and all my friends have babies I guess I better have one too!"

(she told me this when i was pregnant with my son, how lucky I was to be having a baby because I wanted him) (As if I hadn't known since I was very young that I wasn't wanted)

How many people on this board had parents who might should have thought about the child's best interest before having them? I think a lot of people report such.

But he married a woman who missed what would have been a sterling career as an army quartermaster.

Mine were the opposite, if I understand what you mean correctly. Everything was planned planned planned: x income, house near good schools, partnerships in medical practices. And as my mother will tell you happily we were born in less than an hour and on our due date. She clearly thinks all her planning had something to do with this.