Couch 176: The happy cake couch

T finally admitted today that he follows my public creative social media account. I wasn’t really bothered by it since it’s there specifically for public consumption and I don’t put anything too personal on it. But it’s a little funny how we are now both aware of each other in that platform.

That does seem a little strange to me. But yeah if you are both public I guess there's nothing stopping you from looking each other up. What social media platform is it on?

Yeah, was definitely intense. Your T seems like one who will be open about what she's feeling in reaction to you as well. How do you feel about that? I know some people say that T's shouldn't be like that, but I can see the benefits at times. And also the drawbacks. It's just...different.

Twitter. Mine is a professional account that focuses on arts & crafts. Nothing personally identifiable on either of our accounts. No pictures with people on them or real names.

Oh okay, I have a Twitter account for more online sales and I wouldn't mind if my t followed that.

Madame T would never do that. She hates to work without being paid.

I’m now duly enlightened about the existence of different types of salt.

And, this is how it starts — am now off to investigate and invest in various types of salt.

Does this mean that anything she does outside the therapy room that involves a client is always considered unpaid work? e-mails, scheduling, waving if you happen upon her on the street

I'm going to ask her about her comment next week. I like that she's honestly herself with me even if it sometimes causes trouble since we always work it out....

Can I have some pocket riders tomorrow at 1pm PST? I have an "assessment" to see if I'll fit in a DBT group. I'm really hoping it works out, but I'm scared. New things, places, people scare me. And I have to drive myself.

I will hop in

Hopping in!

You can also make them very easily. It just involves mixing a good natural flaky salt like Maldon with a natural flavored substance. Like a chili lime salt would be salt+lime juice and grated zest+dried chili that's ground in a coffee grinder. Spread all but chili onto a parchment lined cookie sheet and pop into a 200* oven for 20-30 minutes. Or you can put in the oven and turn it off and leave for @ 45 minutes. Cool completely, add chili, and grind finer if you want. Sealed container. There are lots of recipes on-line. I like to make several varieties at a time on a day when I'm home and bored.

oh yeah guys FKM has great ideas about roasting veggies too. YUM!

Home from class! I really really like the prof, she's an interesting woman. Spent a good 45 minutes introducing herself and talking about all the famous people she's met many many years ago like John Steinbeck (and Charley) walking on a beach one night... I could have listened to her talk about her life for the entire class period.

The most heartening thing of all that she said though? Was that our exams will be take-home. And the heavens opened and light shone through.

In session today, we talked about the phone call about a month ago where he said that he accommodated me more than his other clients and I had detected a tone which made me feel he was resentful about this. I told him that I felt like I really was a burden to him even though he claimed otherwise. One of the things he shared with me today was that he knows me more than he knows some of his friends and as a consequence he thinks about me a lot/more/frequently? I can't remember his exact phrasing. He also said that's one of the interesting things about this kind of relationship; it's kind of intimate despite the boundaries of it (paraphrasing again). I don't know. It kind of makes me feel less alone in the universe knowing this. How would you guys feel about this?

How old is she? Steinbeck died like 50 years ago.

Eta: and how does anyone spend 45 minutes talking about themselves?

Etaa: okay, how does anyone spend 45 minutes talking about themselves outside of a therapy session?

Joining the other pocket riders Is it "comprehensive DBT" with coaching phone calls in addition to group, Scarlet?

Maybe I exaggerate, but yes, she did resent that. Especially responding to emails.

I had a dream the other night, at the end of which I was talking him down and begging, "Please, you have to remember this. If you forget, it will happen again."

In my most bitter moments, I think, "Gosh, that must be nice, to just forget it all like it never happened." Then I come to my senses and mostly feel really really sad.

On a much brighter note, I may order an egg coddler just to make myself feel better. I have an egg almost every morning, and coddling in any form sounds nice right now.

I'm not sure. I only want to attend the group. I'm not trading my T for anything.

My coworkers discuss their sex life sometimes and ask each other awkward questions like "When was your first time?". I guess these are normal questions - we're are all adults here, everyone is in a relationship but me.
I have never had a boyfriend, and I'm very ashamed of it. I'm afraid one day they'll ask me directly, and I'll just die.
You will say - just do not answer, but I have no reason not to answer. This is a normal question, I'm just a loser. I don't want to lie either

Hugs. Though I've a loving and safe partner, I'm still a virgin because I've issues preventing me. And we're long distance.

Depending on culture, you might be able to laughingly say "I don't have a boyfriend, got any good folks who's single?" and they might introduce people to you, if you want to meet people. People have assumed I'm single and done so for me in my work. Some tried matching me to similarly aged colleagues in the company.

I can't imagine even hearing about a colleague's sex life, much less discuss with them, wow.

Not sure whether this will help you, but I would be find it weird to hear such questions at work. Or anywhere really, I'd not feel comfortable discussing such things unless I was blackout drunk at a party.

Also, I can understand never having had a boyfriend sucks But that doesn't make you a loser, I know two other people in my life who've never been in a relationship. That doesn't make you weird or not lovable!

Say, "The Palace has asked me not to talk about it."