Couch 176: The happy cake couch

susannahsays · Aug 24, 2018, 09:18 PM

Can you give yourself a night to sleep on it before acting out further? That sometimes helps.

I just acted out by angry texting the therapist, so I'm probably not in a great position to be giving advice. I feel like I can never face the therapist again. Not because the text was angry, but because I was so mad I divulged something without really thinking it through.

CantExplain · Aug 24, 2018, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ruh roh

That was one of the ones my therapist also came up with--not IHOP, but just driving because they can't sleep. Thanks for confirming that. It sounded really odd to me. The rest of her ideas are buying drugs, selling drugs, prostitution, selling alcohol to minors, liking to drive at night.

3 am is an awkward time for retail. And you can't trade sex wholesale, so I'm guessing he's buying drugs in bulk.

PS:

Silly me. You can trade sex wholesale. Maybe he's a pimp and sometimes has to bail-out/provide-drugs-for/identify-the-body-of/otherwise-sort-out one of his customer service providers.

CantExplain · Aug 24, 2018, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

I think I may be officially going off my rocker.

I just got another speeding ticket (>20 over the speed limit) after getting one a few weeks ago.

Except both times, I seem to have blanked out -- the officer today I suppose saw the puzzlement on my face when he was telling me how I was driving dangerously because the first thing he asked was "You have no memory of it, do you?".

And, I had zero clue that I was speeding at all, let alone so much, the previous time as well.

I'm usually very well aware of how fast I'm going and don't zone out much.

I'm really close (if not already past it) of getting my license suspended (had paid up a couple of earlier speeding tickets which are still on my license) unless a lawyer can work a miracle of sorts.

This is just bizarre

Maybe someone has a duplicate license plate?

unaluna · Aug 24, 2018, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

Ahh, thanks, that makes sense.....yeah, the stress is a bit much (crazy family stuff part infinity + stuff is really getting piled on with life here) -- I thought I had a handle on all of it but clearly not.

That happened to me too, but it was work stress - work was ALWAYS stressful, but like i had called in sick, and the head of the department told me to come in anyway, then he goes, "oh i thought you just needed a pep talk to get your butt in here" and it was one of those "i almost went over his desk" moments. He never effed with me after that. But other people on the road were waving at me to slow down (cuz there was a cop nearby) and i didnt comprenday!

unaluna · Aug 24, 2018, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

3 am is an awkward time for retail. And you can't trade sex wholesale, so I'm guessing he's buying drugs in bulk.

PS:

Silly me. You can trade sex wholesale. Maybe he's a pimp and sometimes has to bail-out/provide-drugs-for/identify-the-body-of/otherwise-sort-out one of his customer service providers.

You know too much about this!

healed84 · Aug 24, 2018, 09:35 PM

Also, anybody know what the chances are that a 1/2 inch mass found on a pancreas is not cancer? Because in my mind my mom has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and has 6 months to live.

CantExplain · 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ruh roh

That was one of the ones my therapist also came up with--not IHOP, but just driving because they can't sleep. Thanks for confirming that. It sounded really odd to me. The rest of her ideas are buying drugs, selling drugs, prostitution, selling alcohol to minors, liking to drive at night.

He does hold-ups of all-night liquor stores and gas stations.

CantExplain · Aug 24, 2018, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Also, anybody know what the chances are that a 1/2 inch mass found on a pancreas is not cancer? Because in my mind my mom has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and has 6 months to live.

1/2 an inch is not that big. There are a number of things that could be, and not all of them are life-threatening.

ruh roh · Aug 24, 2018, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

He does holdups of all night liquor stores and gas stations.

I like your thinking on this. He should use his ill got gains to fix his car.

LonesomeTonight · Aug 24, 2018, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Also, anybody know what the chances are that a 1/2 inch mass found on a pancreas is not cancer? Because in my mind my mom has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and has 6 months to live.

Hugs...I know with my mom's friend, they suspected pancreatic cancer, and it turned out not to be. I forget why they suspected, if they found a mass or not. But she's alive and well like 10 years later. I hope your mom is OK...

ETA: Also, a half-inch is really small--even if it was cancer, maybe they could just remove it?

healed84 · Aug 24, 2018, 09:55 PM

Hmm I wonder if my mom got the size wrong because she said her doctor said this mass was really big.. Anyways.. I have tried not to google too much. But what I did see was that if it is small enough it could just be a cyst.. holding on to that.

healed84 · Aug 24, 2018, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs...I know with my mom's friend, they suspected pancreatic cancer, and it turned out not to be. I forget why they suspected, if they found a mass or not. But she's alive and well like 10 years later. I hope your mom is OK...

ETA: Also, a half-inch is really small--even if it was cancer, maybe they could just remove it?

She is going in for better imaging next week and then a plan will be out in place afterwards.

stopdog · Aug 24, 2018, 10:05 PM

Healed - I hope it turns out not to be cancer.

Aug 24, 2018, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by emeraldheart

A cookie counselor is preferable to a kooky counselor

My 2nd session with current t (almost 7 years ago now!) she told me to find my feet and I thought to myself "She is kooky!" I told her that a year or so ago and we both laughed. Because very quickly, "find your feet" became a favorite of mine to help me get out of my head and down in my body.

Aug 24, 2018, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Also, anybody know what the chances are that a 1/2 inch mass found on a pancreas is not cancer? Because in my mind my mom has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and has 6 months to live.

I hope your mom is ok.

(My mind would do the same thing.)

Aug 24, 2018, 10:26 PM

I am a bit more relaxed now about this Statistics course I just started Wednesday evening. In our textbook, there's a review of the basic math we'll need to have down. So I just spent the last while working the 120 problems in the skills assessment preview and the skills assessment final exam and got them all right!! Woo! I think I'm gonna be able to do this!

ScarletPimpernel · Aug 24, 2018, 11:01 PM

I loved stats in college. So much so that I tutored it after completing the course.

Aug 24, 2018, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I loved stats in college. So much so that I tutored it after completing the course.

Cool! This is Psych Measurements & Statistics and the book looks kinda intimidating with all the strange letters in the formulas.... lol

Aug 24, 2018, 11:09 PM

My T has Statistics for Dummies 1 & 2 in his bookshelf.

atisketatasket · Aug 24, 2018, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

My T has Statistics for Dummies 1 & 2 in his bookshelf.

They published a sequel?

ScarletPimpernel · Aug 24, 2018, 11:50 PM

Yeah, mine was a psych stats class. It's not too hard like some other maths. This is applied.

Aug 24, 2018, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I want to do yoga - but every time I start I turn into a complete bawling disaster of a mess. Duchess says that means I'm not ready for it yet and should stop trying.

I've read that could happen. Any particular poses? I'm planning on doing it at home using two "trauma sensitive yoga" books I have.

Amazon.com: Trauma-Sensitive Yoga in Therapy: Bringing the Body into Treatment (0884913857995): David Emerson, Jennifer West PhD: Books

Overcoming Trauma through Yoga: Reclaiming Your Body: David Emerson, Elizabeth Hopper, Bessel van der Kolk, Peter A. Levine, Stephen Cope: 9781556439698: Amazon.com: Books

NP_Complete · Aug 25, 2018, 12:36 AM

I bought a tent plus accoutrements today (Labor Day sale, thank you REI). If you want to rent a cabin in my part of the US you had better plan well ahead, but a lot of campsites, especially in national parks or forests, are first come, first served. Now I can escape on a whim. I hope my therapist is okay with this. I realize that a lot of my suicidal ideation is tied in with escaping to nature, but sometimes people just need to get away for a while.

unaluna · Aug 25, 2018, 01:14 AM

So my aunt called me today and i answered the phone and found out that a cousin of mine, a guy a few years younger than me (so like around 60?) is dying of brain cancer. Last time i saw him was just 3 years ago at my mothers funeral, i honestly didnt recognize him, he was sooooo handsome. Like Chris Noth beautiful. So i have to find my passport this weekend, they live in canada, just an hour away. I had a sense of impending doom yesterday, i was gonna write it down and timestamp it. I thought no, im being silly.

WarmFuzzySocks · Aug 25, 2018, 02:01 AM

NP, I hope it helps. If you’re able to go when you’re feeling safe, getting away for a while in nature can be balancing and refresh your spirit.

(Why is there no tree emoji?)

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