Couch 180:

Why not just say,

Hi, Professor Whoever,

I’m confused—I was just wondering why more assignments have been added when we now have less time to do them in?

FF

Most universities hold as sacred the right of a professor to alter their syllabus even during the semester as they determine fit, so a complaint may not go anywhere. You’re not likely to get anywhere with an anonymous complaint unless it’s a crime. Is there any sort of student ombudsperson in the administration?

Or, maybe reach out to other students in the class and see if anyone agrees with you and present a united front? If I were in her place I would not want to do more grading and depending on her level risk negative evaluations.

She has been touch and go the whole time.

Everything is going downhill today. My grandpa might be going on hospice. My parents are meeting with him and the assisted living facility tonight in an hour to discuss. Payroll processing was a pain in my side today because of a mistake made in another department. I'm half an hour away from the end of day and today my desk is swamped. I hate leaving work with an untidy desk because it makes coming in, in the morning just so much worse. My schedule is a little later than most everyone else's so people add to my pile in the morning, so if it is untidy at night, its worse in the morning. I'm worried about my Dad and how he is going to handle losing his Dad. I'm worried if the assisted living facility can't continue taking care of grandpa where he is going to go? We took Grandma in and my other Grandpa but this Grandpa no one can lift and so it would be very difficult to take care of him properly and make sure he didn't get bed sores and stuff. I'm trying not to cry at work and obviously I'm posting here instead of taking care of my untidy pile. And tonight I have to teach a class. Too much. Too much. Too much. Kit.

They have been added because there are a certain number of "classroom hours" that 3 credit courses require, as determined by the university's accrediting agency. Due to the length of the unplanned interruption of the semester, these hours cannot be recouped by cancelling planned breaks. Instead, to make up for time, faculty are supposed to create additional assignments or "instructional opportunities" to make up for the lost time.

However, as I stated before, this reasoning is only logical when there are classroom hours in the first place. Online courses have no classroom hours, so "recouping" them with extra assignments is moronic. And yes, of course professors have the right to change their syllabi. However, I can't imagine that it would be looked on very favorably to increase the workload of students unnecessarily when they will be dealing with these extra assignments in courses where the policy is actually relevant.

But deep down, all I really want is for her (or whomever is the originator of the idea) to be told she is wrong, illogical, and stupid.

I'd been wondering if stuff like that was coming up for you.

I’ve been thinking about this comment since you posted it.

Either the guy means “stop being tired” or he means “stop fighting.”

Neither seems useful from a hotline worker.

Exactomundo

"I know what I must do. it's just that... I'm afraid to do it."

Like in a "stop forcing yourself to eat" kinda way or in a paradoxical Chinese finger trap "only when you stop fighting will you be free" kinda way?

(Or perhaps neither of the above?)

Well, 3 is right around the age that they should be taking an interest. Most people push potty training a bit earlier than when the kids are cognitively and physically ready to start. Not to say there aren’t kids who haven’t been fully potty tainted by 3.. but definitely shouldn’t get pissy when a 3 year old poops themselves. I mean maybe get annoyed at the parents who haven’t changed the diaper.

Also, it’s easy to judge but there are soooo many reasons why a child is not potty trained. My son still has regular accidents at 8 years old, it’s a symptom of ASD/adhd it’s a work in progress. It’s not helpful though to have complete strangers judge me or him when it happens though.

People lack empathy these days..

Perhaps more like, "pick your fights"?

Some people get caught in a trap where they feel they have to fight absolutely every battle. That can be very tiring. On minor things, you could take the attitude, "You're wrong and you're a jerk but I have better things to worry about."

'You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.' -- Churchill.

hi couch.

Hiya Art

i feel so GD depressed today. and my left 'shift' button doesn't work, which is just highly annoying.

Okay, I made oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. Have at them, Couch.

I’ve got chocolate chip banana bread (am slowly but surely working through the collection of too-ripe-to-eat-straight-up bananas in the freezer)

Ooo. I love oatmeal cookies and banana bread.

We went to the apple orchard Sunday, so I’ve got fresh applesauce. I’ll put chocolate chips in too.

I'll never turn down an oatmeal chocolate chip cookie!!

Sister keeps ranting and dumping on me. I've suggested several times that she return to her former counsellor as she clearly is facing a lot of chronic stress. She has shifted from "I have no issues" to "Maybe I should go back for some counselling sessions to help me cope better.", which is a positive. Took more than a year, and I hope it won't be another year of singing the same tune, because she's stressing me out. I have my own poor mental health and my job is extremely stressful as well as other life issues. Her sending me 10+ messages at one go in a rant every time we communicate is really stressful though I care about her.

Oatmeal cookies and banana bread, now this is my kind of couch.

QM

2 hrs and 45mins of sleep overnight... this is not good!

The snacks brought to the couch last night sound delicious. I’m trying to be mindful of my expansing waistline, but maybe just one of those cookies won’t hurt much.

ETA: Yeah that was tasty. Thanks for breakfast. I must go to work now.

You all have a nice day.

You have to put yourself first QM. I would start taking longer to reply back to her messages so you can limit her exposure. She might not be toxic but I can get how draining supporting someone can be when You're not well. if you're used to daily messages start by taking three days then slowly increase it.

Well, Grandpa got put on hospice. The good thing is that at least for now he can stay at the assisted living facility. There was a lot of confusion regarding that. But that's his home now, so I really didn't want to see him uprooted as he gets confused enough as it is without major changes. I'm really upset about Grandpa going on hospice even though I'm not terribly close with him and have never really been. I'm surprised at all this emotion. I guess it just makes me think of my parents own mortality and how someday I'll probably be going through this with them and I don't want to. Kit.

Info ignored my email expressing my wish that she had waited a bit to deal with rescheduling when I wasn’t feeling emotional.

So I just wrote her asking for a response, pointing out she’s the one who keeps saying this is a relationship, and in a relationship I would expect my point of view to be acknowledged.

Yeah, I’m being hostile and passive-aggressive and childish and no doubt trying to start a rupture. But I’m sick of this relationship crap. If it’s a relationship, ACT like it, or admit it’s just a line you sell clients.